Obese? Wanting to join a friendly thread ?

[SeatbeltExtender]

Hi

As my user name says this summer the Ryan Air seatbelt did not fit.
Yesterday I had to sit on a wooden deck chair and I found myself trying to Google what the weight limit could be

So tomorrow I start a diet.
So many threads on Mumsnet are for people much smaller than me
I'm 18 stones and 5lbs.

Please feel free to join if you are seriously overweight, please don't join if you are just averagely fat.

Hello everyone, 👋

Is it too late to join the party? I'm 5"3, 14 stone, BMI 34.7. Officially obese. No idea how it happened. I used to yo-yo around 9-10 .5 stone, size 10/12/14. I feel like I went to bed one day a size 12 and woke up the next day a size 22.

I had my last son just before I turned 39 and never lost the baby weight, and then slid straight into perimenopause and my weight gain exploded. Pre kids, I went to the gym 2 or 3 times a week, but I'm a single parent now and can't get out to exercise (and lack the energy and motivation to too!). Eating habits are awful now too. I feel like if there was another adult here in the house I would be embarrassed to demolish the snacks the way I do, but once the kids are in bed, and noone is watching... snack city! I think I see eating as something to do. I'm not even hungry half the time, just bored and in bad habits.

Wanted to join in with you all, pick up some tips, tricks, inspiration and maybe hold myself accountable somewhere too.

@SeatbeltExtender sorry to hear you are having a tough time at the moment. I'm sure you're not the first to gain weight on a thread and you certainly won't be the last!!

@Seaitoverthere DTS1 is certainly, er, challenging - he's a very sweet little boy but oh my, the MELTDOWNS and the lack of sleep is just dreadful

Welcome @ChiffandBipper that does sound tough - how old are your DC, could you involve them in any sort of exercise - walks, bike rides etc? DTS2 quite enjoys a walk if we can log it on Strava, he is very competitive does your ex-DP ever have the DC so you get a bit of time to yourself? I completely get the snacking - by the time DTS1 is asleep I need a bit of chocolate to perk myself up before I can face finishing the cleaning/ tidying/ making lunches for the next day! - I've taken to putting my DC in breakfast club once or twice a week just so I get an hour to myself for a proper shower and hairwash...

@EvangelineFox my kids are 4 and 7. Their dad isn't in the picture, lives a long way away, sees them maybe 3 or 4 times a year. We tried in the summer going for a run around the block. The first day was great, but the second day they both ended up crying and I ended up carrying the 4 yo most of the way and walking. Disaster! No rush to repeat that with the kids! Going to try to pick up my exercise again though in some way. Breakfast club is a good idea. Thank you 😊

Hi all! And welcome to all newcomers!

Weight loss is hard enough, never mind trying to do it when you are having a rough time @SeatbeltExtender but you don't need me to tell you that. You definitely aren't the first to have trouble getting going or stalling or even going up and you definitely won't be the last.

I have been officially diagnosed with 'hypertension' no medication as yet, they want me to make 'lifestyle changes' and they'll monitor me again in 3-6 months.

You're not the only one to set up a thread and gain. I am on Mounjaro and gained last month!! It's awful hard trying to lose weight

O.K. Confession time. I finally caved and have put myself on Mounjaro in a last ditch effort to finally lose something. I'm so fed up of fiddling around going up and down the same 2 pounds. I injected myself this afternoon with the first dose. Feel like this is last chance saloon. Everything crossed.

@recklessgran I fully understand and am not ruling it out in the future. Fingers crossed for minimal side effects.

Interested to see how you get on @recklessgran. I had never heard of this until a few months ago and was quite interested until I realised it was an injection, so quickly lost interest!
Less than half a pound off for me this week but I suppose it's all in the right direction, albeit slowly.
I haven't been very strict this week and went over my calories on a couple of days but I am trying to go with the flow and not fall back into the 'all or nothing' mentality I have when it comes to dieting. I once lost three stones over a year, fell off the wagon at my toddler's party tea them took 18 months (!) to get back on it.

@Katypp I'll certainly report back here. I did well on keto in the past and lost almost 3 stone, looked and felt great. Same old story - put it back on and more over Covid and simply can't get back there. My weight is now so heavy at 15st 7lbs that it's affecting my mobility, not helped by my age [68] and osteo in several joints.I've realised that only I can fix this and so although it feels like cheating here I am.
So far I'm O.K. although it's only day one. I'm strangly full, not hungry at all and peeing a lot.The injection was easy - I now need to do the work - diet and exercise and drinking all the water. I won't bombard this thread with daily updates as I do admire all of you struggling with the normal way but I just can't do it anymore. I'm on the Mounjaro starters thread but I will lurk here and check in weekly with you all just in case it helps anyone on here who might be considering doing the same. Have a great weekend everyone!

I'm all for the injections @recklessgran anything that helps people make a positive change without having to fight against food noise is a positive in my book. I'm getting Christmas out of the way (I have not been very organised this year and DD wants a Nintendo thinger, plus I've just bought all her birthday presents so I'm well and truly maxed out) and then I'm hoping to start Mounjaro in the new year. I have set myself a very loose goal of losing 2 stones by myself by then though.

(Sorry for injection derail to those not interested in them)

I had this and asked for help, they put me on candesartan 4mg which is a tiny dose apparently and it has normalised now. I think it might be reducing a bit due to weight loss too but not sure. For me it was definitely linked to stress / anxiety as it spiked then.

I really do think that it's more connected to trauma than lifestyle, though obviously that's not helping, @Orangesandlemons77 I'm firmly in a panicky/angry stage at the moment, a lot of things that I'd clearly suppressed have started to bubble up and I'm really struggling with what feels like very new events.

I stopped adding salt to food a long time ago, I already don't drink or smoke and my diet contains a heck of a lot more fruit and veg than it did a couple of months ago. I'm working on the exercise thing as well. It was easier when we had a dog. We'll see how I get on, I have a BP machine so can keep an eye.

I've been feeling really similar in recent years and perimenopause hasn't helped. I think the meds helped and also the recent weight loss meds too, walking and swimming is also helpful. I started stressing about the blood pressure which didn't help either! I like the Calm app, maybe that would help you too? Or Headspace

Oh god yes, the perimenopause is not helping me either @Orangesandlemons77 plus being told your blood pressure is high isn't that good for your blood pressure!

I have the finch app, it lets me set goals to tick off everyday, do breathing exercises even journal a bit and I like taking care of the little bird. Shes currently in Paris learning all about the city. Kind of like a mental health tamagotchi.

We have a little parrot, a conure, that is quite soothing! yes you can get into this cycle of stressing about the blood pressure and that makes it worse! I'm trying to get out of that. I'm hoping that with the weight loss I might come off the candesartan but for now it seems ok in terms of side effects, Whether it is that or the mounjaro it's back from about 137/90 on average to roughly 120/85 which is much improved. I also cut out caffeine, alcohol and salt.

I increased my medication Friday and am 1.6lbs up . I put on 7lbs restarting it a few weeks ago, lost a few pounds but now it is increasing again as the dose increased, It has taken a whole year to lose just over 2 stone 5lbs and I am getting pissed off. I thought I would have made it to 3 stone by now but every time I stop due to antibiotics or increase a dose I put on unless apart from once when I only put on a pound as managed a large calorie deficit and should have lost 6lbs but didn’t .

Before the meds I was losing over time to match the 3500 cal deficit equals a pound and was actually losing 10% over that. I guess it is a good thing I turned down steroids, goodness only knows how much I would increase 3 weeks on them but I am paying for lower weight gain on what I am taking with more pain as they aren’t as effective as steroids,

I get so pissed off reading some of the threads on here going on about gluttony and no self control.

Just checking in again. Hugs to @SeatbeltExtender you're really going through it at the moment I have no self control and have to be so strict with myself and having a plan is working so far...don't beat yourself up and restart when you feel ready. We're all here ready to listen.

I've done a lot of walking this week which is helping I think and a big reason for losing was about feeling less tired and more active so this is a big win

If people want to discuss the details of various injections can you start a new thread? Im worried it'll demotivate me

@NoDishiForRishi I was diagnosed with hypertension many years ago when I was a normal weight, did loads of exercise, was otherwise very healthy... but my 'D'P at the time was a massive sulker, I used to spend hours tiptoeing around him and walking on eggshells so as not to set off his explosive temper and live with the aftermath so for me it was definitely stress/ anxiety related. Since looking into an ADHD diagnosis for DTS1, it seems that many people with ADHD have too much of the stress hormone (cortisol?), you either have to exercise it out or medicate it out - hence why he's always so bouncy, I think! And I rarely get the chance to do enough exercise nowadays...

@ChiffandBipper that must be tough, to not get a regular break from your DC - I would honestly recommend using breakfast/ after school clubs if you can, just to get an hour or two to yourself! When mine were smaller and I was doing C25K, I'd take them to the local little play park, then I'd run up and down outside it whilst they played - we could see each other all the time. They were also happy to walk/ scoot round a couple of local nature reserves if we could take some duck food too

If anyone is interested in the weight loss injections, there were a couple of good hour-long discussions on LBC on Friday - James O'Brien and Shelagh Fogarty both covered it - you can listen to both via the LBC or Global Player apps. I'm not keen myself - even if I was allowed to take them with various other health issues, I'd then be worried about any side effects! - but wouldn't rule them out if completely necessary... I guess it bothers me that we (as a society) are trying to fix the symptoms of a wider problem, rather than tackling the problem? The problem being things like: lifestyles becoming more sedentary, people encouraged to use cars rather than putting money into public transport, 'bad' food is cheap whilst fruit and veg become more expensive, lack of basic cooking skills being passed on, people having to work more hours and not having the time/ energy to cook... and so on. Which doesn't mean it's the fault of the people who are taking weight loss injections, but society as a whole doesn't seem to be bothered about why people are becoming fatter. Maybe I'm reading too much into it here

DP is still going into work later in the mornings, meaning I don't get chance to weigh myself without him there. How annoying!

Morning all! It's Monday so it's weigh in day. I'm 1kg down. It feels nice to not be bouncing between 155 and 156. Hopefully that's the last time I'll be seeing that number. I'm so close to
one stone gone as well so I'm going to try and carry that forward as motivation this week. Fingers crossed eh?

Half term is here, so my week is going to be spent entertaining DD. We're going for a walk to the park in a bit. Tomorrow I'm getting my nails done so that will be a nice bit of self care.

Hope you are all doing well! Wishing you a good week!

Starting weight: 161.0kg (25.3 stones)

Goal weight: 72.0kg (11.3 stones)

Total Loss: 6.1kg (13.4lbs or 0.9 stones)
Still too lose: 82.9kg (13.0 stones)

16/09/24: 158.6kg Loss: 2.5kg (5.5lbs)
23/09/24: 157.1kg Loss: 1.5kg (3.3lbs)
30/09/24: 155.5kg Loss: 1.6kg (3.5lbs)
07/10/24: 156.1kg Gain: 0.6kg (1.3lbs)
14/10/24: 155.9kg Loss: 0.2kg (0.4lbs)
21/10/24: 154.9kg Loss: 1.0kg (2.2lbs)

http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/weightlosss_chat/5192165-considering-weight-loss-jabs-mounjaro-etc

I also took the liberty of starting a thread for those of us considering jabs so we don't clog up this one!

Thanks

Hi I've just turned 50 I'm 5 foot 2 and 14 stone , I'm so disgusted with myself im a fat barrel with huge boobs, I don't know where to begin

Well I joined this thread over a month ago and I have lost just 3lbs. Calorie counting is deffo not working for me.
When I started, the 2 oldest dc were going off to uni and work should have been calmer so I thought life would be settled enough to focus on my diet and exercise for a while. How wrong I was! Last week alone I had 3 meals at motorway service stations due to dd having a really rough time at university.
I need to find a new way to lose weight that doesn't involve constantly weighing absolutely everything I eat. I'm just too busy. I also found myself avoiding fruit and veg whilst calorie counting because I didn't want to weigh them, and avoiding them all together meant I could have wine or chocolate instead. Crazy thinking.

I miss the old weight watchers plan. Im a gold member and always went back to it to control my weight when i needed to. I could always fit it into my life and always lost weight. Then they changed the plan and I just can't stick to it anymore. It's so rigid and doesn't always make sense. Slimming world doesn't make sense to me at all. I don't want to do weight loss injections.
Help!

I totally get this! In for a penny, in for a pound! If I have one chocolate, I may as well finish the box. If I bend the diet a little, I may as well snap it in half and throw it out of the window! Well done for moving away from all-or-nothing mode 👏👏 I will try to follow suit

Hello. I see I joined this thread but then haven't posted again. So ... I'm still 16.10. Aiming for 14.00 by mid Jan (b'day). My worst habit is evening eating (crisps, cheese, chocolate - all the baddies). Mindlessly eating on front of TV is not the answer. So, early bath / bed / sewing / reading, even MNing lots would be better!
How's everyone else doing ? x