Things men have called me and why.

[CosmicCanary]

Slag lots of times but this was the first.
I was 13 he was late teens.
My crime: I walked past him and did not look at him when he said "alright darling"

Whore
Countless times but the one that sticks in my memory.
Aged 16 he was in his 30s with his mates outside a pub.
My crime: i said no thank you when he asked me for a fuck.

Just a tart
Aged around 19. Him same age.
My crime: I declined his offer of a drink in front of his mates so i was labelled just a tart who was out for free drinks.

Hysterical bitch
Aged 22. Him about same age.
My crime: I told him to fuck off after he repeatedly grabbed my arse while I was waiting at the bar.

prozzy
Aged 22. Him much older.
My crime: wearing a short skirt.

Quite a few years of all the above comments then:

Ugly bitch
Aged 39. Him mid 30s.
My crime: To say no he could not sit on my knee in the pub I was drinking in.

Fat slag
Me aged 40. Him late 20s.
My crime: Telling him to fuck off after he pushed me out of the way in a very long taxi que I had been stood in for 20 mins and I was next in line.

The last one ^^ was last Friday evening.

In all my years I have never called men vile names like I have recieved.
One because I am not rude and vile but more importantly because I fear they would attack me if I spoke to them the same way.

The younger me used to put up with it keep my head down and move out of their way.
The older me fights back a bit but I am still scared they will hit me if I do.

Feel free to list your own.

@zzzzz @SophoclesTheFox

Women and girls don't have safe spaces,
what they have are cages where men have cornered them in.

Men are predators.

You only need to read the comments on this thread to see exactly how pervasive this male culture is, of self entitlement.

Men build up their own self esteem by smashing women's down,
that's the culture females find themselves in.

Ok, asmen, I don't agree with your analysis. I don't think things are as a bad as all that.

To be fair zzzzz it's not some men, it's lots of men. But not all men.

Why is unfair to point out there are entitled predatory men about?

@zzzzz

Women and girls don't have safe spaces,
what they have are cages where men have cornered them in.

Women and girls have to take precautions when they venture out alone to make sure they are not raped and murdered by men.

And men regard this world as men's oyster, men's hunting ground, men's territory
and men believe in that shit!

Collectively men have always looked on females as something to hunt down and corner,.
It's men's entire history across the entire globe, it is not an exception it's the rule., it's how men's Kultures are and the glue that binds them altogether.

@SophoclesTheFox
You know if you see an army of men coming over the hill, are you gonna run or stay put?

There have never been any armies of women on the hunt looking to rape men.. not once, not ever!
but OMG there have been millions and there still are millions of armies of men who look to hunt women and girls down to rape and mutilate them and that is how men are collectively.

In the patriarchy, women are not the opposing team, they are the ball men chase and kick around between themselves to achieve their goals.

In war, men see women and girls as the spoils of it, men's self reward, ripping into the flesh of females and mauling them for sport.

Maybe you can find one instance where armies of men have never done that?.

I will wait, but I won't hold my breath!

Whataboutery. perhaps men should stop each other abusing women if they don't want to be all lumped together.

@zzzzz
In war, collectively men see women and girls as the spoils of it, men's self reward, ripping into the flesh of females and mauling them for sport.

The apartheid men created, was separating themselves from the female, so they could then say they had a right to abuse her because she wasn't one of their bro's, she wasn't male and because she wasn't male she was inferior to them.

Men of every colour all unite under that one flag when trashing the image of the female to elevate the significance of themselves.

The war between men is about territory and who has the right to hunt down their favourite prey in it!

Bit far-fetched!

Slut - countless times by my ex.

Also slut for saying no to a man easily older than my dad in a pub when I was 18.

Up tight bitch - for not sleeping with a guy I just met.

I really don't think the way you are characterising this is helpful, asmen. There's a kernel of truth in what you're saying, but the emotive, colorful language is way over the top for my taste.

And there aren't many actual armies pillaging through South East London right now, so I haven't really thought about what my response would be.

The worst were:

The guy sexually assaulting me topped it off my telling me “I’m not like most n*ggers” and when I, at a later date, requested that he stopped harassing me called me a “typical negress”.

Street catcallers turn nasty if they don’t get their way. I was followed for about five minutes by a man in Morocco berating me and my friend for not responding to his requests to tell us where we were staying and spend the night with him. Men in Paris that my friend and I gave the cold shoulder to called me an ugly bitch. I was called a wog because my friend was not interested in a man in London. Losing interest in men on OLD means you get a slew of insults. Many men who i’ve dated have told me they’d like to rape me.

Recently a man felt so entitled to my time that he closed the book I was reading as i waited for the train, tell me he liked various things about my look and persisted even after I told him I’m not single.

So I really do not care if it’s not all men. It’s enough for women to be TIRED. I went to NYC and was so relentlessly catcalled that I went back to my room early because I was really upset and tired that every street corner or stop light a man would yell something at me, ask for my number, beg me to go on a date with him or bother me in some way. I don’t fucking care that it’s not ALL men. It’s too many. It’s the friends of the men I know. It could even be the men I consider friends. And it’s bullshit.

OMG, I'm a choirboy compared to some of these guys. Would never think of abusing someone like that.

So I really do not care if it’s not all men. It’s enough for women to be TIRED.

Yes this. What men don't get is, it is all women. Often on multiple occasions

I care that it isn’t all men. I will always care.

So start your own thread then?

fauchelevent, that's awful

zzz
Thing is, I can see where you are coming from.
I know NAMALT.
How many men are like that? How many men rape women, abuse them in the street, objectify women?
From threads like this it sounds like a lot, and god knows I've experienced all this kind of stuff myself, but I would really like to know the percentage ( i know we can't- I'd still like to know).
Because surely it is the same men committing multiple rapes and the same men calling out abuse on a regular basis.
I've known so many decent men. I like to think most men are decent and treat women with respect.
I'd like to think maybe it's only 10% of men that are misogynistic wankers.
Or maybe I am just really deluded.

The boys putting on male dominance displays by publicly judging me ugly and stupid started when I was six, and while the pejoratives have changed over the years, I think I was about seventeen when I realized they may as well just be screaming submit, or die the way they do now.