@CuriousaboutSamphire
Unlike others here I took a step back and decided to do that reading. I decided to look at if/why many women posting here were well ahead of me in their knowledge. And now I wonder why/how many of them have been driven away, banned, furious, silenced here, simply gone, by the relentless pestering of those who don't like what they said?
Not long ago someone on this thread posted a link claiming it demonstrated that 23 trans identified individuals charged or convicted of violent or sexual crimes including murder and rape in 2020 alone.
As it turns out not one trans identified person was convicted of rape, or sexual assault in 2020. One of the people on that list was actually only charged with stealing sandwiches from the supermarket, another for posession of Class A drugs. It would be pushing the envelope somewhat to even call some of the men on that list cross dressers never mind trans identified, unless every man who's ever tried on a pair of knickers is now claimed to be trans identified. The claim that this list represented 23 trans identified violent criminals was simply a lie, one easily refuted by following the link and yet no-one did.
Earlier in the thread we had the claim 'quite a few' attacks had been committed by trans women on other women in toilets. The truth is there is only one report of it ever happening. We've had claims like trans is the safest demographic, based on statistics that seem to be being made up on the spot when over-whelming evidence exists which shows its not true, and claims that studies (plural) have shown trans women are as violent as men when no such studies exist.
Is this what you mean be people being well ahead of you in their knoweldge? Tbh you sound like a sceptic who went on a conspiracy website and was bombarded with information and the links until you too finally saw the truth. It's not uncommon, in fact it's a normal path of radicalisation. Every conspiracy theorist ends up believing things they would have thought were complete nonsense. And once you start down that path it becomes harder and harder to believe as the misinformation has to expand to accommodate all the lies. So reading a report showing the horrifying violence trans people face will create cognitive dissonance, that can't be true, you don't want anything to do with that, you're not the type of person who picks on a marginalised group, so the report must be not just a lie, but yet more evidence of the evil trans conspiracy distorting the facts to try and gain sympathy. And so people sink deeper and deeper and normal objectivity and standards of evidence slip away because when someone's been obsessively talking utter bollocks to everyone they know for the last two years it becomes psychologically very difficult to withdraw from that. I've watched it happen to people who've got sucked into conspracy theories, I've watched their mental health and personal relationship suffer as a result and I'm sorry to say I've seen the exact same patterns of behaviour amongst the more extreme elements of the gender critical movement.