Another black woman here who finds this thread depressing but not surprising. I expect this will be long and I'm preparing to be heavily criticised but here's how I see it
I like maybe a few of NM's songs so I'm not a superfan here, but anyone who wishes to go beyond slamming Nicki for her sexuality will find that she often points out and addresses double standards and discrepancies around race and gender. She knows her history and context and I see Anaconda as a continuation of that. I really dislike the usual white mainstream feminism analysis of Anaconda because it lacks SO much context and nuance around sexuality and black feminism. Yes, not all black women will be impressed or even like what Nicki Minaj has done, but that doesn't detract from the fact that there is a history and context that goes beyond "booty shaking whore".
Firstly, booty popping and twerking goes beyond titilating men - similar and sometimes identical dances are done in Zambian and other African dances. Many Black cultural practices that have been derided since, well, forever (think about how rock n roll was the devil's music until it was co opted by white musicians and now rock n roll has become white music, think about how rap and black musicians are talked about now, whereas white musicians who do the same - mackleless, iggy, eminem - are fawned over.) are actually rooted in cultural practices from Africa.
So the idea of booty popping being entirely for men's pleasure is kind of taking the history of black women and analysing it via white feminism (ie; without taking into account racial context) which doesn't work. Women of all races, but specific to this thread, black women and white women have distinctly different histories and whilst we can unite over some similar struggles, a lot of the time you really can't analyse the way BW perform sexuality and feminism in the same way you can with white women.
Black feminism is quite different, and I think this is why mainstream white feminism often fails black girls and women - it doesn't apply any nuance or context to why black feminism might look different to what white feminists have considered acceptable for themselves.
So going back to this, many people lose sight of what Anaconda represents to a lot of Black women (not all!) because they see booty shaking and rap and dismiss it and see no value in it whatsoever. Yes, NM probably had a lot of direction from men, but for many BW it was important in ways other people won't quite get. And because of this, it doesn't get the recognition it deserves - both as a successful youtube video, a talking point of 2015 and something that's important to Black women. And as I stated before, let's not pretend white mainstream media has not, from jump, worked very hard not to recognise the merits of the work of Black women. THIS is what Nicki is getting at. Taylor Swift is a bit of a red herring because this had nothing to do with her.