That was very well explained, Gallavich. As I've said before, Phyllis, I'm a lifelong LGB supporter and I've been where you are. My initial reaction to the trans phenomenon was uncritical support. It was only when I found out more and things started to jar, that I began to change my mind.
Thing is, gay people only want to be free to be themselves. They don't require surgery or serious medication, whereas trans people feel the need not to be themselves, but to be someone completely different. This overwhelming need to escape the self - even reality - is deeply unhealthy. You see it in sexually abused teenage girls who "escape" sexualisation through transition, you see it in ex-forces husbands and fathers who give themselves a new pornstar name and, in a seemingly out of character move, desert their families.
So that's one difference between LGB and T. Another is that gay people, in fighting for their rights, never sought to remove anyone else's. For example, gay men, who genuinely do sometimes face violence in the loo, never insisted women share ours with them.
The transgender lobby, however, is all about removing rights from others - overwhelmingly women and girls. And this has its roots in the claim that "TW are women", because once you accept that then men gain access to every sex-segregated area: sports, showers, prisons, psychiatric wards where women are particularly vulnerable, refuges. Everything.
Trans rights directly affect women's rights, and more and more women are fighting back. It's not a fight women started. Had transactivists not insisted on being treated exactly like women then we could've run along with no real conflict. But now we're in the position that any dissension from the trans cult's approved language and agenda gets you threats, insults and may even cause real life problems.
The third main difference is children. Had LGB campaigners tried to claim that toddlers were clearly lesbian I can't imagine how bad the reaction would have been. Co-opting kids to identity politics is a new low. It is this last manifestation that I think will eventually halt the trans juggernaut, when people become aware how unethical and experimental the "treatments" are. I just hope it happens before too many young adults damage their healthy bodies and sexual function.