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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

It is not feminist to fancy evil people

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MaryHappyWin · 24/03/2021 19:39

This is an important feminist point.
It is not feminist to support every evil.
Feminism is not about freeing women to commit evil.
Just as no decent person wants every man to support evil.
It is not feminist to support abuse and violence and bullying.
Feminism is not about people supporting abusers,
It is not feminist to fancy evil people.
I think people who are attracted to evil are evil.
If someone supports evil then they are evil.
I am fed up hearing people boast about their sexual attraction to abusive evil men, as if it is something to be proud of.
People who fancy evil people are so smug about supporting abusive men, as if it is a cheeky fetish. It is not a cheeky fetish. It is supporting evil. It is making evil people win.
You cannot be a good feminist if you attracted to abusers,

bullies, rapists, gangsters, child abusers and domestic abusers.

Abusers are evil and can wreck lives with mental illness and trauma.
It is depraved, warped, twisted, trite, smug, narcissistic and selfish to be attracted to evil people.
I read someone suggest that no one should be shamed for their sexual, preferences. But I disagree with that.
There is nothing wrong with being gay or lesbian.
But people should be ashamed to be sexually attracted to evil people, as in abusers.
Supporting rapists and murderers is on the same level as being sexually attracted to child abuse.
People should be shamed for their sexual preferences if their sexual preferences make them support abusive people, out of a sexual desire for evil people.
Sexual attraction is a powerful emotion. If someone is sexually attracted to evil, then they are fundamentally evil people for finding evil sexually attractive. They are no different to child abusers, or bullies or domestic abusers. If someone supports evil then they are evil.

To fancy someone for doing evil, gives support to that evil person, it humiliates the victim. It makes the evil person win.
It is not brave, or profound or mysterious to support evil abusive people. It is cowardly, weak-minded, cliched, creepy and depraved to fancy people for abusing others.
I think many people stay with wife beaters because they are brought up to see abusive violent men as manly and sexy. That is utterly sick. We need to stop people seeing evil as manly and sexy.
Also films that support rape are evil. Films that glamorize or support rape should be banned. Anyone who supports rape is dangerous.

I remember as a child being driven at by a young man, who was accompanied by two laughing girls, as he tried to run me over.
There are tones of examples of people support their bully doing bullying.
Sexual attraction to evil is not romantic it is weak minded and creepy,
There are people who fancy abusive dangerous men, and still think they can see themselves as the voice of common sense. If you fancy abusive people, then you are motivated to support abuse and punish their victims.

I hope my view does not cause anyone any offence. I am interested to see people's replies. What do you think of my view. Should people be free to support abuse?

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NiceGerbil · 24/03/2021 22:34

Maybe we've gone off message with the evil men thing.

'Feminism is not about freeing women to commit evil.'

I think this is the OPs main point.

I wonder if OP has examples.

GlendaSugarbeanIsJudgingYou · 24/03/2021 22:35

Spojo.

It is not feminist to fancy evil people
Thelnebriati · 24/03/2021 22:35

Noooooojoooo

see what I did there?

JosieJarker · 24/03/2021 22:36

Glenda I think you might be evil Grin

TheBuffster · 24/03/2021 22:37

Agree, seriously Glenda, we didn't free you to do that evil you know.

GlendaSugarbeanIsJudgingYou · 24/03/2021 22:38

Then you mustn't fancy me!

Hard as that might be.

GlendaSugarbeanIsJudgingYou · 24/03/2021 22:38
TheBuffster · 24/03/2021 22:38

My head is so confused right now.

TheBuffster · 24/03/2021 22:39

I feel you need to do an Angel one for balance.
I nominate Gove.

GlendaSugarbeanIsJudgingYou · 24/03/2021 22:46

Angel as Gove?

It is not feminist to fancy evil people
TheBuffster · 24/03/2021 22:48

Or Cummings?
Mwah hahaha

WutheringShites86 · 24/03/2021 22:50

@TeiTetua that gave me a genuine laugh, my name probably gives away my love for the brooding Brontes.

My bad feministing has led to crushing on Ivar the Boneless on Vikings too. Despite all the murdering Shock

SunsetBeetch · 24/03/2021 22:51

@GlendaSugarbeanIsJudgingYou

Who fancies what now?
I have no idea what's going on.
It is not feminist to fancy evil people
GlendaSugarbeanIsJudgingYou · 24/03/2021 22:56

Someone grab a steak gun.

It is not feminist to fancy evil people
SunsetBeetch · 24/03/2021 23:02

Glenda! That is horrendous! Evil, even.

MY EYES!

slightlysnippy · 24/03/2021 23:03

@RufustheSniggeringReindeer Teddy Bear Spike is hilarious, that's made my night Smile

GlendaSugarbeanIsJudgingYou · 24/03/2021 23:03

I have actually never watched Buffy properly but I'm on the lookout for something to binge-watch.

Shall I give it a go?

GlendaSugarbeanIsJudgingYou · 24/03/2021 23:05

Oh, come now, Sunset.

I know you just set that as your background. 😍

SmokedDuck · 25/03/2021 00:03

@NiceGerbil

The women fancy bad boys idea is very popular in TV and films.

Men going around shooting people Willy nilly and being horrible to everyone and the female star is yay he's great.

I rewatched Indiana Jones the other day the one with the starving village. He's an absolute wanker to that woman. In real life when good looking men are absolute wankers, really nasty dickheads, their prettiness is lessened.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder etc.

Also stranger things later series.

They turned the police guy from a troubled but essentially good man into an out and out arsehole. I have no idea why. And of course the woman fancied him.
She should have gone off with the guy with the ham radio in his garage. I would have Grin

That singer though, was incredibly annoying.

The Stranger Things thing was weird. I've come to the conclusion that it was mainly bad writing, rather than anything they intended.

Regularsizedrudy · 25/03/2021 01:29

Well that was odd

PotholeHellhole · 25/03/2021 03:06

Passing over the absolute horrors on this thread, I've always been mightily irked by being told I muat fancy "bad boys".

I don't. Never have. I'm generally looking for a combination of law-abiding, sarcasm and long hair!

CathyAndCo · 25/03/2021 03:06

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Kittykat93 · 25/03/2021 06:56

Oh christ op not you again. Your last thread got deleted, wasnt it about rape not being sexy? (No one said it was). I think you need a hobby.

LalalalalalaLand123 · 25/03/2021 08:59

You what now?

TheBuffster · 25/03/2021 10:14

I feel like this point is as obvious as feminists don't centre men, but actually that might be a thread worth discussing.

Glad for this one though, I think Spike dog has completed my life.

Govgel and Sporis less so.