DIET FAILED AGAIN? Thread three. Join us in a friendly group who are very supportive without any judgement.

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Thought I'd save you the hassle @poorpaws.

Well done for those who have lost and good luck to those struggling.

My focus at the moment is just to be wiser for food selection and to keep active. The slow moving scales can wait although I did check this morning and showing I'm nearly back to 14 and a half stone.

Hi everyone..I've been busy at work and dealing with dsd in and out of hospital.. feeling very overwhelmed by life but have managed to stay at 72.4 kg which isn't too bad but I'm on a bit of a 'i hate my body' downer.
I just can't seem to commit to weights and strength training the same way I can to running...not sure why .
None of my clothes fit me nicely despite my weight now being same as three yrs ago. Boobs are bigger and back rolls and waist disappearing..despite hrt
I feel like a flabby blob...though rationally know I'm not really.
Anyone god words of wisdom or magic they'd like to share...

@Theredjellybean i’m sorry your dsd is unwell. It’s completely understandable that it’s draining you and making you feel like that. Make sure you carve a little time out for yourself, even just to meditate or do a gentle yoga. The rest will come.
I feel the same as you about running/stength. Nothing gives me the buzz like running does. I never feel as motivated to work hard at strength unless I’m at a class and then I’m limited to 6am classes as they are the only ones I can reliably fit in. I lose my mojo a lot!
one thing I do at home is something I christen ‘the playlist of pain’ (which isn’t very motivating, granted!) but basically it’s four tracks and each one I do an exercise/superset of body weight strength exercises to. So eg, track one- in the verse I do sit ups, in the chorus I do a v sit hold; track 2: every time the lyrics say a certain word I do a burpee, track 3: I do squats, etc…. They are all tracks I love and basically it’s a 16 minute whole body workout that I do without really thinking about it. It’s set on my Spotify and I play it through the tv in the lounge, my ds will join me sometimes too.

That's a brilliant idea.
What exercises do you do when it's not the word or lyrics?

@Theredjellybean I have great faith in you, you know I do. You've hit yet another rough patch in your life and I know your dsd means a great deal to you. You are allowed to wallow for a little time but I also know you are a very strong woman and you will get back on track. It's so difficult when life becomes so hard we nearly give up but I know you won't, not for good you won't. You've done really well here, you are very much a valued member, atm just do what you can.

I wasn't well at all yesterday and DP is sure it's because I'm not eating enough (I've been here before) so I'm having bigger, healthy meals. I'm trying not to snack too much but did eat some chocolate buttons from one of my Easter eggs last night. Life is much better with a bit of chocolate.

I don't think I'll lose much, if anything, this week but I'll keep trying as I have been doing for what seems a very long time.

Keep doing as much as you can everyone, maybe we'll all take a little break for Easter.

@Theredjellybean it depends. I’ll do a hold, eg a squat hold or similar between squats, v hold between rounds of sit ups, or just rest (eg in the track Roxanne, do a burpee every time they say Roxanne, the rest of the time you rest…) it really depends. My PT once did a whole 40 minute class like this, the ones I do are my own version of it! I find it gets me going if I don’t feel motivated, I also do it after a run sometimes if I want a bit more of a workout.

I’ve had a bit of a day off today, I had bacon and mushrooms for breakfast, skipped lunch, then went shopping with ds and we had a frappe in costa as a treat- so that was my lunch! Then steak and salad for dinner and a few glasses of cava. I will have gone over on my calorie allowance, but I haven’t gone mad and I haven’t just gone ‘sod it’ and eaten everything in sight. I made cherry scones and cheese scones earlier for Mother’s Day and did not touch a single one! So something has definitely clicked for me this week.

tomorrow: long run at 8am, probably will skip breakfast as will be having a bigger lunch; I’ve done a quinoa salad, coleslaw, chicken, gammon and some sandwiches, plus scones for a little afternoon tea style lunch with my mum and dad. I’ll go heavy on the salads and try to avoid the carbs! Dinner will be roast chicken and veg but nothing too fancy. I will also really try to get my 3l water in, that is making a huge difference I think.

Went to bed late again. Will keep trying though. Have a bit of a lie in so doing a few tummy clenches. Couldn't resist weighing but still 14 and a half stone again. Was in the lift yesterday and the mirror wasn't kind so hopefully give me some motivation today and beyond.

Feeling fat and useless. Still 18 stone and so uncomfortable- even daft things like putting a bra on or cutting my toenails is tricky. Wafer thin relative proudly told me she’d lost a stone which made me feel even worse.

But- got a Les mills online membership and have done several workouts over the last couple of weeks. The advantage of online classes being you can pause it and have a break. Just me? Too embarrassed to do any exercise in public so hiding at home is more achievable. Trying to eat more veg and make it appealing eg roasted cauli, spinach dahl, chicken Caesar salad.

Still feels like a hopelessly huge amount to lose. 8 stone. A whole person!

Stay positive @CatsGinAndTwiglets I started at 18st10 back in 2021.

I'm joined this group in November at 17st11 and am now 15st 12. It has taken 5 months to lose just under 2 stone but I can see the difference in how I feel in myself already. You don't have to lose 8 stone to start feeling better and be able to reach your feet! Set small goals - the first half stone, the first stone, getting under 17st, etc. it feels more achievable and before you know it you'll notice small wins, clothes getting looser, less aches and pains and discomfort.

I'm not losing weight the fastest but I do feel like I am managing to maintain the pace while still being able to enjoy my life and treat myself every so often. Don't be too hard on yourself. You can do it.

Thank you- really appreciate your reply and encouragement.

@CatsGinAndTwiglets I don't like you calling yourself fat and useless, would you call anyone else that? You may be overweight but most certainly not useless and you won't be overweight for ever. Stick with us, the most amazing people here, and we'll help you lose weight and rebuild your self esteem. Please try to be positive 😀

I received a lot of chocolate for Mother's Day, I've eaten a lot of chocolate 🙈

@CatsGinAndTwiglets 💐

i had a pretty good weekend. Both days I have relaxed a bit with food and had a few treats but also have had healthy choices where I could as well. I have eaten some bread and cake today as well, and wine on Friday and sat. I ran 15km this morning with my friend but I really struggled for the last 3km. I did weigh myself after running because I’m always low after and it cheers me up! I don’t count it as an official weigh in though!

this week I will be continuing with my macro focussed plan. I found it really helpful and it definitely made me eat more veg and think about what I was eating, and having no bread and sugar really helped as well. I’ve prepped some quinoa salad and a fruit salad as well.

tomorrow
No run, but I will do a walk in the morning and a workout with weights in the evening,
food: try for no breakfast; quinoa, salad and feta, with fruit during the day; dinner will be roast chicken with veg. 3l water, take my vitamins. Aiming for 1500 cals, keep the carbs low.

I was really boosted by my weight loss last week and I think it’s the realisation I needed to remember that this is the only way it works for me. Much as I try different things, lower carb is the only way really I can get both weight off and not feel starving all the time.

have a good week everyone!

@poorpaws ..thank you for such lovely uplifting words..not just for me but for all .

@Theredjellybean I meant every word 🌹

It looks like I've gained a pound this week. Not very good but I think my Mother's Day chocolate binge was to blame. It's taken me some time, but I think I've found a pattern to my chocolate binges. It seems to be when I'm overtired, don't do my exercises and just want to sit and relax. DP was in the garden yesterday so I was doing housework and I definitely did too much, was very overtired, didn't do my exercises and binged on chocolate all evening. I've had very little sleep and I wonder if it's the sugar rush having not had much sweet for a very long time. I must note this before Easter when I can consume a lot of Easter eggs.

It's really nasty, cold wet weather here so the dog walk may be off. Supermarket shop this morning and will try and make better choices.

I hope everyone is doing well, unlike me.

96.2 kg this morning. Stayed the Same. I dont mind this, I’ve had a relaxed week, but not binged, and that is a life skill. I’m starting to understand the benefits of slow change. We went out for a meal with friends, and I had beer, but really thought about It .I wanted it. It was delicious, went so well with the curry. But I did not over order or over eat, and felt better for it. We are going away this week, so I will aim again for relaxed maintenance and then get back on it next week. But I will try not to gain, because it is so demoralising to keep losing the same weight. I’ve done 98-96, no going backwards!
Sympathy to those who are struggling with the weight loss/ self worth tangle. Be kind to yourselves. Even if it doesn’t seem so, you have made changes and the benefits of that will soon be apparent.

72.2 kgs here..I'm pleased with that.
I feel quite motivated today...it's this group...so nice to be supported.
Trying to track better this week.
I measured my "splash" of milk in my coffee frother today...it was 100 MLS ..it really was tiny amount.my coffee is like a cortado or macchiato...it was 50 calories..I have at least five a day.
I used to roughly count 100 calories for milk...

Half a pound down here.... 15st 2.5lb. Need 8 weeks til Easter at this rate. Oh well.... onwards we go.

I've had friends staying for weekend so way too much wine and then so tired yesterday after all the cleaning and cooking that I cracked and ordered a takeaway as just didn't want to cook anymore.

But first day of spring tomorrow, so fresh start for me. Determined to lose something this week.

Reading everyone else's progress and struggles all help, as I'm not alone in finding this hard. So thanks everyone for being supportive of us all. We can do this.

Good grief I am tired today. And a bit hormonal (due on in 2 days). Went for a brisk walk this morning before work, and my food has been pretty good although I have definitely felt myself wanting more carbs.

I’m on an away day with work tomorrow, lunch is provided so I imagine it will be sandwiches and salad and cakes. It’s an early start as well as I’m getting the 7.30 train into town so I’ll probably take a coffee on the train and manage til lunchtime. I won’t get a workout in tomorrow due to timings.

it must be hormones but today I feel fat and frumpy and bloated even though I was the lightest I’ve been in ages at the weekend. I have also felt quite down emotionally, (had my first wobble about my new job today, 2 weeks in and I just had that ‘I’m never ever going to learn all this’ moment which I’m sure we all get). I’m not going to eat my feelings with sugar and chocolate, I’m going to try really hard to keep my head on track and ride out the pmt!

hope everyone is doing well. It’s the first day of spring tomorrow and I hope the sun shines for us all ☀️

Haven't had the energy or motivation for much exercise but just doing gentle stretches and eating a lot of fish and veg last couple of evenings have seemed to help a lot. Hopefully I can start losing again as seem to be stuck on 14.7 stone.

I'm finding looking in the mirror helps me keep focused a bit more.

I'm really struggling again. I'm so tired and just want to sit and eat anything with a lot of sugar in it. I'm also struggling to do my exercise dvd which I was doing daily. I never seem to have much time now, or DP is here, or I've just eaten ... any excuse.

I am considering a new regime to kick start renewed willpower. I'm thinking of getting up earlier, maybe 6.30 ugh! so that my exercises are done before I start anything else. I think I'll try for tomorrow morning as I definitely need something to make me do them.

For those struggling like me, I know I keep repeating myself but just keep on trying and finding new ways to lose this bloody fat 🙊

@poorpaws You’ve lost a lot of weight recently. I wonder if you are actually getting enough calories from your meals? Maybe you need to have slightly larger portions and also factor in one treat a day. If you make up all the deficit with chocolate your blood sugars will be all over the place. I don’t think I’ve putthat well, but I hope you get my drift.

just berating myself for hypocrisy here.I made porridge this morning but just couldn’t eat it, so dull. So I gave it to the dogs and had a mini hot cross bun with jam and butter. Large pice of chocolate cake for elevenses and I’m lounging on the sofa. Not good. Get up zebra!

@Zebracat I think you are right. I have been making my portions smaller and having something like beans on toast instead of the "Proper" meals I used to make. I'm ok all day with porridge for breakfast (😁) and soup with broccoli at lunch time but in the evenings I am ravenous. I try to have something nice as a treat in the evening, usually a granola bar, sweet but a little healthier than loads of chocolate. I must do better before the weight piles back on, I've been here before 😞

@poorpaws i find porridge makes me absolutely ravenous. I need a high protein breakfast. I also swear by getting up early and getting it done, it removes any chance of something coming up or losing motivation. I found that the only gym session I could realistically commit to twice a week was 6am circuits - sounds hideous but actually I go, I get it done, I’m in the shower by 7.

in contrast to this, today I’ve had a difficult day. The away day was very draining and I have cracked at the station and eaten a bag of mini eggs and a wispa gold while waiting for my train home. Oh well.

Tomorrow I’m wfh, I have a class at the gym as I missed today and I might try to get a run in at lunchtime as well as I haven’t done one since Sunday. I’m due on which doesn’t help so my only agenda food wise tomorrow is: protein, water, veg!

@Zebracat I've got my act together today thanks to you.

I did my exercises after the dog walk which delayed lunch. I then made soup for the week (my very house proud neighbour turned up with some fish for me, my kitchen was such a mess, so embarrassing). I delayed my evening meal by cleaning my bedroom and making the kitchen look a bit better. So all in all a good day and I will be in bed early if I have to get up early so there isn't much time to snack (I've just sat down). I think I'll have my granola bar as that is my sweet treat but no supper as Ive eaten a lot more for my evening meal.

I went off track for about four days I think so I have to make up for that. Easter is looking dangerously close now and I don't think I can make my goal but I'll try for something near it.

I hope everyone is doing well and the Easter challenge will have at least some winners.