Why are women being guilt tripped into looking after mens testicles?

[QuentinWinters]

Just saw this advert. I am quite irked. Women are constantly getting pressure for smears, mammograms, and we should check our boob regularly or we will DIE and it will be our own fault.

Why are are we now also getting guilt tripped into taking responsibility for mens testicles?

Surely most men play with their wangs enough to spot changes. How about they grow up and go to the doctor themselves, without needing mummy to sort it for them?

I doubt very much there are ads in mens loos asking them to check their partners boobs and nag them to go to the doctor if something changes.

And let's not even mention that the poster is pink.

Seriously. Just

Stamping your foot and folding your arms saying "he can do it himself!" is not a constructive attitude towards a relationship.

Interesting you see women refusing to take on blanket responsibilities for male partners and pointing out the sexism and inequality inherent in it as

a) childish and you feel the need to belittle it as 'foot stamping'

and b) that women should be more concerned about ensuring the constructiveness of the relationship than about equality and womenwork and sexism.

Says a lot.

Read around here and the relationships board some more. Sometimes a clear boundary of 'he can do that himself' is one of the most constructive things a woman can do in a relationship.

You'll notice it coming up a lot when women are considering leaving a relationship that they're not happy or satisfied in and are realising they are allowed to do this if they want to. Despite a lifetime of socialised programming.

You might also want to think about how it comes across on a women's rights specific board when someone explains he's male and proceeds to tick women off for their poor attitude.

1. It is in the ladies toilet.

It could appear in other places too.

2. It’s pink, sadly we still have pink for females and blue for males.

If we're going to play stereotypes, then pink is also stereotypically associated with gay men.

Yes it could appear in other places

It hasnt

Its just in the ladies loo

Hence the people that use the ladies loos getting a bit pissed off that its aimed at ladies

Due to the fact that its in the ladies loo

I am however loving the fact that someone who unfortunately (and i mean that nicely...its honestly a shame) hasnt yet been in a relationship

Is lecturing people about their relationships

You might also want to think about how it comes across on a women's rights specific board when someone explains he's male and proceeds to tick women off for their poor attitude.

Anyone with a flippant attitude towards the health of their loved ones is a really pathetic individual. Anyone with a flippant attitude towards the health of their partner does not truly love that person, and should not be in a relationship with them. Break up with them and move on.

By the way, it's not just the attitude of women towards men. This problem is gender neutral. Have you ever gotten angry at a man who scoffed at the idea of period poverty? That's the same damn thing; a flippant attitude towards the health and well-being at others. So are you saying people should NEVER care about the well-being of others, or have you specifically cherry-picked this one case just because it's an example of women having to actually show they care about their loved ones?

Hence the people that use the ladies loos getting a bit pissed off that its aimed at ladies

Due to the fact that its in the ladies loo

There are adverts in the men's toilets saying to use a condom or risk catching an STI. I don't go online and rant about a supposedly sexist advert which says men are irresponsible. It's a gender-neutral message (condoms are for the well-being of both men and women), so I thought nothing of it.

No ones ranting

You need to chill mate

By the way, as for a hypothetical advert asking men to check women's boobs... no doubt, you would be ranting about too, saying that it's not the role of men to inspect and examine women's bodies.

But sure, just cherry-pick what you get angry about.

Condom adverts are in the ladies as well

And adverts about staying safe

Lots of adverts

Condom adverts are in the ladies as well

Because the message is gender-neutral.

Ding ding ding! You got it.

So are you saying people should NEVER care about the well-being of others, or have you specifically cherry-picked....

Mhm.

And moving on.

The use of the "keep calm and..." phrase is reason enough to hate this.

Will it ever fucking end?

dwat

Ahh fuck it...gloves off

The whole fucking point of the entire fucking thread is that the advert every other fucker on here is talking about

ISNT GENDER NEUTRAL

do you get it

Ding ding ding

I dont know why i said that

You obviously dont get it

The whole fucking point of the entire fucking thread is that the advert every other fucker on here is talking about

It could be. Being in the women's toilets doesn't mean it's for women specifically. Plenty of gender neutral adverts are displayed in the toilets. This advert would be applicable to gay men if it was in a place where they could see it.

Even if it was specifically targeted to women...
... then it's a completely legitimate advert and it is expected for people to look after their partners. If having to show care for your partner makes you angry enough to post on mumsnet about it, then your partner is not loved and it's time to break up. It does make me scratch my head when people who have been in relationships for so long struggle to even understand the basics.

Being in the ladies loo absolutely means its aimed at women

YOU missed the fact that it was in a ladies loo...fess up, its not a problem, i had to check

Something in a ladies loo is aimed at women

For example...tampax machine, im betting you've not spotted that in the gents. They can be found in the ladies loo...where women hang
out

Im not an expert on gay clubs, but i am fairly sure you wont spot a tampax machine in the gents

And whatever flippent comments people make on here means fuck all in the terms of a relationship in real life

I am a little surprised that you feel because I believe that dh is perfectly capable of checking his own balls that i should divorce him

If its any consolation i did text ds1 and his boyfriend immediately

Something in a ladies loo is aimed at women

As I explained in my previous post, plenty of gender-neutral adverts are placed in gender-specific toilets.

For example...tampax machine, im betting you've not spotted that in the gents.

Sometimes gender-specific items are placed in gender-specific toilets. This does not mean that gender-neutral adverts are never placed in gender-specific toilets, and implying otherwise is a logical fallacy. The advert is gender-neutral because while the ball-haver is definitely male ("his" balls), the gender of the person doing the checking is ambiguous.

I am a little surprised that you feel because I believe that dh is perfectly capable of checking his own balls that i should divorce him

Why can't you help DH with his health too, and why can't he help you with your health?

If I ever have a relationship, I will be sure to do whatever I can to help her... you know, something a normal partner would do.

You’re funny dwatsuts

I hope you find someone who loves you very very much

And you win the prize for squeezing the most ‘gender’ into a paragraph

You also wouldn’t notice logic if it smacked you round the head

But i still hope you find someone lovely

I would like to see the research evidence that shows that women (or men) checking their partners testicles on a monthly basis either increases early detection or reduces mortality from testicular cancer.

Otherwise this campaign is just a load of balls!

What's truly cringe-inducing is that I'm a guy who has never had a relationship, and yet, I seem to have a better understanding of this issue than many people in this thread.

Oh dear, this isn't going to end well

What's truly cringe-inducing is that I'm a guy who has never had a relationship, and yet, I seem to have a better understanding of this issue than many people in this thread.

There's a lesson in there somewhere love.

I would like to see the research evidence that shows that women (or men) checking their partners testicles on a monthly basis either increases early detection or reduces mortality from testicular cancer.

I know this is anecdotal, a few years ago my GPs surgery had a campaign on their big screens that early detection reduces the mortality rate by a massive amount (like prostate cancer), as both have very few early symptoms, a lump being most common. My GP is brilliant at having targeted campaigns though, both for men and women. Current one is for smears.