There is a definite category who want to date women.
This category is where I find the stated expectations, aspirations and self-identification often seem distinctly male. As is the outrage that lesbians won't play along (as well as the aggressive imagery of the 'cotton ceiling').
This from a trans woman's blog, about dating immediately after transition and not wanting a long-term relationship at that point: 'I needed to sow my wild oats, my girl oats. Life was all new. Being an attractive female changes the game. I chased after cis women, thinking that they were the prize. They were what I still wanted. In my mind, I thought, I look good, I can blend in. I think I can get myself a cis women again.'
To me, the entire lexis of this is unselfconsciously male. Pursuit, entitlement, attainment. How often do you hear a woman talking about sowing her wild oats, 'the game', chasing men, a particular type of man as a prize, or assessing her ability to 'get' an example of that prized type?
It's like watching a TV show where you can tell male writers have produced dialogue for female characters, and it's so frustratingly inauthentic you want to yell: women don't talk like that! There's not homogoneous way women do talk, there's no separate female dialect you can learn, but when something rings false it's obvious, like any situation where people try to speak as/for someone else.
This is one of the things which really troubles me about the trans movement's direction: people who are still socially male demanding full, unquestionable, legal and social identification as being female.
(That, and claiming to be in a position of oppression so extreme that it's an act of self-defence to punch a woman and shut down all debate...)