Anger doesn't discredit, but 'just telling it like it is, look I'm hilarious for calling a transwoman by their male name' type thing probably does discredit the debate.
That's where we clearly differ. My hairdresser told me today her daughter was recently taught at primary school that if you want to be a boy you can totally become a boy, a proper boy like any other boy (reminded me of Pinocchio for some reason). And she asks me what do I think of this complete and utter falsehood.
And so we had a chat about what trans means today and crossdressers getting access to female spaces and places. The room was full of women of all ages, and when my hairdresser asked "who on earth could think that self-id is a good idea?" everyone agreed.
And we had a chat about Maria's court case and the judge telling the victim off for not showing respect to her legally male attacker by using female pronouns. Everyone thought this was complete and utter lunacy. I didn't even mention that the judge told Maria off for using the wrong pronoun for her attacker while her attacker was allowed to disprespect her by insulting her over and over again in court by calling her a TERF.
That completely epitomises the problem - women be nice or else. Men can do as they please.
And not one person there thought for a second that demanding that women pretend men can become women is right. They simply do not believe in gender identity, most have never even heard of the idea.
When these people know a transperson they will use preferred, reasonable (ie not made up) pronouns out of respect for the individual but not because they believe the fiction that a man can ever become a woman, but only because interpersonal contact involves all kinds of fictions and social white lies and this is just one more.
What I learned in that salon today is that if politicians ever stepped out of their bubble and listened to normal people, not the woke hipsters and brocialists that dominate the public sphere, they'd get a rude awakening. They can only hope women don't find out about this.
When I take part in this debate, I will continue to sex people according to material reality, not a quasi-religious belief system I do not subscribe to. You can no more force me to agree with creationism than you can force me to agree with gender ideology.