Feminist Pub XVIII, in which the Bluestocking greets the first signs of spring with a glass of something soothing

[PuffinsAreFictitious]

Just starting this one as the last is nearly full

Because of the genetic lottery, Jeanne - if I had a kid at forty five, I'd probably be able to walk it to school on the first day of primary, but there's a fifty fifty chance I'd be demented and wheelchair-bound by the start of secondary. Having spent my entire adult life watching my mother disintegrating, there's no way I'm risking putting a child through that.

I'm really sorry to hear that, stormy. Thanks for replying, though.

'How I live my life is my own business.'
That's probably about all that needs saying on the 'baby cutoff issue' really.

Can I come back in the pub please? I've been away a while. I kind of lost the thread of the conversation and then it dropped off TIO and then...

Anyway, if I'm allowed I'm back for a few days before the end of term.

It was a while back, but my Mummies study astrophysics if I'm meant to be going Chatter Chatter. Women next to me normally snigger. In baby groups they often "say sit back down" or "say don't do that".

Stormy - Sorry to hear that.

Eh, it is what it is. At least I don't have to worry about pensions!

stormy

Am slightly at the make-up thread. Don't know why I should be.

Right. Time to get off my bottom and do something. I'm seeing my piano teacher in a couple of days and I haven't practised anything new ...

yonic Obama calls them "guys" in that video!

Aww, does he? I just read the article (at work) and wanted a Lego page turner!'

Obama calls them "guys" in that video!

But all children tend to be called "guys" when spoken about collectively in the US, it doesn't seem to be a gendered word any more.

dr - there's a thread all about 'guys' at the moment. Yes, it's become an ungendered word in common US usage(and perhaps UK youth-speak).

Yes it's about that thread. Should have made that clear - sorry dr!

Not sure how I feel about Guys. I'd rather a group of women be addressed as 'guys' than 'girls' or 'ladies'. It is more difficult when addressing a mixed group.

I've just been catching up on Poldark (PHWOAR etc etc) and feeling a bit old because I've realised that Demelza is the woman (almost wrote girl!) who played Jas in Angus, Thongs and Perfect Snogging.

Gah! Another sleepless night and just argh! Because of teenage kids.

kickass. Do I dare ask?

I'm trying to sift my thoughts as to why I don't watch Poldark. I think ultimately it's because of suspicion of greasy hair. > I'm a bit at how shallow that it.

In my language we just address a mixed group as, well "everyone". (Literal translation: big family, usage: everyone.) I can't bring myself to say "guys" or "chaps". I sometimes say "people" - is that bad? But mostly I say "everybody".

Not got much to do with anything else, but it is so nice to hear a man beginning to get it. Just to remind us, namalt! This is from Jon Ronson's webchat if you didn't see it.

" I think it’s no coincidence that most of the people in my book are women. Women tend to be shamed much worse than men. And it’s a much more violent form of shaming. Rape threats and death threats. Men tend to just get “I’m going to get you fired” threats. I can only speculate as to why there’s so much misogyny out there. Maybe it’s because feminism is doing well and some men feel threatened?"

Oh, excellent! Always liked Jon Ronson, and it's always a bugger when people you like turn out to be massive twats, nice to see the opposite for once!

Does anyone else find the thread about not watching the news incredibly depressing? Especially the remark about voting for the same party as their DH as it would be pointless to vote against each other?

A work friend votes Labour and her DH votes Green (think they are in a marginal Tory constituency where tactical voting would dictate they both vote Labour if they don't want a Tory). We were at a work conference at a previous election time and she was saying she'd arranged a postal vote because she didn't trust him to vote by proxy for her.

I think she was joking...

My parents always voted differently from each other.

OMG I've just deleted an email offering to publish something I co-authored BECAUSE THEY ADDRESSED ME AS MRS despite this being found on my official work website. This was to stop me replying FUCK OFF FUCK OFF FUCK OFF.

(I think I need help ...)

I have enough publication thank you very much without resorting to half-literate publishing companies.

that is very poor lordc. such an easy thing to avoid