So, not everyone's a feminist

[Vivacia]

Plasterer arrived today for the first of four days. I am working from home but everyone else is out.

So far we've had,

"You're not one of these modern women are you?" - don't know, not sure what that means.

"Are you a feminist?" - "Of course I am, aren't you?".

[ABlandAndDeadlyCourtesy]

"She's no good at making cups of tea this one"

You. Are. Paying. His. Bills.

This is unacceptably rude. Feminist or not-feminist, it is rude.

Checkatrade and any other local review site. Factual report of what he said. Remember: he is being rude to you. You are not obliged to be nice to him.

[Vivacia]

Was called through to check something. "I bet people are always telling you this... you've got really nice eyes".

[7Days]

urgh Vivacia

[slug]

"I bet people are always telling you this...You come across as a mysoginistic dinasour"

[CaptChaos]

Of course not Just.

I bet Vivacia was fluttering her middle class eyelashes at the time as well.

[PetulaGordino]

We only have viv's word for it that she didn't ask him what he thought of her eyes beforehand, or she might have complimented him on his biceps

[PetulaGordino]

(Have I worked out how to do this devil's advocate lark? Have I?)

[Vivacia]

"We're living in a nanny state"

"I don't feel that I am"

"I do. I think you should eat what you like, drink what you like, smoke what you like and ... what you like".

[PetulaGordino]

(If I've got it wrong, hopefully there's someone somewhere on the internet who's willing to show me my errors and assumptions. It's so hard for women like me, so often everyone just agrees with me and never challenges my POV and lived experience at all. Won't someone take pity?)

[SevenZarkSeven]

Can you go out?

We had a plumber that I was genuinely quite scared of and I made myself scarce while he was there.

[Vivacia]

Not really, we live in a fairly isolated spot and I won't leave our dogs here alone with him. I'd never forgive myself if one of them got out on to the road or in to the fields.

I'm not scared of him. I think he gets a kick out of pressing my buttons and I think he sees me as a bit of a challenge, like a horse needing breaking.

(I do have a chair up against the door though).

[SevenZarkSeven]

Wasn't saying you were scared sorry that came out wrong! Just telling my own experience there.

IME a lot of men seem to think it's "funny" to do what you say "gets a kick out of pressing my buttons and I think he sees me as a bit of a challenge, like a horse needing breaking. ". I don't really understand it. I guess they like women to be sort of deferential and don't like it when they aren;t?

[Vivacia]

Oh, I didn't think you were suggesting that, I was musing out loud and wondering what I do feel.

Absolutely on the rest of what you said. He reminds me of my dad in some ways. Working class scum that he is.

[Vivacia]

Was the '...' "fuck"?

He just kind of jutted his head forward and left the blank there. It took me a second or two to fill the gap in.

[Vivacia]

He was also suggesting he won't be finished until Friday or in to next week now.

Sorry, I feel that I'm making this a bit too chatty for FWR.

[PetulaGordino]

not at all

i think you have the measure of him viv

[SevenZarkSeven]

Why don't you buy him a copy of the gay times to read on his lunchbreak, given that he is obviously very pro-gay rights type issues

Seriously though "fuck what you like" - that's horrible. What if "what you like" doesn't like to fuck you? Nasty.

[Vivacia]

I've had the same thoughts myself about his exact use of language.

[Vivacia]

He hopes to be finished by Friday.

[Vivacia]

He's only half way through, I'm not disappointed in anything yet though.

What are you thinking?