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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

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So many evil men...can't stand it

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SplitHeadGirl · 01/11/2013 20:21

First of all, I know fully well that men will get upset at what I think and am about to say, so I would like to clarify that I am talking about EVIL men, not the good, wonderful dads and granddads and husbands and nice single blokes out there....the ones who I KNOW (my brain, not my gut, tells me so) are in a majority, but who seem to be few (is it their deafening silence?)

But any fool can see that the sheer amount of men, who are prepared to do unspeakable things to women and girls (and boys as well as other men, not to mention the vulnerable and the elderly...wow, the list goes on) is just overwhelming. I read today about Anene Booysen, and I was absolutely heartbroken, but yet not shocked. For men to be so diabolical to women is not shocking anymore, and that is men's greatest tragedy.

I have two little daughters, and a little son, and I fear for them at the hands of men. Not women...just men.

I feel like I am thinking out loud with this post, so no worries if no one feels they can respond. I just wish I didn't feel so helpless at the tsunami of male violence.

OP posts:
SideshoBob · 02/11/2013 23:31

Fear of violence is greater than the reality: 17% of Britons think they will be a victim of violent crime, but fewer than 4% will experience violent crime

www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-22275280

I would presume sexual assaults have their own section.

It's a useful reminder that the world we live in where people always read about terrible things perceive them to occur much more than they actually do however. Terrorism is another good example.

Treen44444 · 02/11/2013 23:32

Scallope, I think you and bob are talking about different things. Hence different stats

SigmundFraude · 02/11/2013 23:32

'Sigmund, you are comedy gold, really you are.'

I wish I could say the same.

ArmyOfPenguins · 02/11/2013 23:33

"I would presume sexual assaults have their own section. "

Probably, yeah.

Most women I've ever talked to have had to deal with sexually aggressive men. There was a thread on here a while back too.

ArmyOfPenguins · 02/11/2013 23:34

I'm not trying to be funny Sigmund. Are you?

Treen44444 · 02/11/2013 23:34

Army, 'most women', what percentage would you say

scallopsrmissingAnyFucker · 02/11/2013 23:35

"That is all feminism is, 'My life is shit, it's your fault, deal with it for me'" Really you think that's what feminists do?

Vote for women
Equal Pay Act
Maternity leave
Rape laws changed
FGM legislation
Women's refuges
Rape crisis
Child benefit
Free contraception
Legalised abortions
Etc etc etc

Must have imagined those.

SigmundFraude · 02/11/2013 23:35

'Sigmund: So you don't believe that women have been oppressed in society?'

Historically, men and women have both been oppressed. Men as beasts of burden, responsible for the family, and women as homemakers.

scallopsrmissingAnyFucker · 02/11/2013 23:36

But why are we talking about different things? Sexual assault is violence. 1 in 4 women experience it. Stop gaslighting us.

SigmundFraude · 02/11/2013 23:36

'I'm not trying to be funny Sigmund. Are you?'

I don't usually waste this much of my valuable time trying to be funny, as a general rule, so no.

SigmundFraude · 02/11/2013 23:39

"That is all feminism is, 'My life is shit, it's your fault, deal with it for me'" Really you think that's what feminists do?;

No. I think they sign e-petitions a lot too.

Treen44444 · 02/11/2013 23:39

Gaslighting, are you serious?
They are different things. Defined differently. So therefore different.
My brother was sexually assaulted but it wasn't violent

kim147 · 02/11/2013 23:39

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SigmundFraude · 02/11/2013 23:39

Anyway. Laters.

ArmyOfPenguins · 02/11/2013 23:41

Historically (if we're going there), a woman killing her husband was treason. A man killing his wife was understandable.

You're not funny Sigmund. Not at all.

scallopsrmissingAnyFucker · 02/11/2013 23:41

No, sexual assault is violence. Rape is violence. DV is violence.

Treen44444 · 02/11/2013 23:42

Is all sexual assault violence? My brother was assaulted sexually. It wasn't violent

ArmyOfPenguins · 02/11/2013 23:43

The vast majority of violence is committed by males. How should we address this?

ArmyOfPenguins · 02/11/2013 23:44

All sexual assault is violence, yes.

scallopsrmissingAnyFucker · 02/11/2013 23:45

Yes of course it is. Bloody hell.

kim147 · 02/11/2013 23:46

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Treen44444 · 02/11/2013 23:47

Army, not sure. Longer sentencing, ban alcohol, more police on the streets,education, better treatment of mental health, better social services...I don't know.

Many different things I reckon

Brenslo · 02/11/2013 23:48

kim147 Sat 02-Nov-13 23:00:27
Last week a 20 yr old woman in my town was kidnapped on her way home, driven to the next town and raped 3 times.

That's not something a man has to fear.

I would think lots of men fear that their 20 y/o daughter/girlfriend/sister/niece/friend could be the victim of such a terrible crime.

ArmyOfPenguins · 02/11/2013 23:48

There's only a discrepancy if sexual violence is missed out.

Treen44444 · 02/11/2013 23:49

I see. My brother has been a victim of violence by woman on more than 15 occasions. He is only 25