I do think there are some young women who believe there is no real difference. Weird, hard to imagine, but it seems to be what I see.
There is a bit in a C.S. Lewis book or essay (I think - I may be misremembering) where he talks about younger people being used to holding together bits of contradictory "truth" and not really expecting them to fit together - he puts this down to education, and I think he's right.
You're in Canada, right? Never went to school there but I was briefly in an American school age 8 and remember them having a book club for us, it was through one of those order a few to start with and they'll send you more monthly old school book clubs that you used to see ads for in magazines, so reading for pleasure was actively encouraged and the school was helping to facilitate it for the kids.
I think there is a lot that comes down to the teachers you happen to get. Some are great. American schools seem very variable - some are quite good and some terrible. I think here in Canada it is a little more even but still not great. Many people in education now seem to think of literature as not important or not real - it's all about STEM.
It's also that the teachers once you get to middle school are hampered by poor reading skills from primary school, so it's difficult to have the kids all reading the same book, or even similar levels of books. Or reading a lot - some are very slow. This comes down to the way they teach reading, there are many kids around 9 or 10, especially boys, who suddenly fall behind because they haven't really the skills and have been faking it. A lot of the kids I see have been memorising words and depend on pictures and such, but can't cope once they are expected to read in greater amounts or words they don't know or without visual clues. They also don't teach the mechanics of writing much now which impacts reading a lot, but no one seems to want to admit it.
A teacher who is really good can make a huge difference but some kids don't ever meet one.