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Banned from women-only FB group

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maet · 14/07/2019 00:47

A trans woman edited by MNHQ because OP is using second language posted in a women's only FB group wanting free emotional labour and "validation" from untrained women to help them with getting over their abusive ex boyfriend.

I stated it wasn't appropriate to ask untrained women to take on their emotional labour, especially considering what had happened to them was so traumatic (according to them they ended up in hospital), and especially not for free and suggested they seek professional help instead.

Cue trans woman and women stating I was being transphobic, and "wouldn't understand the fear a marginalised group would go through."

I was told I hadn't been through a traumatic experience before so couldn't possibly understand what the OP was going through.

I've been banned from a group specifically designed for women. Nowhere in the post did I mention anything about the OP being trans.

I am so sick of this shit. The world has gone mad.

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DecomposingComposers · 14/07/2019 17:21

Oh dear.

I think duster is having a moment.

Duster12 · 14/07/2019 17:23

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Earlywalker · 14/07/2019 17:26

duster your posting style is becoming increasingly more Male, are you projecting perhaps?

Would you like to talk about it?

Duster12 · 14/07/2019 17:28

I'll take my chances avoiding you like all other women.. cheers 👍

RosesAndRaindrops · 14/07/2019 17:38

I'll take my chances avoiding you like all other women

All other women? Hang on, you're not speaking for me, I'm not avoiding anyone

Earlywalker · 14/07/2019 17:48

I took that to mean duster avoids all woman because he doesn’t like woman?

Duster12 · 14/07/2019 18:01

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Earlywalker · 14/07/2019 18:06

I’m starting to think the ‘TRA spy’ thing is actually real and people are sent to make GC feminists look unhinged.

So sorry I doubted you all for so long.

Doyoumind · 14/07/2019 18:07

Duster I'm not convinced you're helping the OP here.

PCohle · 14/07/2019 18:09

This ridiculous harassment and name calling of women is so feminist right enough.

Earlywalker · 14/07/2019 18:19

Yep. Interesting behaviour that asking OP questions was ‘harassment’ but the way duster has behaved him/herself is ok.

Original poster
maet · 14/07/2019 18:20

Is this board always like this? I'm so confused as to what's just happened...

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Original poster
maet · 14/07/2019 18:21

I don't think Duster was ever here to help anyone, just to cause trouble. Goodnight all!

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Fraggling · 14/07/2019 18:29

Read first bit and skipped through.

This person was trying to get women in the group to meet irl?

That's pretty dodgy.

BernardBlacksWineIcelolly · 14/07/2019 18:34

Is this board always like this?

things tend to be a little weirder at the weekends

some threads get chosen for special attention and I guess you got lucky. Sorry about that. Others where the points that seem so close to some posters hearts are harder to make, like the Laurel Hubbard one, or the Canadian Ball Waxer thread tend to get left alone.

BernardBlacksWineIcelolly · 14/07/2019 18:37

a friend of mine is part of a women's entrepeneur's group. They had a male attend who spent a great deal of time when they should have been pushing their business telling the women in the group about the discrimination they had faced. Leaving the women with faces like this

Confused

so I am not astonished by this story

PCohle · 14/07/2019 18:48

Others where the points that seem so close to some posters hearts are harder to make, like the Laurel Hubbard one, or the Canadian Ball Waxer thread tend to get left alone.

Posters feel differently about entirely different issues. Shocking.

The waxer didn't want to wax a transwoman's penis. I absolutely support her right to refuse. The women in tech group do want to allow a transwoman to post in their group. I absolutely support their right to allow that.

Rufusthebewilderedreindeer · 14/07/2019 18:55

The women in tech group do want to allow a transwoman to post in their group

Nice spin

DecomposingComposers · 14/07/2019 18:56

The waxer didn't want to wax a transwoman's penis. I absolutely support her right to refuse. The women in tech group do want to allow a transwoman to post in their group. I absolutely support their right to allow that.

Absolutely.

Fraggling · 14/07/2019 18:57

Balls not penis.

I read that the person wanted to meet up with women from the group, irl.

That is dodgy as fuck, surely.

BernardBlacksWineIcelolly · 14/07/2019 18:58

Nice spin

it's been all about the round and round this weekend hasn't it? I think 2 threads have maxed out

Datun · 14/07/2019 18:58

The women in tech group do want to allow a transwoman to post in their group. I absolutely support their right to allow that.

So did the OP.

Rufusthebewilderedreindeer · 14/07/2019 18:58

That is dodgy as fuck, surely

Definitely!

RosesAndRaindrops · 14/07/2019 19:06

The women in tech group do want to allow a transwoman to post in their group

Nice spin

How was is it a spin? The FB group clearly WERE OK with a transwoman posting in their group, it's not spinning anything to state that Confused.
I mean they let transwomen join, they obviously don't mind them posting too as let her post stand.

DecomposingComposers · 14/07/2019 19:10

I read that the person wanted to meet up with women from the group, irl.

Where does it say that?

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