doctor from an abusers perspective, yes. One of the hallmarks of abuse is an attitude of 'co operate nicely and stop upsetting me with your reactions while I abuse you!'
Hate and threats and nastiness can't be condoned and no one should be the target of them. However I still have not seen a single screenshot of anything from a woman that includes threats, personal abuse or obscenities. What I've seen are questions, facts and challenge to statements and actions.
This is reminding me more and more of the threads about toxic parents/PIL, often where narcissism is involved, where the parents/PIL behave horribly, say awful things, do awful things and feel fully justified to do so, but melt into wailing puddles if anything is said or done by their victim in return that questions or doesn't fit their narrative of reality or challenges their thinking, or in any way hurts their feelings. That is seen as a disproportionate and a vicious, mean and unjustified attack. There is no connection between their actions and the consequences of others reacting to them. There is no recognition of their own actions or statements that are conflicting or immoral even, because they isn't not all coherently fit a situation or a point of view, but they all serve emotions and feelings at the time and feelings matter where objective facts aren't really possible from their distorted world view where protecting their fragile sense of self is everything. There are also hugely differing standards - which Lily is demonstrating - about what they expect from other people in terms of consideration, support, understanding, approval and enabling, compared to what they feel other people are entitled to. For people in that mindset the most gentle disagreement or questioning of their actions is interpreted as a vicious attack.
If someone with these issues takes public office they can't be enabled or cocooned to avoid questioning or accountability or basic attempts to keep their actions in touch with objective reality. This is where the TRA ideology really clashes: how far is it reasonable to expect all other people to enable someone's distorted reality and expectations, and enable their behaviour, while controlling their own truth, feelings and reality to not challenge or upset them, although this respect and effort is one way only? Can you legislate for people to do it?