Cosmopolitan - Bleeding after anal sex

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""It's not unexpected that [anal sex] would cause bleeding." Does that mean you should never put anything up your butt hole? No! It just means you need to take some extra precautions, like, say, a little thing called a shit-ton of lube"

"It's not a sprint, it's a marathon back there. And you want to make to the finish line without any bleeding or discomfort."

FFS

www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/amp9230630/is-bleeding-after-anal-sex-normal/?__twitter_impression=true

Guys were happy when someone slept with them

Who is not happy when someone sleeps with them ? You ? Were you all indifferent ? Today's men are indifferent ?

Lols they do kittens

Jeez Elon you just got owned on another thread. Pop back to that lols 💪💪

The implication is clearly that men should be more grateful than women I think, which is a terrible attitude.

There's actually been research on the impact porn is having on young men in terms of some of them not being able to get it up or orgasm with a real woman because their expectations have been so warped by the porn they've been watching since they were in their tweens. So yeah, not something people are making up just to make Elon feel sad.

Elon I have said that the blokes at school were box ticky and could be coercive

I also said not all the men I met in my 20s were like this but lots were. Some were horrible, that's the way it goes.

Even the horrible ones didn't try to pressurise into anal though or even mention it as it wasn't normalised then

I want to know why you claimed I said anal was unnatural when I said nothing of the sort

Also why you think articles on sex education don't need to include anything about consent or protection

And the grateful thing is interesting. I am reporting how it was. Be angry with the men. Why are you angry with me? And why is it a bad word. I am grateful for lots of things, my DH for one, and I tell him so. Nothing wrong with that.

Am I on a different thread to Elon ?
Elon yahoo Elon

Lolol

Elon is battling legions of prudish feminists who demonise men but also say they can be v nice and who are ugly hairy manhaters but also maybe not, in her head :D

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I had precisely one partner who tried to pressure me into anal as a young woman. He got the "great, you first!" response and gave up in a sulk. It wasn't a thing every bloke expected until, hmm, maybe 5 years ago? 10?

Where did that thread about the girl in Australia who now needs a colostomy bag after group anal sex go? (Waits hopefully for R0)

She was 16

And I think the men with her had got the magic yes

As she must have been in a lot of pain and that must have been obvious to them

I mean they must have continued while she was getting more injured to cause such damage

Its grim

And again, the idea that women being in pain is normal is also very much related to porn.

Perhaps it wasn't you nothing but someone said the anus was not "designed" for sex, you did not disagree with it.

I think if you do not feel lucky to be having sex with the person your doing it with then something is far wrong. This is not unusual or because you are especially beautiful. I'm annoyed at the implication that all women have to be is pretty and men should be be thankful to be deemed good enough to get into the womens bed.

If you felt equally grateful then we're in total agreement...if you felt like they were the lucky ones, then that's not very attractive.

Anal sex is quite common.. cosmopolitan is by and for women. Does everything have to be prefaced by a "don't do this if you don't want to" warning ?

Completely missing point of thread Elon.
Yet again

Gosh, Nothing, it's very unladylike to know that you're considered attractive by others.

You want individual posters to each post their disagreement every single time anyone posts anything they disagree with?

Do you understand how conversations work?

I'm beginning to think not 😁😁😁

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I agree with the PP regarding lube. I’m 54. Prior to the menopause I’ve never needed lube. If you need lube in your 20s etc then that isn’t normal. It means you are not comfortable, relaxed or aroused.
When I was younger not one man I dated tried anal. 5 years ago at the age of 49 I divorced and started dating again. Every bloke of my age wanted anal. Either they are watching porn and think it is normal orcthey have dated younger women who think it is normal. Who knows.

My answer is always ok we try a lubed cucumber on you first and then if it is fun we can try anal with me. Funny enough the subject isn’t brought up again. That’s because men don’t want anal sex if they are straight but they expect women to enjoy it. Yet it is the men who have the prostate up there for pleasure 😂😂

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So poster a says says it's an out not an in thing

50 odd people must post to say they disagree.

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Also

Saying that as far as you are concerned nothing is going in, it's out only
Is not the same at all as saying its unnatural

So you're misquoting as well as misattributing?

If we have to post agreement or disagreement with every single comment threads are going to be very long and very boring to read.

Just to be clear last time I had bleeding and tearing was when I had a baby
I never had that fun thing bleeding and tearing when I was doing the stuff that lead me to,having that baby

I had fun not pain

I feel sorry for my children of both sexes. They are likely to grow up with such a warped idea of sex that they probably will not enjoy it as much as us their parents did.

I do however think that we Are likely to see more changes to our sexual habits as a species. We have older males keeping it up on Viagra when post menopausal women are perhaps not as keen to go at it all night for whatever reason (not least vaginal dryness). Then you’ve got the younger males addicted to porn and unable to perform requiring viagra also. Soon there will be a generation of women who reach their 30s and 40s and truly realise they’ve been coerced into bad, painful damaging sexual practices they’re not going to want to put up with it. So what will happen? My guess is women will realise that the only people who truly care enough to make a female orgasm are other women and the odd man who somehow managed to grow up avoiding porn.

You also have the issue of things like antibiotic resistance to some serious sexually transmitted diseases added to the mix. You’re very unlikely to catch them from another woman. MOre and more men are going to buy sex robots who like it as rough as you like.

Birth rates, marriages will suffer. Maybe there will be a porn backlash especially from the teens of today who when older become fed up of having children’s minds and bodies ruined. I mean I bet there must be a fair few young men in their 20s who look at their fathers and think, “god maybe it was much easier when you didn’t need to take a blue pill, coerce your girlfriend to take it up the bum and throttle her in order to achieve an orgasm.” Some surely must look in the mirror at some point and realise porn has turned them into monsters. Or am I wishing too much.

Tbh I think I would tell my daughters you’re probably going to have the best orgasms, and the least chance of injury or humiliation with a woman. Of course they may not be attracted to women but at least they will know that most men will not care for their needs only their own. My son I will try hard to teach him about Mutual respect and somehow ban porn from our home. He’s going to be watching so many documentaries on the seedy side of prostitution, porn etc something hopefully will stick.