If you could chose sex from birth would you live as a man?

[habobobo]

I realised almost every bad or difficult thing thats happened to me personally most likely wouldn't happen to a guy. So if could chose, I think I would probably chose to live life as a man. This makes me a bit sad.

How about you guys?

None of the things that have happened to me have happened to my brother or partners, but even so, I wouldn't want to be a man.
If I were a man imagine how hard I'd have to work to just not be an entitled shit.

Most likely yes.

Nope. Men mess the world up. Don't want to be part of that.
I want women to get a better deal.

@spartacus

oops, no!

Yes. I would love to be bigger, stronger and have guaranteed orgasms from sex.
I have always wanted to be male actually, from when I was a child and saw that boys seemed to get a better deal. I'm not Trans though.

Tempting, but no. For me, being a mother has been wonderful and close as a father can be, it wouldn’t be the same.

@missillusioned

Yeas I was a tomboy until puberty, and then everything took turn for the worst

God no.

We are the real thing, I'm afraid

they ain't!

Only to see if all men can't aim properly or whether it's just the men in my house.

Assuming I lived in a 20th/21st century liberal democracy (therefore protected from the worst excesses of patriarchy)- no, I wouldn't. I like my body and enjoy what it has done and can do. I enjoy the solidarity and companionship of women.

@any

Oooh good point!

I'm having second thoughts now re the mothering thing

Hmm was going to say yes definitely though I do agree with the mother/child closeness.

Overall though I’d say yes I would rather be a man. I think it’s easier to change things if you’re on the inside/have more power. But of course if I was a man I’d probably be blind to male privilege so I wouldn’t want to change things. I’d like to be a man but with my current brain/knowledge.

No. Women rock. Men quite frankly don’t. So no even with the shitty end of the stick I wouldn’t change who I am.

That said, some AWA once started an article with a question about whether the reader would live the rest of their life as the opposite sex for a million pounds.

It was intended as a rhetorical question. The reader was meant to exclaim that of course they wouldn’t and realise all of a sudden that being trans was so oppressive that nobody would choose it unless they had to.

But I’m afraid I read it and thought: “Take testosterone, get its confidence boost, grow muscles and a deep voice and suddenly get more respect? Have my uterus and ovaries removed? And my breasts too AND on top of that, someone’ll give me a million pounds?

HELL YES!

Ooh good question. Yes I probably would be a man if I actually weighed it up. I think I would have had confidence to make more of my life.

But at the same time, my god I loved carrying and giving birth to my daughter, I love that I’m the only person she genuinely wants when she feels at her most vulnerable, and I do also love, if I’m honest, being small and feminine at times.

I just asked DH this question and he said he would definitely be a man...because he can pee standing up! There’s the opinion of someone who’s never thought about or experienced sex based prejudice or oppression!

No - similar to newtlover.

But I know I'm fortunate to never have suffered any significant discrimination or harassment, and can understand why some might feel differently.

missi not completely guaranteed!

I like being a woman, and that's included being a tomboy and not bothered about performing femininity. I enjoy the freedoms of that, I enjoy relationships with other women, I enjoy the culture of women.

Would I like to identify out of the oppression bits of existing in this biology? Yes. That's what I'd like. I'd have liked not to have been repeatedly sexually harassed and assaulted from the age of eight onwards for owning female biology near a male who felt entitled to it. I'd have liked the same career opportunities as less talented and qualified members of my degree class who owned a penis. I'd like to be allowed to openly be homosexual without people with penises feeling entitled to make my body and sexuality all about meeting their needs. I'd like to feel that I wasn't viewed as part of a lesser class by our very broken political system.

But I'd like that while still keeping the biology please.

siglingor well generally more likely 😂

Fuck no. How boring.

No way! Even though I grumble continually about the patriarchy. Women rock.

Logically yes because men do have it easier and sexism gets tiring and frustrating. But in reality, no. Despite all the shit we put up with, I genuinely love being a woman. I love female solidarity and companionship and I just have a very strong gut attachment to being female. I think we're great

I woukd like to live as a person in a world with other people.