Feminist Pub XXI - The Pub with No Name

[erinaceus]

Welcome, everybody.

Happy Friday.

Yay, look at this! Headline in the Washington post. (There's a thread somewhere else in FWR on this - but so far me and MrsTerryPratchett seem to be the only people getting excited about it.)

A movie about three black female mathematicians is beating Affleck and Scorsese at the box office

I dont keep up with cinema much but that sound good!

Gah!! Just caught a vagisil ad on telly. Happened to read the small print. "Contains lidocaine". So it stops itching - by anaesthetising your fanny. That's a brilliant idea. Not.

Sorry, rant over.

Another reason to love Victoria Coren Mitchell!

Review of Nocturnal Animals ("with spoilers").

Raises a glass to the memory of Zombie in The Bluestocking. Though not a regular here, many of us knew her elsewhere on MN through the years.

RIP.

RIP Zombie.

RIP Zombie. And hugs to your family - she was a remarkable woman and you must miss her so dreadfully.

I don't do wine, but she loved a nice brew anyway.

Rest in peace Zombie, until you get to boogie again in your stunning red dress.

RIP.

It's all very quiet. I think some people have gone to the Lamb and Flag...

I didn't know Zombie, so I didn't want to be first to change the subject after the RIP posts... but I have been thinking that it is mercifully troll free out there at the moment! It's nice having the space to really converse.

Hi Yet!

There was one last night, but it was properly amusing!

Some of us have been in the animal petting parlour instead of the pub.

I was just reading a 'favourite quotes' thread - the usual range from the profound to the piffling, but I wondered if this pub should have a few chalked on the walls? If so, can I contribute '"Equal rights for others does not mean less rights for you. It's not pie"' ?

A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle?

Hello! I'm a bit shell shocked at the moment. I don't get modern feminism :/ feeling a bit old. Maybe MN is an echo chamber and I've been getting toon comfortable here.

Whassup?

Gives Devi a big 2nd wave hug. Want to talk about it?

What's bugging you, Devi?

You ok, Devi?

I found a feminist at work but she's a libfem and all about privilege checking etc. I just can't talk on the same wavelength at all because everything important to me is white/cis/het/class privilege.
I'm just bamboozled that things I thought were quite simple (such as pornhub doing sex education = bad) are actually really not and I'm inadvertently being "SWERFY" and should STFU
Thank God for you guys

I wonder what privileges this person should check? Would I be way out in guessing, the privilege of being young enough not to have had to put up with quite so much sexist shit? Of having had first and second wave feminists deal with some of the worst - sufficiently she doesn't realise that those hard-won rights need defending and extending??

I don't think it's an age thing, I think she does that thing of thinking others have it so much worse and being self effacing/blind to the shit she/we put up with.
But it is like she's an everyday feminism devotee and I didn't think people actually took that site seriously.
I just get really annoyed with not being able to focus on women for once.

Anyway I'm bitching now. Problem is I massively respect her so I find it infuriating that we are on such different wavelengths about feminism - especially as it's something important to me

It must be very disheartening to hear all that shit. If I met someone who took the antifeminist garbage that is Everyday Feminism seriously I think I might react the way my DF did when he met two Young Earth Creationists, i.e. with shocked disbelief.

And to hear it from someone you otherwise respect? Not surprised you're feeling glum, Devi. Guess you'll just have to avoid feminism as a subject. Like the plague. Third wave feminism is a dog's breakfast.

Out of interest, has she got DC? Because it was becoming a mother that revived and refreshed my feminism. Get a baby and you very soon find out how second class women still are.