Again I'm sorry for such a long post.
It's interesting to read people's thoughts and feelings. I've spent nearly a decade listening to trans, intersex and non-binary people in a variety of ways. On the whole, trans, intersex and non-binary people not as connected to their biological sex as non-trans people are. Obviously it's part of who they are, but I notice how strongly non trans people are connected with their sex and how vehemently they defend this position, and anything that threatens this must be terrifying.
And it is similar with trans, non-binary and intersex people. In that respect, they are very similar in their relationship with their identity. They see their identities as real, and true, and will argue the case and get quite upset if people don't understand them. It can cause quite some tension when people with a binary (male/female) identity clash with a non-binary one.
I'm in a position of having experiences outside of what non-trans people have, but also I understand how non-trans people feel as well (having lived my life surrounded by them, and by reading the comments here).
Coming back to the OP and the comments, I'm wondering where/how they came up with the statistics on the numbers of CSA where the perpetrator is also child - there is no reference and I've searched the NPCC, NAPAC, the ONS, crime statistics and can't find nearly as many. I wonder if any of the mums/parents could provide a citation?
What I did find was this:
www.nspcc.org.uk/services-and-resources/research-and-resources/2017/characteristics-children-who-display-harmful-sexual-behaviour/
I understand it might be a bit leftfield about the issues but I genuinely would be interested and would like to stay informed. However, it comes across as scaremongering if inflated numbers are used and no source is provided. I'm under no illusions - most perpetrators of sexual violence are male and most victims are female (although, from what I've read, things even out when looking at younger children). It is quite a lot to trawl through, though and I didn't have the spoons to go much further.
I'm very much for including trans and non-binary people into society, having a non-sex based identity, I'm very much aware of how damaging social isolation is.
Most people have be brought up in a society that is tightly formed around sex based cultures and sex based identities and it can be distressing and frightening when this changes. It's also frightening and distressing when trans people try to access services from our "sex-based identity" heavy culture.
How we integrate with each other, respecting each other with humanity, compassion and empathy is a process of change. Trans people weren't heard of when I was little, western culture did its best to eradicate us and so we have a lot of discussion which is about storming and norming. So discussing things on all sides is great and I hope it leads to a better understanding of each other.
I guess it means asking questions and listening to each other. I find feminism quite difficult, because there are so many different types of feminists and movements and ideologies, but I read a lot of sex-based feminist ideas here. When your identity isn't sex-based, it kinda clashes with the idea of sex based feminism! I can only hope that people can work together to dismantle patriarchy because it oppresses women, children, minorities and non-sex identified people as well.
I'm digressing a bit, but I'd like to ask a few questions relating to the OP.
How do we integrate non-sex identified people into a traditionally sexed society, while still respecting their identity?
How do we maintain safety for everyone including children who are trans while maintaining equal power and inclusion within those groups?
We don't know much about the demographics of trans children, we don't know how many trans children have sexually damaging behaviour because they aren't included in statistics yet - we're only assuming because of statistics on boys/men.
Why do children abuse? Well evidence says it's more likely they're from families in which abuse, violence and neglect has become routine and abuse is rife and intergenerational. www.independent.co.uk/life-style/health-and-families/health-news/what-drives-a-child-to-commit-sexual-abuse-2114974.html
I think trans children are more likely to come from loving and supportive families because they listen to their child and support their child in their wishes and needs.
Puberty blockers are the same drugs that are given to sex offenders and paedophiles (GnRH agonists) to prevent them from offending. Are these children ok to be in sex-based activities or do they need to be excluded too?
Men who have transitioned / transmen often talk of how their sex drive goes through the roof because of the action of testosterone. www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5569315/ Are people who have high levels of testosterone at more risk of abusing others?
I think there are so many questions and so many variables with people, and with trans people particularly, it's not as easy to put them into a "sex based" box/statistics when their identity and physiology are so variable.