Ripples
Thanks for posting. I believe you have done so before and it's always interesting.
Women's socialised empathy will invariably be pricked when someone makes themself vulnerable, as you have done by posting.
But it is that very characteristic, that has led us to this trouble in the first place. We want to be nice, we want to include, we see little point in confrontation for the sake of it.
Transactivists have exploited this and pushed women further and further into a corner.
The ideology is detrimental to women, as you have pointed out, and that is, inevitably, becoming clear. Women are pushing back.
You, I think (correct me if I'm wrong) are what we would have termed a transsexual. Attracted to men, not predatory in regards to women and with no fetish.
If the AGP crowd had confined themselves to secretly cross dressing while the wife is out, you would still be going about your business without being tarred by the same brush.
I understand your desire and need to separate yourself from these men. However, the fact that you call yourself transgender instead of an effeminate gay man pits you against women, despite you having sympathy for us.
Women did not go looking for this battle. The battlelines were drawn for us. We have been forced into this position.
Transgenderism is the problem, not you personally. However if you are transgender you are part of the problem, not part of the solution. And women will pick apart any aspect of your argument that reinforces that and undermines our name and our rights.
If women are given their identity back, it is not your type of trans that we have a problem with. Until then we are not, and cannot, be on the same side.
Women, especially feminists, know we are second class citizens. It's embedded into the fabric of our society. Tens of millions of babies are never born because they are female. That is male privilege right there.
You may have been persecuted for being effeminate or being trans, but not for being a woman.
This isn't a competition or a race, your experience is no less valid than a woman's. But like it or not, you are part of the class that treats women as second-class.
We're not arguing here over the colour of wallpaper, where we will start on a level playing field. We are arguing for the right to be able to accurately name that which oppresses us.
Transgenderism, whether it comes from a benign place or not, directly threatens that right.