She’s not a mother - she’s non binary [eye roll]

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Sorry - ridiculous and sad.

the-motherload.co.uk/ive-given-birth-but-i-am-not-my-childrens-mother-where-do-i-belong/?fbclid=IwAR311k--soiBMnxt72quS3VhWYQsiRp1DkLIx5gY_wLKSwIJ767lWI3sonY

I hope it's someone taking the piss.
If not then they need to spend less time writing "autobiographies" and more time talking to a lovely counsellor.

@SnuggyBuggy

I hope the Stately Homes threads are still going when Boby's kids are grown up

This was exactly the thought I had. Can you imagine?

'My DSis and I had a very fraught relationship with our mother from our early childhood. She began to insist she wasn't female, despite having given birth to us in the normal way, and suddenly started getting very angry if we called her 'mamma' - she made a new rule that we had to call her 'Boby', which we didn't understand. We walked on eggshells as a result and both DSis and I have been in intensive therapy for many years.....' (continues)

You pronounce it ‘D I C K’.

It’s so common. I feel betrayed by these women.

I started following a newly diagnosed autistic woman on Instagram. I was genuinely interested in learning more about her experience. Within a couple of weeks she “came out” dramatically (and with a sigh, because she was SO TIRED of having to come out all the time) as NB. She said “I am not a woman. I have never been any kind of woman”.

She has three kids. Married to a man. Completely feminine presenting in every way. Oh, and she also said she was asexual.

I thought fuck this, and unfollowed.

Metagender? Boby? Three biographies written (self-published?) by age 27? Really?

I'm thinking troll. Or possibly undiagnosed PND.

She sounds like a nightmare, but to be fair to her she's not saying she's written three autobiographies, she's claiming to have had enough life experience by age 27 to fill up three autobiographies, which is still a risible claim, but not quite as bad as some of you have assumed.

Poor kids.

Being a good mother is about prioritising someone else's needs above your own. I'd suggest on the strength of this article that its author isn't very good at that.

In the Glasgow style, SisterWendy

eg boaby
Fits the situation quite nicely actually

@Haworthia.....wonder if it’s the same woman? Motherload (the website) may have asked for / been offered her story.

We know the overlap of autism in girls and trans/NB .

If she is autistic, it’s still not a get-out-of-jail card to excuse ridiculous ideas and messing with your kids’ heads.

What the actual fuck?

27 & already written THREE autobiographies!!!! How f-ing self-obsessed can you get?

Those poor children - they'll be dealing with their 'ME ME ITS ALL ABOUT ME' mother for the rest of their lives.

She is really struggling with fitting in at baby groups by the sound of it. I too would not be surprised if she has PND and is autistic. Validation of I am not a mother won't be helping her.

Yet here I am, with two children and a support network I have fought to find and maintain through enough struggles to write three autobiographies. A support network that is focused around motherhood. A support network that celebrates birth mothers, adoptive mothers, foster mothers, step mothers.

There is no comprehensive definition of motherhood for all
There is no one definition of motherhood, no one way to become a mother, or be a mother. No comprehensive definition that can apply to everyone and exclude no-one.

of course there is you dozy twat

I do wonder about the rising levels of leisure time corresponding with the rising levels of naval gazing bollocks.

@CatsFantastic

I do wonder about the rising levels of leisure time corresponding with the rising levels of naval gazing bollocks.

I couldn't agree more!

The status of Mother has been denigrated into the ground for so long it's not surprising there are women who want to deny they are the thing that they are.

It’s “I’m not like other girls” except this women is 27 and should therefore be long past that phase.

I can’t quite work out what I have just read...other than the most selfish thing I’ve ever seen a person write. I feel for the children a future of confusion and feeling rejection :(

Must be tortuous being 'metagender'. If a person who gives birth and cares for children is not a mother or woman, then what are they? Deep questions. Interestingly, Boby can't bring themselves (?) to join in with any groups, only non-existent, similarly gendered places will do, and they seem regretful. That exclusive, exclusionary compulsion seems to compound the overwhelming sense of isolation I get from the post. I'm also sensing a lot of fear. All self-inflicted of course, from lockdown madness no doubt, and the kids, sadly, are on the receiving end.

@Haworthia.....wonder if it’s the same woman? Motherload (the website) may have asked for / been offered her story.

We know the overlap of autism in girls and trans/NB

No, a different one!

The overlap makes perfect sense to me. I understand TOTALLY why autistic women and girls don’t feel like they fit in with their peers. If I was a teen now, I’d be all over NB and having a socially acceptable excuse not to want a boyfriend and cover myself in pounds of drag makeup every day. It’s shit.

I just wish the autistic community as a whole were more attuned to exactly WHY so many of them are trans. But purity spirals infect every community and the autistics are no exception.

(Disclaimer: I believe I’m autistic too )

Self ID motherhood. What a load of utter bollocks.

@littlbrowndog

All the lols at just call me boby.

Just made up stuff but made me have a laugh.

Boby sounds about right

chipperfish I’ve definitely been pronouncing Boby in the Glaswegian way (and quietly chuckling)