Why are women being guilt tripped into looking after mens testicles?

[QuentinWinters]

Just saw this advert. I am quite irked. Women are constantly getting pressure for smears, mammograms, and we should check our boob regularly or we will DIE and it will be our own fault.

Why are are we now also getting guilt tripped into taking responsibility for mens testicles?

Surely most men play with their wangs enough to spot changes. How about they grow up and go to the doctor themselves, without needing mummy to sort it for them?

I doubt very much there are ads in mens loos asking them to check their partners boobs and nag them to go to the doctor if something changes.

And let's not even mention that the poster is pink.

Seriously. Just

You’d think checking would make a difference

Ive no idea of the stats..but it makes sense

Which plonker from another thread recently was saying MRA ideology was the same as feminist theory and we foolish witchy women would know that if we'd done our due diligence and reported for duty observing MRA fora?

Cos can I just say to them: What would be the point? They splatter this board, that supposedly for feminists, every single fucking day. We can't miss the fuckers even if we try.

lang

There was a recent poster taking about about FWR regulars looking at incel/MRA boards

Was that the thread you are talking about

As an aside, I recently had surgery, so I couldn't do the school run for a few weeks and man alive, you'd think my husband had split the atom.

I would like to see the research evidence that shows that women (or men) checking their partners testicles on a monthly basis either increases early detection or reduces mortality from testicular cancer.

The evidence is that more frequent checking of balls leads to earlier detection.

No they mean actual evidence

Written down

From an actual professional

(Personally it makes sense that it would make a difference)

I also have an anecdote.

I have also seen health messages in clinical settings like GP surgeries and hospitals.

Is this thread on FWR

Cos they like their evidence ...actual evidence

Which plonker from another thread recently was saying MRA ideology was the same as feminist theory

Who said that? I didn't say that.

I said MRAs and GC feminists are both critical of transgenderism (for want of a better word), and that the transgender movement has absolutely 0 to do with MRAs. Go and read the thread again.

I only have anecdotes myself

I have also seen health messages in clinical settings like GP surgeries and hospitals

Yes ive seen that

Our surgery had that beaver/diva poster. Lots of people over 50 so im not sure t many people knew what a beaver is. And not being American either

I said MRAs and GC feminists are both critical of transgenderism (for want of a better word), and that the transgender movement has absolutely 0 to do with MRAs. Go and read the thread again.

Oh. It was you, was it? Colour me shocked.

This thread is like Old Skool FWR. Circa 2014.

Did anybody even know what an Incel was then? I certainly didn't.

This thread is like Old Skool FWR. Circa 2014.

It really is!

Did men pitch up and tell women they were wrong then too?

I'm still roffling at 'Why would you assume this ad wasnt aimed at gay men?' 'Because it was in the female loos'

See, some of us actually still understand the concept of men not being allowed in women's loos.

Men have never not told women they are wrong. It's part of the charm.

@MenuPlant

Why? Feminists are a sub set of women. Lots of women are feminists. Don't get this comment. It's it because feminists are supposed to be lesbians? Too ugly to shag? Happy for men including their partners to die from preventable diseases? Some combination of the above? OR as its pink its only aimed at feminine women? That seems odd. Testicular cancer isn't more prevalent in the partners of feminine women is it? Leaving aside the fact that feminine =/= pink a lot of the time...

Ummm no merely that feminists as a sub set of women do not generally appreciate being made to feel responsible for men. However there may be a sub set of women who might be inclined to check, and if there are and they happen to have a partner who is lax in that regard it might save some lives and save some pennies if a cancer is caught sooner rather than later. In which case good job.

It’s not as if these are the only PSAs out there. I recall one fronted by Bill Bailey encouraging men to check themselves. Nobody is forcing you to check anything by the way and if some hapless man doesn’t bother to check himself and dies that’s on him. If however a few lives are saved then that’s a positive.

I’ve been posting here for many years and I am not in the habit of using pejoratives to describe feminists, not that I would consider a lesbian remotely negative I have a few lesbian friends. I abhor ad-hominems. Anyone I interact with has my respect until proven otherwise by their own behaviour. There is nothing inherently wrong with feminism to me so if you drew some veiled insult in my comment I apologise.

It seems to come from a good place and men are lot more likely than women to put there heads in the sand and ignore health issues. Of course I know they shouldn’t but they do.

If you want to get upset about this then do so. It’s not compulsory. Fuck husbands and your children’s fathers.

Do you know what is hard to check, that it would be much easier for a partner to do? Trauma caused by vaginal birth. DH was sitting beside me during the birth of DD2 and while the midwife stitched me up after and she explained to me what she was doing.
It would have been useful if, when finished, she'd said to him, right come here and look closely from this angle. This is the bruised bit and it's going to look worse tomorrow. This is the abraded bit. Here's the start and finish of the suture line. It was a second degree tear so about this deep. Can you see the knot here? There's a little bit of overlap here but it shouldn't gape here, OK? Check every day for the next 2 weeks.

NOPE. No way is the NHS and society in general going to expect men to actually look closely at their partners' battered vulvas. Yukketty yuk yuk. The poor men have to have sex with these women in future, how can they possibly enjoy fun sexy times ever again if they have to actually look at the unsexy damage birth caused to their partners? It's not even as if the midwives have the decency to wax and bleach everything, trim the inner labia and silicone inject the outer while they're at it to make it all pretty for the men so of course nobody expects the man to look at a vulva in it's (gulp) post-birth damaged and repaired state.

These posts are when I realise I really am the enemy of many women. What the fuck is there to get upset about? Wife work? It’s not a legal requirement to check people’s balls so you don’t have to. Do it or don’t do it. As people have said it’s often easier for a second party to distinguish a problem rather than the affected bloke but it’s not compulsory. Just don’t do it rather than whinge. I usually agree with most of the feminist issues on here but this complaint seems to be completely churlish. You’re entitled to your opinion so coolio. Don’t try to speak on everyone else’s behalf as many women here find this ridiculous

Caucho don't you realise that this sort of thing is contributing to sexism as a whole? It's the sneaking, constant inference that women are there for the convenience of men.

The MESSAGE is there whether most people realise it or not and that just compounds the many issues we have already.

"Don't do it rather than whinge" isn't helping with the fact that we shouldn't be fucking TOLD to do it in the first place!

As for "don't try to speak on everyone else's behalf" you can piss right off. I'm GLAD there are people out there speaking on my behalf and on women everywhere's behalf. if you're so ignorant you don't see the problems, well you're a victim of the shite we've all been fed for so long and you of all people NEED the speaking up.

I don't see the problem. It used to be recommended here for men to check their partners breasts for lumps and its not uncommon for men to notice them in their partners before the women themselves do. I'd have thought that was where the idea came from though perhaps that wasn't promoted elsewhere.

Really, most women love their partners and are probably happy enough to help out if it is good for their health. I suspect many men wouldn't ask though.

I’m afraid I didn’t see that posted as being TOLD it’s a suggestion nothing more than that. The point I think I can get on board with is men being prompted to have more concern for the health of their partners. If there is an imbalance here it’s that.

Thought this was about JY. It seems women in Canada are not merely guilt tripped into dealing with testicles (on pain of being called “transphobic”) but legally required to. So little respect for women as individuals with agency over there own bodies. It’s awful.

The sign is annoying - “come on little wifey, hop to it!”