Traps For Women & Girls

[ElephantsAndMiasmas]

I've been thinking about how a lot of the time it is impossible for a woman to win when it comes to choices.

For example, it seems that everyone is very keen for mothers to stay at home, especially those with small children (should say that this is second hand, I have no DC yet). Public opinion, childcare costs, media etc all make clear that that is the right choice.

And yet when they do they become expected to do all the housework (even at weekends), vulnerable to charges of being lazy, "ladies who lunch", overprotective etc.

And if they work part-time they are often seen as uncommitted at work, and still have all the downsides of being SAHM.

Or if you wear make-up and heels some people will judge you as a bimbo, but if you wear a t-shirt and jeans and trainers, then you are probably depressed or a lesbian (nothing wrong with being gay, just a stupid judgement to make on appearance alone) or not making "enough" effort.

Was wondering if anyone else had examples of being caught in these kind of traps?

please do elucidate dont want to misunderstand what was so thrilling to hear?was it anti-feminist

no, it wasn't. you can read.

i am keen to hear more about the dichotomy between feminist and anti-feminist given it has been bandied about

that and i shallowed a thesaurus (and dont hae a fit atich i know you didnt say that)

the digression from discussion to
name calling
thesaurus swallowing
and alleged trolley
...is very interesting dynamic.

you missed out 'making shit up', sm.

aitch I forgot to say earlier that I agree with you on that point that is beign discussed now - I have certainy realised that some of my ideas are "functionally anti-feminist" and it is all through reading these threads. We sometimes don't realise how deep this stuff goes.

agreed. am loath to return to sm but also want to point out that the 'thrill' the first time she 'quoted' me were her italics and not mine. that's quite an annoying thing to do, actually.

Let's all just get along

Glad you've found the discussion interesting, sm.