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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Bunbury’s Public Service Announcement 3.1

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GirlDownUnder · 12/08/2019 13:44

The useful Bunbury Guide to Spotting Community Disruptors is constantly evolving.

The best research and advice is not to engage with community disruptors and trolls. As ever, if you suspect troll activity, report it to MNHQ.

This is a continuation of the first Public Service Announcement thread:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/womens_rights/3438714-Bunbury-s-Public-Service-Announcement-2

Thread 3 was deleted with this note from MNHQ; We're sure there will be a Bunbury 4 around soon, but we'd be grateful if we could draw a line under the issues raised in this thread if there's to be a new one.

If and when you see threads plopped into FWR, especially a curious repeat of well worn topics, maybe check for poster history before engaging.

There are a number of posts/posters/threads that are reproduced on Twitter or Facebook to foment controversy using screen shots & flagging to either MNHQ to have threads or posters deleted. Sometimes, it’s used to approach commissioning editors with ideas for articles. It’s a tiresome tactic that we’ve had several community disruptor posters who themselves post the comments that they then highlight elsewhere as purported evidence of racism, religious intolerance, anti-men sentiments, or transphobia.

Some helpful links can be found in the first posts on thread 2 (linked above) but in essence FermatsTheorem recommended “that in the absence of a block/hide poster button, I suggest the following strategy (given that you're talking to the lurkers).

Do not name check the sealion. Instead, respond to a depersonalised paraphrase:

"It is sometimes erroneously suggested that blah. Blah is wrong for the following reasons (short and pithy). If you need more information re. debunking blah, here's a link."

Then (this next step is important to combat derailment) go back up thread to the last useful contribution to the discussion, make sure you do name check that contributor, and pick up the discussion from that point.”

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zebrasdontwearbras · 01/09/2019 23:43
Tardis

My fave was always Bear but MN have added it to the list now, so everyone knows.

popehilarious · 01/09/2019 23:44

this thread is suddenly lacking a shining wit

NotTerfNorCis · 01/09/2019 23:46

a shining wit

Is that a spoonerism?

Trohmaniac · 01/09/2019 23:48

No, they're still posting on the Mhairi Black thread and - I think - name-changed on the toilet thread.

transtrendy · 01/09/2019 23:50

rude

GrinitchSpinach · 01/09/2019 23:55

One thing that took me a long time to figure out about the malignant narcissist in my life was this: ANY attention, ANY reaction was desirable and affirming to that person.

Of course s/he preferred to hear how wonderful s/he was, but if a target wasn’t willing to provide that validation then s/he was quite happy to be told s/he was in the wrong and behaving very badly. It affirmed the martyr complex in which s/he reveled.

After several years I learned that there is no positive way in which to interact with this personality type. So now I don’t. And am much happier and less stressed!

TruthOnTrial · 01/09/2019 23:55

EQ to

NotTerfNorCis · 02/09/2019 00:04

I once knew someone who was later diagnosed with NPD. His behaviour was just strange. A total dick, dishonest, arrogant, treated everyone like sh*t, but was outraged if anyone did the same to him. He really thought the rules didn't apply to him. Also craved attention, even people telling him he was a dick, which he interpreted as them secretly admiring/fancying him. He was actually quite a dangerous person and one to avoid.

Datun · 02/09/2019 00:20

Is that a spoonerism?

🤣🤣🤣

GirlDownUnder · 02/09/2019 00:23

Some of the posts on this thread are clearly bollocks.

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Oldstyle · 02/09/2019 01:10

GrinitchSpinach oh yes. Oh very yes.

2BthatUnnoticed · 02/09/2019 01:14

Agree with Grinitch and if people do want to mention the sea lion, is it best not to namecheck the sea lion? (Rhetorical!)

LangCleg · 02/09/2019 08:44

I'm still sulking that I can't do blank posts.

My TARDIS can accommodate the entire world population of sea lions.

GirlDownUnder · 02/09/2019 08:50
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GirlDownUnder · 02/09/2019 08:51

I thought I’d figured the blank post - unless I’m the only one that can see that ☝️ post, I haven’t.

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ErrolTheDragon · 02/09/2019 09:11

I can see an asterisk there on both app and browser.

WrathoSWhlttIeKIop · 02/09/2019 09:25

Gah, my finger slipped and posted unintentionally.
Now I'll just go back and lurk.

BarbaraStrozzi · 02/09/2019 09:43

Gotta try the Tardis

BarbaraStrozzi · 02/09/2019 09:43

Yay it works.

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ErrolTheDragon · 02/09/2019 09:52

No, it shows as a caret on the app. As there’s only preview in the browser it’s impossible to test what the app does non publicly.