She’s not a mother - she’s non binary [eye roll]

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Sorry - ridiculous and sad.

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Some wee dude making up stuff as the dude is self isolating from school and has to do something to troll away the dull days

Poor kids

There is no one definition of motherhood, no one way to become a mother, or be a mother.

Yes, yes there is. You grow a baby in your uterus.

Everything else aside...
Three autobiographies? She's 27. How can you possibly get three autobiographies out of that?

Oh good grief
Three autobiographies by 27 ie intense navel gazing and yet she only just realised she isn’t a women a few months back when she had already birthed two kids.

And now she says being mistaken as a mother is misgendering her

Could these people get anymore self absorbed

Pillock is the word that springs to my mind.

But yes, the poor children. Imagine having that level of self-absorbed, total and utter narcissism in the person meant to be your mother. They'll have a tale and a half to unload onto the stately homes threads on here in a few decades' time.

Those poor children with such a self absorbed Boby.

To be fair she did write that the realisation came upon her in lockdown.

I must admit I had the odd moment where I wondered if I wanted to be a woman and a mother too or if I could opt out during the dark days of endless homeschooling, DH and I both wfh, everyone at home all the damn time and the resulting increase in wifework and general aggravation. And I've got a hands on DH.

She doesn't mention her partner. I wonder how he feels about his children not having a mother any more according to her.

I have cared for cuts and bruises, consoled after nightmares and chastised angry outbursts. I have bathed, brushed teeth, combed hair. But none of this makes me a mother.

True. This could be true of a father. Or an aunt or uncle, or a grandparent. Or even a teacher. But gestating them for 9 months, pushing them out of your vagina, & breastfeeding them, only mothers can do that.

So much introspection here. I wonder if this person spends as much energy on their children's emotional needs as they do on their own.

I’m going to go out on a limb here and suggest that the writer has issues.

@TorkTorkBam

There is no one definition of motherhood, no one way to become a mother, or be a mother.

Yes, yes there is. You grow a baby in your uterus.

Maybe the word should be mxther?

There nice and inclusive.

No groups for non binary parents? Oh noes!

Wow, this is the most self-centred thing I have ever read from a trans person. How dare this person gaslight their tiny children. Emotional abuse.

I don't think the author has written three autobiographies. They were expressing that they've already experienced enough so far to write three.

What the fuck did I just read?!

What toilet does she use?!

I'm not sure what she's talking about. What does she mean by a binary woman and a non-binary woman??

There seems to be no concern at all for their children and how it might affect them. Of course they don't understand why you've asked them to call you boby - nobody does!

Why ask the kids to call her/him Baby? they’re not a baby especially not to their kids.

“ Or I can stay, hoping that my history there allows me to remain. “ in another and baby group. I don’t believe a word of it.

A mother, autocorrect!

Those poor children will have a lifetime of therapy ahead of them.

Surely she means she 'chestfed' her offspring?! 🙄

I wonder how much of this is societal pressure. Mothers are pretty much told exactly how they should feel from the moment of conception, during pregnancy, that first cuddle etc etc. The message is everyone feels Y, how many times has it been read on MN "I love my children too much to do X..." the undertone being if you do X then you can't love your children. If you feel that this doesn't describe you then (in this era of everyone needing a box) you obviously can't be a mother.

Younger Mum having had a baby at 23, maybe the first in her friendship group, maybe not really carved out any job role or career, and now isn't feeling the same that everyone says she should. Instead of taking her own path, she has stuck herself in a box.