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Weight loss chat

A space to talk openly about weight loss journeys and challenges. Mumsnet hasn't checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. You may wish to speak to a medical professional before starting any diet.

Obese? Wanting to join a friendly thread ?

658 replies

SeatbeltExtender · 08/09/2024 17:33

Hi

As my user name says this summer the Ryan Air seatbelt did not fit.
Yesterday I had to sit on a wooden deck chair and I found myself trying to Google what the weight limit could be

So tomorrow I start a diet.
So many threads on Mumsnet are for people much smaller than me
I'm 18 stones and 5lbs.

Please feel free to join if you are seriously overweight, please don't join if you are just averagely fat.

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Eyesopenwideawake · 03/12/2024 22:20

SeatbeltExtender · 03/12/2024 22:17

Think how much weight I could have lost if I'd stuck with it when I started this thread.

The time has gone so quickly!

I have no clue where the days and weeks go...

Don't know if it would be of any interest but I made a mini-documentary with a client who had been struggling with her weight all her adult life. Happy to send you the YouTube link if you'd like.

WafferThinMint · 03/12/2024 23:44

So that went well-until I had seconds of home made chilli and white rice, then wraps, then a whole packet of biscuits. Felt like I'd had a stroke the next morning. Have just eaten a whole lasagne (rather than wrapping up half and putting in the fridge) plus left over mash and baked beans. My problem is food association, and whenever white carb is involved, I'm like a maniac until I have some, but just don't stop.
Off to soak some chia seeds for the morning and begin again.😳

MixedRaceMuslim · 04/12/2024 08:04

Hello,

I started at 20st 7lbs. I am currently 19st 10lbs. The struggle is real. I am average height. I have yoyo dieted my whole life and it would be great to be lighter and stay there.

Hopefully we can support each other..

I am going to make a filling breakfast as I'll be out today so may not get lunch.

X2 scrambled eggs.. tea spoon of soft cheese
Beans with soft cheese, tea spoon..
Mushrooms
Tomatoes
1 slice of toast
1 Linda mc cartney sausage..

This is a winning breakfast fot me as it keeps me full and satisfied for a good amount of time.

SeatbeltExtender · 04/12/2024 11:27

3 weeks to Christmas.
I'm trying again
But I suspect January will be when I get to really get going.
I have family coming over Xmas and I want to cook and eat.
But I will not be at work so I can exercise a little bit which may help.
As long as no gain over Xmas.

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Katypp · 04/12/2024 13:08

What are we all planning to do over Christmas? Diet or not?

Letsbe · 04/12/2024 13:16

@SeatbeltExtender well done for giving it another go. Keep at it and try and take it a meal at a time. Dont expect too much and put pressure on yourself.

ScreamingDelight · 04/12/2024 22:19

would love to join this thread. Feel like i am ballooning more each day! I have very little appetite but eat regardless. Tipping scales at 20st 5lbs. My heaviest ever weight and it is making me miserable.

Minnie888 · 05/12/2024 20:32

Welcome @ScreamingDelight 

@Katypp I'll be having a little break... it's Christmas after all Xmas Blush

CrispWinterSunshineBright · 08/12/2024 14:52

I'm working towards losing a few lbs more before xmas so then I can relax a bit but not put on everything I've lost in the holiday!

Am eating low carb LOADS of protein & going to the gym.

It's coming off slowly. I love NOT calorie counting & I also love NOT being hungry.

I have lost 1/2 a stone but still have 2.5 to go. So really don't want xmas to bugger up what I've achieved so far.

Anyone up for trying to get rid of 4lbs in the next couple of weeks?

Froel1982 · 09/12/2024 13:06

Can I join? I'm about 18st. I don't like weighing myself really as I have previously gotten obsessive about weighing myself. Although I've had to recently, due to an upcoming hospital appointment.

I lost 10st in my early 20s, and since 2 pregnancies, PND, and Covid, I've gained most of it back, and I'm sick of hating being in family pictures, and i want to run again, and I want to sit on the floor with my kids and not feel like I need a winch to get up again, plus all the health concerns.

I am wanting to lose a considerable amount of weight, but with 2 little children, and pmdd symptoms, I really want to do it in a slow and sensible way, that is more akin to health and lifestyle changes, rather than the crazy, unhealthy diet that I've done in the past (1000/1200 cals a day, no carbs, and marathon training - looking back on it horrifies me).

But I have, bought my favourite summer dress in a size 12. At an 18/20 I already own and love this dress, so it feels like a safe bet, but a good incentive to lose some of the weight.

Minnie888 · 10/12/2024 16:56

@Froel1982 of course you are more than welcome! Are you going to follow a plan of any kind or look to adjust / make changes yourself?

WW just released a new plan before Xmas so I'm trying to adjust to that and the fact that potato's are now free! I need to not go crazy... a few months in the boredom with same old foods is creeping in a bit so it's come at a good time...

Ideally I will lose a little more before Xmas and then have a week or so off before back on the wagon in the new year.

I ran for the train tonight. Sounds silly but I haven't run like that in ages and didn't think I would be able to do that was a nice surprise and spurs me on....

Froel1982 · 11/12/2024 06:40

@Minnie888 I wasn't going to follow a plan as such, as they've never suited
me, and i've always struggled with the structure of them.

I'm trying to be more intuitive, and simply approaching it as, one meal at a time, and making a good choice at each meal, cutting down on snacks, being more active in the day while I look for the type of workouts I like to do. I do find that eating more protein/good fat satisfies me more than eating a lot of carbohydrates.

I also haven't set myself a time limit or goal as such, I obviously bought that dress, but as I already own it in my current size, it'll be waiting for me when I get there! I suppose another reason behind the lack of plan, is to be a good role model to my kids, I'd hate it if they felt like they saw me dieting in the way I did in my 20s and felt that was normal (it wasn't, it was extreme). I also recognise now that it is a life long change and I want it to be sustainable, even if it takes longer, I also want to be gentle with myself and build my confidence.

Welldone! Running is a huge achievement. Those non scale victories
are such incredible motivators. I think I cried the first time I ran any distance, as it was such a big thing for me.

I think with Christmas, I'll indulge but still practice moderation. I'm not good at stopping when I'm full, I grew up in a "finish your plate or your not leaving the table household", and I'll tell you, that mindset sticks with you! So I will be trying to listen to my hunger cues, stopping when full, and saying no more.

Minnie888 · 16/12/2024 08:26

How is everyone getting on? I'm trying to keep my activity levels high but it is difficult as I work from home and so much of the time it's expected to be on teams calls... so I try and get my exercise where I can... also dealing with a poorly DH who seems to have caught this cough thing and a poorly DS which could be a range of things going around the school! Xmas Confused roll on last week of term...

Seaitoverthere · 16/12/2024 11:56

Flat out with decorating . Trying to eat at maintenance roughly as don’t have the energy to do what I need to do if in deficit currently.

Froel1982 · 16/12/2024 13:35

Well I am barely exercising, but I've made good food choices today. I'm just exhausted with Christmas prep, a DD with an ear infection, a 2 year old DS who is a whirlwind. Thank fully my husband has bought and wrapped 2/3 of the present load!

I did leave my breakfast for work at home, and bought a plain porridge pot, a pot of Lindvarg quark, and a banana (better than the sausage bap I'd usually buy)

Katypp · 23/12/2024 08:21

How are we all doing? Final fast day before Christmas for me today!

Seaitoverthere · 28/12/2024 15:47

I hope you have all had a lovely Christmas! I weighed this morning and was the same as I was end of last week which is 4.5lbs up from my lowest this year though that weight was a bit of an anomaly and 3.5lbs up.

I’m ok with that as am 2.5 stone down from when I started which is 14 months ago so I am averaging 2.5lb a month. Most of it was lost at the start though. I really need to get my weight down a bit quicker than that that though for various health conditions so have decided I am going to try Mounjaro for a bit. Not planning to be on it until the end but feel I do want to try it and see if I can get the next couple of stone off a bit quicker otherwise I feel I will be still trying to lose at the end of the decade 😀

SeatbeltExtender · 31/12/2024 23:25

2025!

Here I come.
One day at a time.

Feel free to join me but only if you are properly obese.

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Seaitoverthere · 01/01/2025 07:41

Happy Nea Year ! Really hoping that this is the year that obesity becomes a thing of the past for us all.

Katypp · 01/01/2025 08:13

Fallen off the wagon completely.
Have done lots of walking though.
Will weigh myself on Saturday and get back on it with a fd on Monday 😬

Seaitoverthere · 02/01/2025 08:35

Hopefully the walking will have mitigated things @Katypp

Haruka · 02/01/2025 11:11

I'm not sure what "properly obese" is, but I'll happily join, because the NHS website put my initial weigh-in on NYE at a BMI of 36.4 😱 so I guess that counts?

Since then I've dropped 1.1kg already, taking it down to a BMI of 36 exactly this morning. I know a lot of that will be water.

I was sick of the sight of myself, more than anything, and I refuse to buy new clothes in this size at the moment. It really hit home when I was embarrassed to see myself in the video call with my relative, whom I hadn't seen live in many years (I live abroad in the UK). A lot of it comes from too much alcohol and too large portions, but is also the result of a serious eating disorder when I was younger, and subsequent medication, which had me balloon in weight. I've stopped the medication 2 years ago and stopped gaining too much, but then the alcohol use crept up. I'm nearly 40 and knee aches have set in. It's hard to look in the mirror, knowing that a few years ago I was slim and quite stunning.

So a lot has to change.

For now, I am concentrating on cutting out alcohol completely - today is day 3 of that. I am also more mindful of when I eat, and how much, and I have taken up exercise again. I'm not doing anything too big, but I am keeping busy with a few other changes in my life, including an overhaul of how I look after myself and my surroundings.

Sunshineandrainbow · 02/01/2025 11:32

Hi everyone.
Hoping I am ok to join, having been on the 10 stone to lose thread which has gone very quiet I need new motivation and support.

I have been a food addict all my adult life and food has been used when I am sad happy etc. I have also been a secret eater and still prefer to eat on my own. So currently DD has her dinner and then I have mine later on my own, not sure where this stems from and I also hide wrappers.

Start weight 18.10
Current weight 15.2

Desperate to see the 14's!!

Froel1982 · 02/01/2025 12:09

Welcome @Sunshineandrainbow and @Haruka . I'm a recent poster to this thread as well.

I feel you on the painful knee's and secret eating. My secret eating stems from difficult times growing up, and I just didn't want to deal with my Mum's reaction, so I kept it secret. I'm 36 now, so I'm attempting to break the habit of a lifetime and retrain my brain to not use food as an emotional crutch.

Does anyone use an online personal trainer? I need some guidance with exercise, but in person trainers are expensive.

Haruka · 02/01/2025 12:18

Thank you, @Froel1982 No PT, no, but I use the current barrage of calisthenics promo videos as inspiration for my own at-home exercises - the ones I can manage, at least, which is embarrassing in itself. Once I have got down to a suitable weight, body strength and endurance I will likely take up some classes that require a degree of strength and limberness - I'm not decided yet, it could be martial arts or sailing - anything with a slight sense of adventure.

@Sunshineandrainbow That's an amazing loss, well done! How have you managed that?