Why are women being guilt tripped into looking after mens testicles?

[QuentinWinters]

Just saw this advert. I am quite irked. Women are constantly getting pressure for smears, mammograms, and we should check our boob regularly or we will DIE and it will be our own fault.

Why are are we now also getting guilt tripped into taking responsibility for mens testicles?

Surely most men play with their wangs enough to spot changes. How about they grow up and go to the doctor themselves, without needing mummy to sort it for them?

I doubt very much there are ads in mens loos asking them to check their partners boobs and nag them to go to the doctor if something changes.

And let's not even mention that the poster is pink.

Seriously. Just

The irony is that feminists are less likely to infantilise men like this, as we believe they are fully capable of checking their own bollocks without requiring assistance (or passing the responsibility!) someone with XX chromosomes, surely?

It's even more ironic that a man has turned up to take offence, and patronise women who believe this to be true

I find the poster extremely annoying, the 'keep calm and carry on' thing is about doing your duty and serving your country (the highest authority-the state) in a time of crisis.
So here women are framed as loyal servants expected to dutifully put aside self interest and do the right thing for our overlords

but they've made it pink so we dont notice the underlying meaning because when we see pink we think there must be some kind of empowering feminist message

Right ive texted ds1 and his partner

I can’t ask dh to check for lumps He is easily distracted and would forget what he was looking for
then how does he manage to function or get anything done with his goldfish style attention span?

As long as my tits aren't in his hands its all good

Fully functioning member of society and all that

you really don't like women expressing their opinions do you?

Ah yes, I dissagree with a poster so it must be because she is a women and not because she is posting nonsense.

How unromantic - am I supposed to surreptitiously check for cancer while DTD or actually perform regular medical exams on him while he stands like lord of the manor (and then undoubtedly wants to continue the fondling)?

Gross

pink for emPowerment because we feel so empowered at being granted the honor of serving our country by examining testicles

I check mine once a week. Don't need anyone else to do it for me and the posters are not needed. Surprised they didn't put on there for women to prostate check too

Many men never check their bits, the rates of testicular cancer would fall massively, the amount of men checking their prostate is significantly less than even that. Men are idiotic and need to take more responsibility.

If DP noticed something she'd say, just as me in reverse, obviously.

Oh lord.

I have no problem with encouraging people to look after each other and to generally keep an eye out for changes but this makes to sound like it’s a job for women to do.

And yes, I notice this is ‘men’, not testicle havers.

Rufus - at a population level

www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-13295300
www.nhs.uk/news/medical-practice/health-services-failing-gay-and-bisexual-men/

It is known that men who are married (not sure if just to women and presume married type relationships count as well) are happier and healthier than single men. And that women who are partnered up in het relationships are less happy. Not sure if less healthy...

Certainly it's true that lots of men are "looked after" by their wives / female partners (eg getting them to go to doc) which is what this advert is trying to appeal to - I'm not sure if this dynamic is the same in gay marriages. Society expects women to look after men and women do it. It would be interesting to know if the protective thing (for men) is the relationship or having a woman running around after them. Certainly a lot of het relationships have a certain dynamic - it's on MN relationships board all day every day. I would hope that gay / lesbian relationships are more equal.

In short gay men are more at risk of this disease and I'm going to have a look and see if they have anything targeting that group or if they are sticking to telling women off.

"Two things - when I was at secondary school - we are talking nearly 30 years ago in Canada, teenage boys and girls were shown how to check for testicular cancer, and teenage boys and girls were shown how to check for breast cancer. Would that be a good proposal? Is that acceptable? "

I think this is a great idea but know that teachers / schools are getting ever more things that they are supposed to teach kids about. Could be part of PHSE or whatever it's called though? I don't see why not.

Thank you menu

I remember a statistic from when I was young about how many cases of testicular cancer were caught by the persons partner. I can't remember what it was now but it was quite high (definitely over 70%). The poster is definitely patronising but if it saves lives, it really makes sense.

How about they grow up and go to the doctor themselves

I think you need to grow up, OP. It's perfectly normal for partners to pay attention to each other's general health and condition. A good example is noticing something on your partner's back where they can't see. Men can check their own balls, but a female partner (or male partner; the advert didn't specify male or female) may find something that he didn't notice.

People need to look after each other. Stamping your foot and folding your arms saying "he can do it himself!" is not a constructive attitude towards a relationship. What's truly cringe-inducing is that I'm a guy who has never had a relationship, and yet, I seem to have a better understanding of this issue than many people in this thread.

What's truly cringe-inducing is that I'm a guy who has never had a relationship, and yet, I seem to have a better understanding of this issue than many people in this thread

LOL

Thats not the cringe inducing thing...

In short gay men are more at risk of this disease and I'm going to have a look and see if they have anything targeting that group or if they are sticking to telling women off.

How about having a look at the original image? Do you not think that image targets gay men?

... Let's see if the penny drops or if it flies over your head.

@dwatsuts

I don’t think it does.

A gay man.

I don’t think it does.

So what part of the original image targets women and not gay men?

dwat

You realise that poster is in the ladies loo

So what part of the original image targets women and not gay men?

The fact that its in the ladies loo

BlackPrism

How unromantic - am I supposed to surreptitiously check for cancer while DTD or actually perform regular medical exams on him

I think we're supposed to wear our sexy nurse costume, snap on a rubber glove, and breathily say "this will only hurt a little" wink

i wonder why, during all the recent smear campaigning, why no one thought to put posters up asking men to remind their partners if they hadn’t had one recently...

@dwatsuts

1. It is in the ladies toilet.

1. It’s pink, sadly we still have pink for females and blue for males.