Over here, it's starting to feel difficult to find the right toilet as a female.
On a uni open day visit today, I popped to the loo in a quiet corridor. On the door to the toilets was both a male and female sign and something that said along the lines of 'accessible for all genders toilets'.
I pushed the door open, and in front of me were two doors. One with a very definite male sign on it (I could see multiple stalls through the window, not sure if there were urinals too).
On the right was a door with a disabled sign on it.
I stood there a bit perplexed. Even though I've been taking part in these gender critical conversations for a while now, I realised my social conditioning was striking - where the fuck do I go, as an able-bodied female?
As well as being socially conditioned as a female, I also know it's bad form to take up the disabled toilet in case someone is disabled and needs it urgently.
Outside door 'all genders'.
Inside doors, only option either to go into males or use the disabled one (which helpfully had a shower in it too, making me feel even more guilty for using it in case someone it was designed for needed it).
I had no choice - so used the single facility disabled toilet.
Everyone is budging up except males!
Was writ large for me today. This gender/sex debate should definitely NOT be focused just on toilets, but today I fully experienced my 'erasure'! (And the fact that I was pushing into someone else's hard-fought-for space, unwillingly, but I needed a wee!)