If you could chose sex from birth would you live as a man?

[habobobo]

I realised almost every bad or difficult thing thats happened to me personally most likely wouldn't happen to a guy. So if could chose, I think I would probably chose to live life as a man. This makes me a bit sad.

How about you guys?

It's a very common arguments by MRAs that women are privileged because they are more likely to be able to have casual sex.

The MRAs seem to envy this (and I wouldn't be surprised to see a slight causal link between this belief, and the number of middle-aged men deciding they are really women).

The fact is, women are far more at risk of sexual violence than men - and any sexual encounter with a stranger - or in fact any man - can go badly wrong for them.

I enjoy being a woman. If I could choose again I'll be a woman again.

It's a very common arguments by MRAs that women are privileged because they are more likely to be able to have casual sex.

On an interesting side-note, we are seeing an increasing number of women on the web exhibiting incel-like behaviour; except instead of complaining about a lack of sex (as incels do), they complain about not being able to find relationships. Just as incels argue that women can have sex whenever they want, these women argue that men can have relationships whenever they want, and that it's far easier to find a relationship with a woman than vice versa.

The fact is, women are far more at risk of sexual violence than men - and any sexual encounter with a stranger - or in fact any man - can go badly wrong for them.
As I explained in a previous comment, a sexual encounter can also go badly wrong for men. The only difference is that men won't be the victims of sexual violence in these cases; they will be the victims of general violence, and could find themselves in hospital with fractures and bleeding.

What on earth sexual encounters are you even talking about..? What heterosexual sex encounters are landing men in hospital?

Men who have sex with men do run a risk of finding someone stronger than them who overpowers them physically or rapes them, but the chances of a man being physically overwhelmed by a female sexual partner are completely negligible, unless he's unusually short and weak and sleeping with a 6ft female Olympian.

Men do not fear violence or rape in their sexual encounters with women. At all.

they will be the victims of general violence, and could find themselves in hospital with fractures and bleeding.

After sex with a woman? Rubbish.

I can show you several high profile cases of women who have been killed by men, whose defence is "sex game gone wrong".

What on earth sexual encounters are you even talking about..? What heterosexual sex encounters are landing men in hospital?

Men who have sex with men do run a risk of finding someone stronger than them who overpowers them physically or rapes them, but the chances of a man being physically overwhelmed by a female sexual partner are completely negligible, unless he's unusually short and weak and sleeping with a 6ft female Olympian.

Are you serious? If you have male friends, you should have heard about these risks.

If you meet someone anonymously, you don't know who's in her home. It could be just her, but there could also be a massive guy who beats you up and takes your money.

It doesn't matter how big or strong you are either; you could be a 6'5'' body builder, but if you're attacked by 3 tracksuit-wearing yobs wielding knives, you're never going to be able to fight them off.

Men do not fear violence or rape in their sexual encounters with women. At all.

Half right. I don't fear rape, but I definitely fear violence. When I meet people for sex, there are precautions I take to make sure I'm not walking into a dingy apartment where some chav is going to beat me senseless. There are plenty of times when I've decided not to meet someone due to a potential risk of violence.

After sex with a woman? Rubbish.

I never said after sex with a woman.

Good grief, what are you on about dwat? "Three tracksuit wearing yobs with knives" ?? I don't know what "sexual encounters" you're into personally - but this really is not a big risk for men in general.

So you fear male violence, dwatsuts, from other men. Join the bloody club. Do you think being the "beautiful woman" you said you wished you were at the beginning of this thread would protect you from that? (hint: it wouldn't).

Are you talking about....pimps...dwatsut? Lovely.

"Three tracksuit wearing yobs with knives" ?? I don't know what "sexual encounters" you're into personally

I don't know what's difficult to understand about this. I'm not saying that the sexual encounter per se is violent; I'm saying that the prospect of sex, all too often, is used to lure men into dangerous situations. We don't know whether the prospect of sex is legitimate or not because we do not have psychic powers.

You can meet a nice woman online, but the profile may be fake and it may be a man behind the profile picture, luring you into a trap. You could meet a nice woman at the bar, but again, she could be working with a gang who will attack you.

but this really is not a big risk for men in general.

It's unusual, but it happens frequently enough for it to be a concern.

There are precautions I take when meeting someone new. For example, if I met a woman on a dating website, I would only meet her in a public place, and I would tell someone else where I am. When I went to meet a friend overseas who I had been talking to online for years, I told someone else exactly where I was going and to check up on me to make sure I was OK... in this case, I was meeting a man and it was just for friendship so it wasn't sex related, but I would have taken the exact same precautions if it had been a woman. In another case, I was going to meet a woman for sex, but declined because I knew nothing about her and there was no air of legitimacy around her online profile, so it could have been anyone when I walked into her apartment... a gang of yobs, who knows.

I don't know why this myth persists that all men are 6'5'' muscle men who are never attacked because everyone is afraid of them. All people are at risk of violence, and it's important we all be careful. My mum always told me to be careful when going out, when meeting new people, etc... wise words.

Most women wouldn't demean and dehumanise a sexual partner as 'some chav'.

The violence isn't coming from a sexual partner.

The violence is coming from someone else who used the prospect of sex to lure a victim into a dangerous situation.

... why is this difficult to understand... ... ...?

So you fear male violence, dwatsuts, from other men.

DING DING DING! Someone gets it!

Do you think being the "beautiful woman" you said you wished you were at the beginning of this thread would protect you from that? (hint: it wouldn't).

I didn't say that.

I said that violence affects men too, and that all men take precautions when meeting new people for sex. Talk to your male friends, they will tell you about precautions they take when pursuing sex.

Sexual violence affects far more women than men, but all other kinds of violence affect far more men than women.

Honestly, I don't think it's wise for anyone to meet a stranger for sex.

Indeed.

Although women can proposition their male friends, who they know well and trust, for sex. You can also gauge which men are potentially violent by talking to female friends who have previous experience with the same man.

As a man, I would never proposition my female friends... I wouldn't risk damaging my casual friendships and I know they are going to say no.

How could you dehumanise a prospective sexual partner as 'some chav' though.

Josepheen.

A man who pretends to be a woman online and beats you up after you foolishly agreed to go to his apartment is not a prospective sexual partner.

MRAs - making out women have it easier because they can "get sex easier" since 1976. With no awareness of why some women might be wary of casual sex with a man they don't know - but when that's pointed out - well, she can proposition male friends!! Woo. Hoo. Tiresome.

I thought you were talking about 'some chav' you had arranged to meet for sex and the possibility that she may attack you.

Women dont attack men... or at least, it's rare.

but when that's pointed out - well, she can proposition male friends!! Woo. Hoo.

Yeah.

Why not?

I would shag my female friends if they wanted to. I dont have any real female friends though, they are all just acquaintances.

I dont have any real female friends though...
You do surprise me.................