What do men think feminists should be focusing their energies on?

[PetulaGordino]

It's pretty clear that there are many men with constructive criticism to offer feminists in terms of what feminist issues they should be focusing their energies, activism and outrage on.

This vital advice is at risk of being lost, spread as it is among myriad threads in this section. Perhaps it would be a good idea to collect it together into one thread, for ongoing reference when posters in this section consider their feminist activities and whether they are really focusing on the right issues.

Obviously it should be borne in mind that feminists are only able to focus strictly on one topic at a time in terms of activism and outrage, so don't overload us with too many issues at once!

I prefer a custard cream myself. You know where you are with a custard cream. No ambiguity there.

I think we should be more accepting of the Jaffa Cake's rights to identify itself however it feels able to obviously unless they start to insist that other cakes are lesser-cakes because of lack of chocolate, orange filling or any other shortcomings

Uptoapoint 'In the confectionery world there are only cakes and biscuits'/. WTF? My fruit gums are offended by your statement that excludes them as sweets. They would also like to raise concern about the marginalisation of chocolate as a confection.

Upthread I questioned the gender of certain orange flavoured liqueurs that may be included as an ingredient in a spaceship-themed cake.

I have decided to use the Cointreau in DF's birthday cake and the Grand Marnier in DD1's cake, as an experiment, and see if anyone behaves differently with regards to gender.

what if you got it the wrong way round ? < scream >

they could catch the gay or summat

are you sure about that, elfy ...this might be a matter for Elf and Safety < puts tin foil hat on >

I don't like fruit gums and that's that.

Sweets are just non-cakes and non-biscuits.

This is getting a bit much.

Ive got a galaxy ripple. Fruit gums are too hard.

AnyFucker - I've heard all the Elf jokes going. The letters 'Elf' features in my RL name.

Uptoapoint So it is discrimination

Fruit gums are horrible sweets, they are hard, flavourless and they stick to your teeth in an alarming way.

Now, your Jelly Baby is a fine example of a sweet.

Soft, flavourful and with the added bonus of being able to bite the heads off the boy ones (in the way misogynists everywhere believe feminists must do)

I always pinch the groin out of jelly babies. It makes grown men wince.

I love fruit gums. I remember using them as teething aids when my wisdom teeth came through possibly not recommended by dentists I preferred them when they were harder. They made them a bit softer years ago. Mind you I love a good boiled sweet. Butter Mintoes, Pear Drops, Cola cubes etc.

Rhubard and custard boiled sweets or sherbert fruits are the best boiled sweets

I like a good solid fruit drop type boiled sweet.

Although I think I'm becoming slightly addicted to Jakeman's honey and lemon cough sweets.

Ooooh yeah puffins, i like those

A butter mintoe slid alarmingly half way down my gullet today. I was in Morrison's car park at the time. Choking to death on a sweetie could have been embarassing.

If I'd been there, I'd have saved you.

After giggling for a bit, obvs.

I don't like those sweets that rip the roof of your mouth to shreds. And you can't stop having another one, even though you are virtually bleeding from your orifice.

I like licorice. Allsorts, tablets, catherine wheels. Nice and soft and non-choky.

Puff, it was serious. I had to sort of heave it back up. Made my eyes water, that did. My miserable, measly life flashed before my eyes. I thought, here is ends, in Morriswines car park.

Fruit gums are too utilitarian. Fruit pastilles are nicer, more....flamboyant

I am not absolutely sure what my favourite sweet of all time is

I will have to ask my husband

"A butter mintoe slid alarmingly half way down my gullet today. " Well that's the patriarchy for you.

that's what I thought, scallops

I thought my number was up

Skittles are best, if a bit flamboyant.

Lime fruit gums are great. Them being extra hard and chewy is part of the point.

The lime ones with the chocolate inside?

I love those,