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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Update: identifying as non-binary for work award

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Somerville1234 · 03/04/2019 02:02

Can't find the old thread... but anyway, there's an award/opportunity at work, only for people who are LGBT+++. I don't remember all the categories but they included genderqueer, genderfluid and genderfree. Also K, which I'm reliably informed stands for kink lifestyle. I don't understand why someone would need a special thing at work for getting off on weeing and whips (?? I don't watch porn, I don't have a clue), but maybe I'm just old fashioned. Anyway, old fashioned or not, I'm gender free because I don't believe in gender. And I wanted the professional opportunity. (Forgive me for the vagueness - being careful because of doxxing.) And you lot were encouraging...

I ended up applying - which didn't involve saying how I met the criteria, just ticking that I did. And then I was perpexedly approached by my woke boss.
(WB "Erm... so you realise that this is for LGBT+++ employees, Somer?"
S "Yes."
WB "Erm...it was my understanding you're a straight woman...?"
S "I'm genderfree and-"
WB: "Really?"
S "Yes, and I think I need to remind you that the staff handbook recommends that no-one should assume anybody elses's gender."
WB: "Oh, terribly sorry about that.")

I then had a lovely meeting with HR where they were very keen to update my pronouns on the system. I told them that being gender free I require the box beside gender to be left empty, but that I can accept female pronouns because that's my biological sex. They were happy with this novel idea Smile and to learn more about the difference between sex and gender. They young HR person didn't know they're not synonyms but he learns something new every day apparently.

And now... I've heard I'm shortlisted for the next round!
It's been announced to the whole company, and I've had a few bemused looks but no direct transphobia, I'm happy to report. Smile
My longsuffering DH (works in same field) has been teased a bit for my gender identity but he's happy to suffer for the sake of my fight for equality. Smile

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Manderleyagain · 03/04/2019 02:08

I remember the thread. Omg!

GirlDownUnder · 03/04/2019 02:09

Thanks brave and stunning!

Good luck on the next round.

Grin
Somerville1234 · 03/04/2019 02:22

Thanks!

Oh, and I forgot to update that woke boss got me an appointment with HR in one day, whereas when he needed me on an urgent work trip, but they first needed to facilitate me expressing breast milk, it took 3 days and a lot of nagging and stress. It was so good to learn my company's devotion to essential issues of equality... and for woke boss to witness that too...

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sackrifice · 03/04/2019 02:56

It's like magic isn't it?

Fridasrage · 03/04/2019 03:01

Oh christ.

colehawlins · 03/04/2019 03:02

I told them that being gender free I require the box beside gender to be left empty, but that I can accept female pronouns because that's my biological sex. They were happy with this novel idea 

Grin
colehawlins · 03/04/2019 03:05

I'm assuming it's not determined by a public vote? Which is a shame Smile

aidelmaidel · 03/04/2019 03:05

That's terribly brave and stunning of you. I'm laughing my socks off. Hope you win.

stealthsquirrelnutkin · 03/04/2019 03:10

So heartening to hear that your gender and pronouns are being treated with proper respect and you are still in the running for the opportunity.

BitOfFun · 03/04/2019 03:33

Marvellous- I salute you Grin

Hullabalooo · 03/04/2019 03:40

Really impressed with this!

darceybussell · 03/04/2019 04:02

No fucking way! This is brilliant 😂

darceybussell · 03/04/2019 04:03

No fucking way! This is brilliant 😂

AgentProvocateur · 03/04/2019 04:18

Brilliant! Hope you win Grin

BorsetshireBlew · 03/04/2019 04:29

You are brilliant!

CallMeWoman · 03/04/2019 05:01

Stunning and brave. Best of luck!

OVAgroundWOMBlingfree · 03/04/2019 06:14

So stunning, so brave.

EmpressLesbianInChair · 03/04/2019 06:17

Grin Genderfree.... I need to remember that one!

Jessgalinda · 03/04/2019 06:22

Just read this out to DP while I get ready for work. He thinks we both should declare we are gender free.

He knows my company and it will help with my application for promotion.

I might give it a go.

Well done OP!

seeingdots · 03/04/2019 06:27

This is brilliant. I really hope you win!'

BlodwynBludd · 03/04/2019 06:30

I hope you win. So brave! And of course stunning.

StealthPolarBear · 03/04/2019 06:32

Good luck op! If I can still call you op...

StephsCaddy · 03/04/2019 06:44

Brilliant.

axil · 03/04/2019 06:45

OP I missed your first thread, but this is brilliant! I'm chortling away to myself in bed!

Definitely brave and stunning!

OrchidInTheSun · 03/04/2019 06:46

GrinGrinGrin you're brilliant