DIET FAILED AGAIN - it’s thread 8 (the one where we all lose weight) - all welcome

[thenewaveragebear1983]

New thread for the new year 2026! Everyone welcome to join us for motivation and encouragement, without judgement.

Are they trying to sabotage your diet @poorpaws ?
I'm trying to find ways how to get through the day when out and about.

No I don’t think so. The friend who brought the biscuits, I haven’t seen since October, the rosy apple sweets friend doesn’t know I diet and the neighbour with the plums asked before she brought them, I think it’s just coincidence. It’s not easy is it.

out and about without sabotage is so difficult too.

I wouldn’t worry about the plums @poorpawssurely they are a good snack and lots of fibre. The sweets, if they will keep, maybe just put them away somewhere. Or have one and give them/throw them away. If you really don’t want them or think eating them will make you feel worse. Separate it in your head from a kind gift from a friend, but you don’t have to actually eat them. It doesn’t make their gift any less thoughtful.

@TalkToTheHand123its hard when out and about but it could also be easier if you set yourself some non negotiables eg. I won’t buy food out I will always take my lunch, or I will only eat sat down with cutlery (these are examples, you could choose ones that work for you). You could choose fruit or a bag of carrot sticks and pot of houmous? I do think sometimes we have to be a little bit firm with ourselves. My husband is dreadful for buying drinks out and about, bottles of coke or pop for the kids etc. before this holiday we went out and each bought a water bottle, it’s saved us so much money and it’s such an easy switch. could you do simple swaps like this for food?

it is sooooooo hot here, we are melting. It’s nice in a way as it had forced us to be really lazy, lots of lounging around and this afternoon we just went to the pool for 4 hours which we never do, we are normally that annoying family who do hikes and paddle boarding 🤣 but I dread to think how much weight I will have put on, eating bread and drinking wine

it is interesting doing a bit of people watching, I don’t feel self conscious really but I do notice people as I am sure everyone does really. I am definitely in the middle of the spectrum and it does actually really motivate me to lose some weight for next summer (yes I know I say this every year 🙄)

@thenewaveragebear1983 I’m so pleased to hear you are relaxing on your holiday. Eat the bread, drink the wine and we’ll all deal with it when you get back. It’s a long winter and you need to remember your lovely holiday when it’s throwing it down with rain and you’ve got to take Maggie out in the cold and dark.

I’m doing okay, but was really hungry tonight so ate early. I’m going to walk the dogs when it gets cooler this evening because I’ve got to retrace my steps from last night as I lost my glasses. I also want to take a load of clothes to the recycling bin at the bottom of the road, these are things that the charity shops won’t take like pyjamas, lots of nightwear really that’s only been worn once or twice but the charity shops can’t take them and I don’t want to put them in the dustbin.

I had a very long chat with DP this afternoon about the fact that we never go anywhere apart from our café. He used every excuse you could think of and I had a good positive response to all his negativity. Knowing him he will think about it when he’s on his own and come back with some sort of excuse or resolution.

it’s been too hot here to even go through the door, but I believe today is the peak of heat so tomorrow should be a little bit cooler.

You’re so right @poorpaws, I said that yesterday when I was slightly cursing the heat, oh in a few weeks I will be hosing a muddy Labrador for the 5th time in a week and this will feel like a distant dream.

today we are going out early to the lac du journay to hire a canoe for a few hours before it gets too hot. Then maybe beach although that is very exposed, but a quick dip and play in the water should be ok. We leave this site tomorrow for our second location which will be nearer the coast so a little cooler and has air con (omg I cannot wait!)

I am home from my holiday, we had such a good time but I was glad to be home as well, the dc getting ratty with one another and we’d had enough sun, late nights, and wine. After an epic drive and ferry crossing yesterday, we drive from Ashford today, and finally home!

i am filled with renewed enthusiasm. My post holiday weigh in was as expected but still a lot and yes I think I was heavier than expected after having eaten lunch and sat in the car all day. So I expect to see a slightly smaller number on my official weigh in on Monday.

went to Tesco’s and did a very healthy shop. We are both now trying to be much healthier but also save some money as we have had a very expensive year. Tonight we are having pasta, potato mushrooms and tomatoes with some cured french meat we brought home. Tomorrow I am going to go for a run and use my gym and make a big batch of chicken and spinach curry.

Carrot and houmous sounds a good idea @thenewaveragebear1983 . I've just gone cold turkey. Have been quite busy so quite distracted from food. Out drinking now though oh well. 😂

Hi everyone

@thenewaveragebear1983 lovely to hear you had a good holiday and are safely back home. I’m sure your holiday weight gain won’t be too high or too hard to deal with. Autumn is on its way and we’ll probably knuckle down a little more as the nights draw in.

i’ve been absent as I’ve had a bit of a scare. Very long, worrying and convoluted story short, I thought I was going blind, seriously a scary time. About three weeks ago, overnight, a veil or thin haze fell over my left eye and I couldn’t see. My eye was quite red and wept quite a lot. My biggest worry was that my auntie actually went blind out of the blue like this. My right eye was less affected but still had less vision. Anyway, very long story as I said, I went to the optician and 10 years ago I had cataracts removed. A buildup of cataract debris has distorted my vision but its a simple procedure to have it removed again, although it costs £990 And I’ve made an appointment At the end of September to get it done

As you can imagine, this sent me into a spiral of unhealthy eating and I’m sure my weight gain is horrendous.

this is just a quickie as I’m going out but I will be back. Love to all.

Love to all. Take care @poorpaws .

Starting to recover from a hangover now. Have had a big salad a few mins ago. Hoping to go a few hours without eating and keep off alcohol for a while (ideally permanently, but unlikely).

Oh poorpaws that sounds scary, hope you can get it sorted soon

@TalkToTheHand123, urgh hangovers are the worst. It’s enough to make me avoid drinking too much these days it’s just not worth losing the day.

had a busy day today, pottered about doing jobs, went for a run, saw my family and now cooking dinner. We’re having a chicken tinga (a jar of Mexican tomatoey sauce) with rice, and I also made a chicken, spinach and sweet potato curry and an apple and blackberry crumble. I probably won’t have overdone it today but officially the diet starts properly tomorrow. My aim is half a pound a week, if I was to lose that I would be a stone and a half lighter by next summer. Feels doable I think but then I haven’t managed it yet so …. 🤷‍♀️

I can't seem to have just a couple of drinks when I'm out. Once I start, I can't stop until I'm drunk.

I’m sitting here eating a Tony’s chocolate bar and drinking latte and I’m thinking about my diet, although I’m fully aware that thinking about it doesn’t actually lose any weight.

@thenewaveragebear1983 I love your idea of losing half a pound a week, it sounds so easy and so doable so why can’t I do it? I don’t know why but I’ve always seemed to lose weight easier in September and October than any other months and obviously September is coming very soon. The problem is that November is my birthday and then of course Christmas in December and I usually put it back on again but what if this year I lost it and kept the loss? I need to do something, my weight is affecting my mood really badly at the moment.

I was FaceTimeing my sister-in-law earlier and she’s always been a lot bigger than me, I mean at least 3 To 4 stones heavier and we are the same height. I could only see from head and shoulders, but she’s obviously lost a lot of weight and I’m wondering if she’s on the weight loss jabs. I know it’s silly but I will be devastated if she gets to be very small and I’m still big. I know we shouldn’t compare, I know how wrong that is but I’ve known her for many years and suddenly she doesn’t seem to be struggling with her weight. I’ve been thinking I need to knuckle down again and I’ve been saying it on here but watching her getting thinner really makes me think I should just do it which I’ve also said for many years. She didn’t mention her weight loss and I didn’t like to, but to me, it’s quite a significant and quick loss which is why I’m wondering about the weight loss tablets/jabs but I appreciate that a lot of people don’t like to tell you they’re on it which is why I didn’t mention it.

I am home alone today and just chilling, I love my Sundays but because I don’t do much, I tend to eat even more. We’ve been to our café twice this week and to the ice cream parlour three times so I know tomorrow’s weigh-in won’t be very good at all.

I hope everyone is doing well, obviously I’m yo-yoing as usual. Have a good day.

i think the half pound a week for a whole year feels doable but also feels like a mammoth task. To be on track for a whole year? I wish I could just do a super strict / crash diet for a month, drop a stone, then maintain it. I’m very good at maintaining as I have proven for the last few years. The days of quick losses have gone for me. I have also considered weight loss jabs or pills, but for me I could never do it without being honest with dh and he would not approve, especially as I’d have to go off licence to get them, plus the cost. Now yes, in theory I should be able to do what I want, but actually I never would take something like that without his agreement and support, we’re a partnership.

I feel a bit under the weather today, a bit of a headcold and sinus pain, plus my heart is thumping out of my chest with strong palpitations and I have not had them for ages. Maybe it’s the thought of going back to work tomorrow? It’s a shame because it’s a lovely day and I’d planned a few outdoor things but currently lay on my bed.

I understand about weight affecting mood, I really try not to, but it does. I just spent an hour putting photos in the album and there are so few photos of me and honestly, every single one I just hate the way I look. I am so unphotogenic. It’s feels like such vanity but I would just really love an actually nice photo of myself.

@thenewaveragebear1983 so strange you mention weight loss injections as I’ve been seriously considering it tonight and have even been on the Voy website. I texted DD and got a one word reply, “NO”.

im so sick of the constant snacking, always seeming to be hungry, the food noise (as it is now described).

I feel fed up, depressed and really big tonight. I think Id better sleep on it before rushing into anything I’ll regret.

I haven't updated in a while! It's been really busy here.
Last Wednesday I weighed 162lbs, this week I weighed 159.6lbs. I have lost 8.3lbs since the 1st of July! It is slow going, but overall the scales are headed in the right direction.

@poorpaws I decided to take wegovy pills for me. I know that others around me would say I don't need them, but I was tired of trying really hard to lose weight, only to gain! They are working for me, my loss isn't super fast. Only DH knows about me taking them, although I think others can start to see I'm losing weight.
I had mentioned them briefly to MIL, she hasn't asked me about them since or anything, so I'm hoping she's forgotten.

So in my experience, do your research, know your budget, and if you want to try them, do! Forget about anybody else! It's your body, your choice.

Official post holiday weigh in = 11s 6.5lb
that’s an overall gain of 5.5 while away which although is a lot, it’s not as bad as potentially I feared.

this week, I’m booked into bootcamp this evening and wed. I plan to get my 10k steps in every day including Tuesday (office day and notorious lazy day). Run wed, Thurs, Saturday. And use my gym even if just for a little yoga stretch. I am meeting an old friend of mine for drinks and food in Birmingham on Saturday which is the only derailment possible/ inevitable.

food is a bit sparse tonight as we get paid tomorrow so I haven’t done a big shop yet, I’ll do an order today. I do have a tuna steak for tonight though.

although I’ve gained and I’m so sad to be going back to work, I am feeling quite optimistic now about knuckling down and getting some pounds gone by the end of the year.

@thenewaveragebear1983 you sound so optimistic this morning and I don’t think your holiday weight gain was too bad at all.

well I didn’t even go on holiday and I’m now up to 11st 8.75 and Bear is a lot taller than I am. I had a total self-sabotage week, I was eating like I was actually trying to gain a lot of weight. I am going to see how this week goes and re-think the jabs although I know no one wants me to take them due to underlying health issues.

we’ll see what this week brings for all of us and then it’s September …

Yesterday, day one, went very very well but then doesn’t it always. It’s the rest of the days, weeks, months when I struggle but at the moment my commitment to losing weight is high again. How long this will last is anybody’s guess.

Have a good Tuesday, everyone

Three days sober. Fasting through the day while out and about. Had a few salads which I haven't had for quite a while. I don't know why as I really like salads. I seem to binge less at the moment (touch wood). Trying to digital detox a bit more on a night and get more sleep as I am often in a bit of a zombie state. Radio in the office makes me want to cry, so I try and get out and about as much as possible.

I’ve been sitting having breakfast this morning thinking. I want to get to a place where I lose a small amount every week, even quarter of a pound but a weekly loss. I also want to still enjoy treats without doing my normal ridiculous gluttony. If DP brings a pack of four doughnuts, two each, I at least want to enjoy one of them very occasionally to make life bearable. I’ve got to work on the detail but my aim is to lose a little, still enjoy a few treats and by December seeing a loss.

I need to negotiate around meals out, special occasions involving food etc but I’m liking the idea of slowly getting this weight gone over autumn and winter and feeling good next spring.

I agree @poorpaws, I don’t envisage a life with absolutely no treats. The problem with binge eating (well, one of them) is that it turns a treat into a misery every time. Even if i enjoy the food, eating it in a frenzied binge never feels good. For me as well it has to be something I can do long term (forever) because I am so over yo yo dieting now.

I had a good day today, I was at the office but I took my lunch, and didn’t visit the cookie counter at 3pm like I sometimes do. Got in absolutely starving but ate a sandwich rather than a biscuit so I take that as a win.

Today has gone okay, I had to dodge some bullets.

I was up for most of the night with nagging pain in the left side of my mouth. Had to go to the Vets for one of my dogs six monthly review so ignored the pain which was getting worse. Long story short, had an emergency appointment at dentist, have chronic gum disease and on antibiotics with regular saltwater mouthwashes.

Honestly, I’m falling apart! The good news is the Dentist is really near to the ice cream parlour and I was going to go, had a word with myself and walked home in the opposite direction 😁

Tomorrow I’m back at the hospital for more physio and then if it doesn’t rain, we’ll be going to the café but I’ll keep it as low-calorie as I can without actually feeling sorry for myself because I’m on a diet.

I’m hoping to have a really good loss this week and make up for last week and from then on start the small amount of weight loss every week and just see how it all goes.

I hope you are all okay and doing well. It’s very nearly autumn and that is my best time for losing weight and I hope it will be yours too

I was really tired today and just didn’t make good choices at all. Sometimes we just have days like that don’t we? At least you dodged your bullets @poorpaws, mine hit me 🤣

I would say I eat 20% less the last few weeks than I have the last few months, although the tummy size would prove otherwise. I'm drinking very little through the day as out and about a lot and I forget also, so I'm trying to get in a routine of taking a large bottle of water with me to bed to drink though the night. It seems to help a little. I plan to avoid alcohol for a few weeks at least also and start going swimming instead.

I’m going to give up drinking for September but can’t start til after Saturday as I am going for food and drink in Birmingham with an old uni friend who I haven’t seen for years.

currently sitting under my skylight watching a lightning storm and explaining to the dog that my love does not extend to walks in torrential rain!