Why are women being guilt tripped into looking after mens testicles?

[QuentinWinters]

Just saw this advert. I am quite irked. Women are constantly getting pressure for smears, mammograms, and we should check our boob regularly or we will DIE and it will be our own fault.

Why are are we now also getting guilt tripped into taking responsibility for mens testicles?

Surely most men play with their wangs enough to spot changes. How about they grow up and go to the doctor themselves, without needing mummy to sort it for them?

I doubt very much there are ads in mens loos asking them to check their partners boobs and nag them to go to the doctor if something changes.

And let's not even mention that the poster is pink.

Seriously. Just

'Dribbling rant'

I think we may be being too overly women focused and honest here for someone's comfort.

I can just see it now...

Keep
Calm
and
Check
Her
Boobs

Dribbling rant pan you really don't like women expressing their opinions do you? If you want to be a patronising offensive arse, AIBU is that way >>.

No need to feel sorry for any of us here, btw. Why don't you reserve your sorry feelings for the men who need women to "send them" to the doctor as though they aren't intelligent or responsible enough to take care of their own health?

I sure as hell won't be checking my DH's balls on a monthly basis and "sending" him anywhere. He is a grown man well able to undertake these tasks himself. Luckily he also isn't the type of man to be rude and patronising to women who state they believe men are capable of this without assistance from someone of the female sex.

Dribbling rant 😁

Fuck me! Men run the world (mostly), if they don't want to die of preventable diseases they need to take responsibility for their own health.

So now we have posters up in women's bogs telling us that if we get raped on a night out it is our fault, and if our male partner gets testicular cancer it is our fault.

Are these posters put up in gay bars, the testicular cancer ones?

Were you dribbling menu

Enquiring minds want to know

I prefer this approach aimed directly at men!

The poster says to get to know 'his' (whose?) balls and check them monthly, and send him to the doctor if you notice a change during the monthly check.

That is completely different from saying to people in general to say or do something if they notice any differences either way during sex, or to tell a person to check themselves regularly.

OK having said that, one of my best friend had breast cancer and it was her husband who found the lump.

Two things - when I was at secondary school - we are talking nearly 30 years ago in Canada, teenage boys and girls were shown how to check for testicular cancer, and teenage boys and girls were shown how to check for breast cancer. Would that be a good proposal? Is that acceptable?

I think the poster is the wrong message, but if I'd find a lump in dh's balls, I'd tell him no?

I’m not sure feminists are the demographic that ad is aimed at.

After a quick google I think the attached image is the one i have seen, or if not it is very similar

As for women being under “constant pressure” for mammograms and smears, that seems a deliberately obstructive point of view.
I’ve never felt pressurised to have these free , life saving investigations.

After a quick google I think the attached image is the one i have seen, or if not it is very similar

That's a private artist. Show me where she's been commissioned to display this art work in men's spaces by any public health org in the UK.

There are no such public health campaigns funded by health authorities or cancer charities in the UK.

Posters encouraging male partners to check the breasts of their female partners and making sure that they make a GP appointment are not seen in UK hospitals, doctors surgeries, libraries or any other public space. I very much doubt you have seen any in the men's toilets. I fear, Simon, you may have imagined it.

I’ll put money on those posters not being in the gents simon

I’d never get dh off me if he was under doctors orders

In my house, it would go like this: husband checks his own balls, I check my own breasts. Should either of us find a lump, which so far and thank heavens we haven't, we'd likely shout for the other one, get them to cop a feel and if they also thought there was a lump, we'd ring the GP and make an appointment. Then shit our partnered-up pants.

This is not that. This is a sexist poster making the assumption that women are the caretakers responsible for the health of their partners.

oh this is horrendous

it reminds me of a colleague from another country saying their "don't drink & drive" ads focused on women checking male drivers weren't drunk. I just don't have arrrgggggggggggggghs.

I can’t ask dh to check for lumps

He is easily distracted and would forget what he was looking for

Plus he would think was a trap

LangCleg + if noticed anything at any time on own or partners body then say / do something!

'I’m not sure feminists are the demographic that ad is aimed at.'

Why? Feminists are a sub set of women. Lots of women are feminists. Don't get this comment. It's it because feminists are supposed to be lesbians? Too ugly to shag? Happy for men including their partners to die from preventable diseases? Some combination of the above? OR as its pink its only aimed at feminine women? That seems odd. Testicular cancer isn't more prevalent in the partners of feminine women is it? Leaving aside the fact that feminine =/= pink a lot of the time...

Google tells me gay men twice as likely to die of testicular cancer.

Why not focus there?

Well known men who are in married type relationships with women are healthier than single or gay men. This ad then feels quite thoughtless from additional angles.

Patronising nonsense that infantalises men and places yet another thing on women to be responsible for.
DH hates this shit, along with other things that position men as silly little man babies who can't function as an adult.

send him to his GP immediately

Then slap his legs and put him on the naughty step for not thinking to check them himself.

I just went looking for breast cancer ads aimed at men and found PornHub’s vomit inducing “Save the boobs” campaign where they graciously offer to donate money for every view of their “big tits” or “small tits” category during the month of October. There’s also a charming soft pornography scene in a shower which I think is meant to demonstrate how to check breasts for lumps but only gets as far as sensually rubbing herself while a breathy voiceover ‘explains’ what to do.

Presumably if a woman needs a mastectomy as part of the process of treatment she can go fuck herself. It’s save the boobs, remember, not save her life?

So yes, there is apparently content out there aimed at men, but I’d really rather there wasn’t tbh.

Well known men who are in married type relationships with women are healthier than single or gay men

What...why?

Is that a thing? I need to tell ds1

I find the language crass but see no issue in taking care of one another and raising it if something doesn't feel right.