Controversial long essay inbound (dons steel hat)
The point is that black women in America have been demeaned for the last 400 years. Their bodies are seen as not pretty; they aren't desirable; they are not properly femine. In the worst of all possible worlds, where women's only asset/power is their looks/erotic capital, black women were deniedeven this..
What can I say grey, yes, scientific study and inter-racial marriage statistics comparing the desirability of the opposite sex are both in agreement. Between white, asian and black- its black women at the bottom of their gender and asian men at the bottom of theirs. At the other end, highest desirability, black men are above white men and asian women are above white women. So, while marriage does still stick mostly within racial groups, black men marry out of their group well over twice as much as black women, asian women marry out of theirs more than three times as much as asian men. Interesting to speculate why that all is but its undeniably true.
But I think the problem for black women in the US is rooted in entrenched poverty, not desirability. The social structure for african-americans was under pressure back in 1965 when 25% of african-american births were to single mothers. Now its climbed to 75%, its a monumental social catastrophe.
Men can do two things, they can get a woman pregnant and abandon her in the role as care giver and they can, by virtue of physical strength and less tangible connection to offspring, walk/work out of poverty and leave the woman behind. In that respect black american women have some kinship with women from eastern Europe after the collapse of the USSR, where former soviet states experienced young male flight to western nations. My point is that what ultimately caused those women from eastern Europe to be abandoned by their own men was not their desirability, it was their poverty both genders found themselves in.
If I was to be utterly brutal about it, and I will probably get slammed to hell for writing it this way, I would say that while raising self esteem via feeling more desirable may make a woman feel better, in the short term, it need not be a road up where she is better valued, it can as easily and possibly even more commonly be a path to hell leaving her pregnant and abandoned.