Things men have called me and why.

[CosmicCanary]

Slag lots of times but this was the first.
I was 13 he was late teens.
My crime: I walked past him and did not look at him when he said "alright darling"

Whore
Countless times but the one that sticks in my memory.
Aged 16 he was in his 30s with his mates outside a pub.
My crime: i said no thank you when he asked me for a fuck.

Just a tart
Aged around 19. Him same age.
My crime: I declined his offer of a drink in front of his mates so i was labelled just a tart who was out for free drinks.

Hysterical bitch
Aged 22. Him about same age.
My crime: I told him to fuck off after he repeatedly grabbed my arse while I was waiting at the bar.

prozzy
Aged 22. Him much older.
My crime: wearing a short skirt.

Quite a few years of all the above comments then:

Ugly bitch
Aged 39. Him mid 30s.
My crime: To say no he could not sit on my knee in the pub I was drinking in.

Fat slag
Me aged 40. Him late 20s.
My crime: Telling him to fuck off after he pushed me out of the way in a very long taxi que I had been stood in for 20 mins and I was next in line.

The last one ^^ was last Friday evening.

In all my years I have never called men vile names like I have recieved.
One because I am not rude and vile but more importantly because I fear they would attack me if I spoke to them the same way.

The younger me used to put up with it keep my head down and move out of their way.
The older me fights back a bit but I am still scared they will hit me if I do.

Feel free to list your own.

All of the above. And more recently, a "fucking TERF" when I question men who are trying to recategorise womanhood as a feeling in your head and something that includes any man on his say so. As I've been around for a while I recognise that it's part of the same misogyny-men do not get called TERFs.

Slut, slag, whore, dirty bitch, dirty whore, stuck up bitch, cock sucker, - some of these just shouted randomly in street. Comments like I'd fuck it. Nice arse, suck me off. Once someone I vaguely knew was with a big group of people and shouted my name when I turned round he asked if I would suck his cock for a fiver! I just said nothing even though I wanted to as I was alone. Once I walked round the corner into 3 men one shouted fucking hell really loudly they where right in front of me blocking my path then he said your fucking gorgeous do you believe in love at first site. I'm sure he thought it was a compliment but It was so loud people where looking and they had blocked my way so was intimidating. Also weird comments at work from a man calling me princess and I heard him telling his friend he was going to take me out in his car! I would never get in his car! Once a much older man staring at me calling me darling ECT then he came back in and gave me a piece of paper saying I don't need this but you might it was his phone number! I was speaking to another customer so just held it in my hand. It's so uncomftable and I've never heard women shouting in the street oh nice cock, I'd fuck it or anything else like that.

These men live everywhere that women go. Women aren’t doing anything wrong by encountering them, that is the implication by the questions, whether intended or not

“To be fair HerSymphony, men are entitled to come and say what they feel.”

They aren’t posting what they feel are they? If they left it at “that is awful, I’m sorry you have experience that” then fine. It’s the desperate “I’m not like that, reassure me” that is tedious. It’s making it all about them.

I don’t know why me saying that the “Where do you live?” questions are depressing is equated to me telling people not to post. I’m just telling you my response to that type of post, which is to say that I feel it is dangerously close to saying “what did you do to provoke the men?”

Post what you like, and I will post my response

I also find it tedious when someone asks “Where and when did this happen” or “where do men like this live” as if implying it’s all in our heads. I find it equally tiring when a male poster comes on to say NAMALT or “women do it too.” because this is another instance of shutting women down when we discuss harassment and abuse experienced by the hands of men/ boys. We do get that it’s NAMALT but that is beside the point and one is too many anyway!

It’s the desperate “I’m not like that, reassure me” that is tedious. It’s making it all about them.

Spot on, hersymphony.

Men: if you don't do this, it is not about you. Your input is not needed.

If you do do this, then you need to listen, reflect, and then not do it in the future. Your input still isn't needed.

Yes it might be true that NAMALT and all that shit, but when you're a woman just going around your daily business, how the hell are you supposed to instantly tell the rotten apples from the good ones? Your rational response is to think 'Uh-oh, apples - I'd better be careful with those.'

Ok. It's not dangerously close at all. It's not even a tiny bit close. It meant nothing like that. It wasn't directed at you, I was asking the OP.

Haha you can’t be so new to forums to think that other people won’t answer posts whether you intend them only to be responded to by the OP or not.

And I’m afraid that questions like that are very close to ideas about there being places where women should expect to be harassed (with the extension of that being that they should not complain about it if they object to the harassment)

As though “vile men” are corralled in one part of the country only! What a daft idea

One of my exes called me a bitch.

That list of names at the top is what other women have called me OP.

Cunt is a favourite word on here to describe another woman.

men are entitled
Yep, that is exactly why they are posting on this thread. Good spot bubba

A woman has never called me fucking frigid or a whore. A woman has never told me to smile, or cheer up it might never happen.
I have been called a bitch by a woman but the difference was it was not sexually motivated, whereas most of the harassment from men is.

No that's not it at all zzzz
Just talking about how not all men are like that or men popping on to tell us they aren't like that adds precisely 0.
In some cases it's almost like a bunch of women discussing this is threatening and we need closing down. Why can't women talk about this?

And I’m afraid that questions like that are very close to ideas about there being places where women should expect to be harassed (with the extension of that being that they should not complain about it if they object to the harassment)

Ha ha. No, my question was nothing like that.

So basically you only want to talk to people with the same opinions as yourself or “the enemy” so you can give them a good verbal kicking

You think this thread is being read by all the men who do this sort of thing? You think MN is where they hang out?

Why are you so against women talking about their experiences?

Cunt is a favourite word on here to describe another woman

But is that because they are behaving badly, like a cunt, or because MN users think women are a nice piece of cunt? Massive difference.

There was a thread on here recently about casual relationships started by a woman who wanted to say it was slutty and lots of other fellow women joined in the slut shaming.

o basically you only want to talk to people with the same opinions as yourself or “the enemy” so you can give them a good verbal kicking?

If the man who called me a fucking cunt in the street last week because I got in his way happens to pop by to this thread, I think a good verbal kicking would be a pretty proportionate retaliation, don’t you?

Decent men don’t need your defence of them because they don’t do this. Not-decent men, who are the ones doing this don’t deserve your defence because their behaviour is shitty. So who is it that you’re sticking up for?

To the posters who don't want men on this thread, Firstly, this is OP's thread and she hasn't said this. Secondly, I want men to post on here and Yes, I want to know how they feel about all this shit and what are they going to do/say about it, if anything? Imagine Daily Fail reporting there's a bunch of women on MN ranting about men (because that's how it will be seen) and they won't even allow men to take part? Further enabling the bad apples.

Well, I also disagree with the way that one poster has phrased it.

For someone who doesn’t like generalisations, you surely did generalise that one poster to the whole of the thread...

Ok, in the event that a man does come into the thread and doesn’t NAMALT, ask for praise, tell is we’re over reacting and it’s just a complement, for goodness sake! then they’re more than welcome as far as i’m concerned.

I’ll wait over here