Recovery from sexual harassment in work

[DailyFailAteMyFish]

Hi,
Anyone have any books/websites I could read to help recovery from an incident of sexual harassment in work? It was a bit unsavory and has knocked my confidence a bit. I work in a male dominated industry and was on a promotion track. I am so angry with this guy and so angry with myself that a few comments and can have such an impact.

Yes, I think that you should write up a critique of the process, for yourself as well as anyone who comes after. What are the major points you would like to see changed?

Just checking in Daily.

Nothing much, though I did tell the manager that if he was looking to stop rumours with a cover story now he was far too late.

This is a beauty.
There was a meeting with the guy who harassed me today to see how he was getting on and if he needed support.
Isn't that nice?
I thought that was nice.

I think I'm ok Buffy! Thanks to you and the others here, friends and my husband in real life.
I feel a bit sorry for the douchehead though, I think he has a problem with alcohol and has been drinking a lot when not in the office. It's incredibly bizarre though, isn't it?

It's... Eye opening.

Have they offered you support?

I'm glad you have people, like your dh in rl. What does he make of how the company have acted, he works there too doesn't he?

Add that 'support for him' (but not for you) to your constructive dismissal jotter. Bastards!

His need for support for his alcoholism do not trump your right not to be harassed at work, nor your need for support.

Are your workplace meeting with you to see how you are getting on and if you need support?

I am going to meet with one of the women in the HR department informally on Monday morning and describe what I feel are some gaps that need to be addressed.
I'll point out the lack of support, the lack of formal communication regarding the complaint, the lack of timeline and the email from the manager with his colluding request.
This should hopefully mean that the next person will not go through this!

Atta girl! Make sure you follow it up with an email confirming your points raised & any agreed actions on either side.

So, this should hopefully be near the end of this thread.
I spoke to the nice woman in HR.
I stated I had no axe to grind, was making no complaints, but I thought the process could be improved.
I sited the lack of formal communication, paper trail and timelines.
I stated there was no support, no offers of support and that my family had been damaged by the lack of support.
I suggested what they coukd have done to help.
I also showed her the email from my senior manager about the cover up story and stated that he had apparently smirked when discussing the situation.
She is going to raise the need for sensitivity with the sm.
Best of all, she is going to add a unit on supporting people through a sexual harassment case to some manager training they are given. This hould mean that in future managers will know what to do so they can support people.
And... Today douchehead moved desks.
Ahhhh

Sorry for the typos!

Yes Buffy! How right you are!
I got pulled into a meeting today where my manager's manager apologised for not knowing I was stressed and tried to give me a note of apology from the douchehead expressing his remorse.
I thanked him and was very nice about it. They thought HR had been handling everything. I said I knew they didn't get a lot of cases like this.
I refused the note from the douchehead though. He's had enough space in my head. I apologised if it looked cold but I had moved on and didn't want to revisit things.

Frankly in retrospect I wish I'd set fire to the note and called the manager an insensitive knob.
I'll play it out like that in my head.