Thanks Anush.
So we have a starting point, humans can't change sex.
But they can change their outward appearance to be closer to what THEY consider to be that of the opposite sex, of course they can. In an ideal world they can express their gender, personality, whatever you want to call it, their essence of self perhaps, however they want.
This is what women want. For trans people to be free to be trans, for being trans not to be a slur, or a reason for discrimination .
But at the same time there are some protections that women need because of their biological sex. Whether trans people are lovely (and many of my trans friends are although one is an irritating diva!) is irrelevant. Their loveliness shouldn't over-ride the need for women to be able to access single-sex services where they need them. It shouldn't mean that their fear of male violence against them can be solved by letting them in women's safe spaces because under self-id that would allow all males in and the spaces wouldn't be safe any more.
What the whole thing needs is compromise, to find and use the overlap and to ringfence the rest to ensure everyone's safety. That can only be reached by discussion. But at the moment we have #nodebate, silencing of women, and trans people saying that anyone who refuses to admit to a biological impossibility hates them and wants them not to exist. We have people trying to shut down the debate with actual violence against women, the punch-in-the-face type of violence.
It makes me very sad as it's all so un-necessary. I can't see how anyone sane can fail to see that we need to talk. But they don't, they just scream their mantras and close their ears.
I like trans women and trans men, but I don't like trans ideology.