DIET FAILED AGAIN? Thread three. Join us in a friendly group who are very supportive without any judgement.

[TalkToTheHand123]

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Thought I'd save you the hassle @poorpaws.

Well done for those who have lost and good luck to those struggling.

My focus at the moment is just to be wiser for food selection and to keep active. The slow moving scales can wait although I did check this morning and showing I'm nearly back to 14 and a half stone.

@poorpaws , have you tried any methods to combat the chocolate? Cold turkey? Keeping it out the house?

Whenever I have chocolate, I tell myself it's not my friend, doesn't taste as nice as I think and to remember the sickly feeling to try stop me buying or eating any more chocolate. Whenever I'm offered chocolate, I like the feeling I can resist and tell myself people are trying to challenge me and I'm up for it!

I find having a glass of water usually settles me and fights cravings.

Easier said than done though 💪😧

@TalkToTheHand123 I am a proper chocolate addict. I have tried everything but nothing works. Sadly I could eat any amount of chocolate and never feel sickly, I just never get that I've had enough, feel sick, don't want any more feeling.

I've beaten cigarettes and alcohol and also out of control spending habits but I can't stop the chocolate habit, it awful.

If there is such a thing, I'm from an addictive family, my father chain smoked and drank a lot and my brother smoked and drank whisky in great volumes, sadly both no longer with us. I think I will always have some habit or other. When I stopped smoking I used nicotine gum as a crutch, got addicted to that and spent a long chewing constantly. I swapped that for normal chewing gum and chewed that for years 🙈

I'm also addicted to Diet Coke, I drink tons of the stuff, take 5 cans on a dog walk with a metal straw. This is so embarrassing but true, there's no hope for me is there 🤐

As an aside, I remember many years ago for Comic Relief at my office they asked me to eat 10 (I think) chocolate crème eggs and be sponsored to do so with the whole office watching me. My reply was "well thats not a challenge, give me a real challenge". Very outing if any of my old office friends read this.

10 crème eggs😱 we buy them for the underweight teen because I never never ever would…

@poorpaws i’m a chocolate and sugar addict as well, and I could eat 10 crème eggs. I have literally no off switch. It’s like I don’t taste sugar like other people do. I’ve also kicked smoking (and I was a heavy and very addicted smoker) - maybe there’s a theme? I know when I worked in prisons, the (ex) heroin addicts would have 6 or 7 sugars in their hot drinks, one lad had 9 😱 just for the hit. my only tip is to try to eat it a bit more mindfully. I’m getting quite good now and refusing bad chocolate. If it’s cheap and crumbly or greasy, then no. And I also recommend hypnosis, when I’m listening to hypno regularly my sugar control goes up so much.

I left my temp job yesterday, 2 weeks of freedom before my new role starts. Felt a bit down about it, but I didn’t drink last night as I am really not enjoying alcohol these days. I did eat a lot though. I’ve not lost anything this week, I’m fact I’m yo-yo-ing around the same 2lbs. Just about getting away with it though.

starting today I need to knuckle down, no waiting til Monday. I’m getting really lazy with my meals, two days this week I’ve just eaten loads of toast at 4.30 and then not had any dinner, but that makes me feel very bloated and unhealthy. I’m back on my nutracheck app and going to measure and track strictly.

what’s everyone’s plans for the weekend, and half term? I am going to clean and clear out - toys, clothes, junk…. Room by room. Can’t wait! And try to exercise every day, do my hypno every day. And drink 3l of water every day.

@thenewaveragebear1983 . Interesting. I was also an absolutely devoted smoker. Stopped 4 years ago at the age of 58, still don’t know how I managed it. And I worked with lots of addicts and remember the sugar thing. I do love sweet things, but I have trained myself to be discerning and to limit access to the stuff I love. For example, I got Lindt strawberry and cream balls for Valentines Day, and I have no upper limit for them, but even though I didn’t want to, I shared them with my husband! I cultivate an air of casual generosity, and it’s actually ok now. I get pleasure from their pleasure, or something.

@Zebracat yes really interesting. I have always had a sweet tooth and always had very little control, even as a child I would binge on sweets or biscuits. I think maybe the addictive behaviour is just all interlinked. I specifically feel it when I’m feeling down, like I am chasing a boost/emotional comfort and only sugar will do. But I have zero moderation.

and yes, absolutely to the Lindt balls. I had some salted caramel ones and they were so so so deliciously moreish. Won’t be buying those again!!!!

I think there is also a link to childhood neglect. I grew up very poor, and there was never quite enough. The thing that feels different to me about this attempt to lose weight is that I do seem, finally to have learned that it’s ok to say no to food, it’s fine to be hungry, my needs will still be met. I do have self control and I can take ownership of the decisions I make. And sometimes, maybe even quite often, I will choose to eat something lovely, and unnecessary and I won’t feel bad about it. But it will be conscious and mindful.
Mostly when I tried to stop smoking , I worked on a deprivation model, that I really loved it and wanted to carry on, but couldn’t. I had to switch that round and realise that smoking was an impediment, and that I needed to freely choose to embrace life without it, and that this would bring me massive benefits . The lovely thing about chocolate is that is possible for me to have it in moderation. I dont know what I would do if that wasn’t the case.

Havent weighed yesterday r today because I forgot. Probably due to a good night out with friends last night. As I had wine and pizza no chance of a loss, but sometimes just got to prioritise doing something to make you happy.

Doing a 10 hour

Urgh, hit the post button instead of space bar 🤭

Doing 10 hour shift and climbing the walls a bit as didn't bring much food. I'll just have to power through. 😔💪

Talking of Lindt, this was made for DP for Christmas and he didn't give me any except one salted caramel because I hadn't tried that flavour. Lindt is my favourite chocolate.

Good grief @poorpaws LTB💐🍫🍫🍫

I wouldn't be sharing my strawberry balls with him!

Ended up at McDonald's drive through (was picking up supplies for a local service nearby with a colleague and was asked), managed to avoid the menu. I didn't ask if the colleague I was on with wanted anything as watching her eat a McDonald's would have pushed me over the edge 🤭.

That’s a real test of your resolve @TalkToTheHand123 , well
done!

I have had a really good day today, I’ve managed 1500 calories, no alcohol, no snacks. I genuinely can’t remember the last time I had a day like that, even less so a weekend!

i’m planning similar tomorrow. I hope to go for a run in the morning but all day I’ve had a slight twinge in my hip flexor/groin so I don’t want to aggravate that by running too far on it, I’ll see how it is in the morning. My food tomorrow is all planned, try not to eat until properly hungry in a little nod to IF, then will have a salad lunch with feta cheese, and dinner will be roast chicken. I’ve promised the children they can have pancakes as they are out on Tuesday, but I may make myself some banana ones if I have enough calories leftover.

It certainly was @thenewaveragebear1983 . I'm getting used to it a bit more now.

Bought some Kale a couple of days ago and started making some soup with it. Using protein tubs from Asda to drink out of now rather than the big yoghurt bottles (please don't judge 😂). Seems to be more palatable. The kale soup seems to be quite good for metabolism, detoxing and keeping me feeling full. Hopefully scales will confirm over the next few weeks.

Can I come back , please? Paws may well remember me from ages back. I dropped out when I had major surgery - which did not go well. On the upside I lost nearly 2 stone as a mix of having large amounts of intestine removed and being on "nil by mouth" for the best part of a month. I have been trying to adjust to having a stoma bag which involves some pretty odd eating plans. Anyway, I am now 12 st 4lbs and need to lose at least 2 stone to make the next round of surgery easier. Sorry to hear about your pup, Paws, I remember how frantic with worry I was when Freya developed a large lump.

Morning all...welcome back bjarnam.
I'm so fed up ..weight has yo-yoed for last four weeks but I've had a good week and was 72.4 (the lowest point I've got to since Christmas)yesterday so was hoping to crack it and drop again this morning.
Yesterday ate under calories and today 73.2
I mean ...WHY ..
I should go for a run today but instead I've gone back to bed to sulk

@Bjarnum hi <waves frantically> of course I remember you, how lovely to hear from you again, I'm so pleased you're back. I'm so sorry to hear of your health worries and hope you're ok now. I remember Freya too, we were all so worried about her. The wedding too of course with rude guests and the problem with the wisteria and if I remember correctly you're in Ireland. Have I got it all right? Anyway I'm seriously delighted you re-joined us and I don't think I've lost any weight since we last "spoke" 😬

I'm starting again, again 🙄 I've gained 2.25 lbs this week and it's Monday again so I'm starting again again ...

Im food shopping this morning and buying very little apart from chicken breasts which I'll batch cook. Im re-starting my dvd exercises because if nothing else my problem shoulder is feeling better from the stretching. I'm taking over the dog walks from DP while he looks after Molly and she can go on a very short walk today too (she's such an an active dog and needs a walk now).

Finally please welcome back @Bjarnum, she is so lovely and will add a great deal to this thread, she's also naturally funny and a very genuine person, I feel like I've known her for years. You've made my day @Bjarnum.

Ok everyone, enough of me going on. 7 weeks to Easter Monday and I've not even completed my January goal yet, I'm on it!

I hope the scales are good to everyone who weighs today.

@Theredjellybean that made me laugh, I sulk too when my weight goes up for no good reason. When you've finished your sulk join me in a positive "I can do this" mood and this week we'll both lose a few lbs. 👍

Thank you poorpaws...your message has made me feel better.

Hi all. 2lbs gain. A bit suprised as been quite good food and alcohol wise. Haven't done much exercise (although did some weights) and a few late nights, but will try give it some welly this week.😊

Hi @Bjarnum welcome back!

I've had a bit of a disastrous February diet wise. I haven't been tracking my calories at all so need to restart that and I'm back to where I was at the start of the month. So I suppose it could be worse. Leaves me with 3.5 lbs to lose in 8 days to make my target which is never going to happen. I guess I'll set myself a new target. 7 weeks til Easter? Let's get 7 pounds off. That will put me at 15st 10.5 which would be a 10 year low. That's the aim.

I was hoping to be under 15 st for the summer. We shall see.

On the bright side I'm off work this week while baby is in nursery so planning to climb a mountain tomorrow! That's got to help a bit right? Probably wouldn't have considered it 2.5 stone ago either...

Just hoping that my super fit DH doesn't leave me behind! He's 6 foot tall and weighs 12 stone and never stops eating. It's rather irritating. I keep waiting for middle aged spread to catch up with him and it's not happening. 🤨

@poorpaws What a good memory you have! Almost 100% except I'm in Wiltshire, rather than Ireland. Great to see you soldiering on. I did miss not checking in - hospital wifi was awful and I was there for months. ( A substantial part of me is still there!) @effiesgoldwig I have a husband like that too. Wonderful man but should have the decency to weigh more than me. !"12.03 this morning so rather pleased with myself ... and tempted to celebrate with a large roast dinner Hope you are all well and staying on task

97.4 today, so, as far as I can figure it out, I have lost over a kilo this week. I have swum a lot, and started to wake my garden up after a long winter. Also, I realised that minimum pain relief was causing my insomnia, so I’ve been taking more and I am sleeping so well, within the prescribed limits.
I had a very modest target for February, to get to or under 97, and I think I will make it. I’m going away for 2 nights at the end of March. I would love to be 95 ish by then. But 7 lbs in 7 weeks also sounds great @effiesgoldwig . That would take me to about 93. And then onto 90 or less by summer, but I may be getting ahead of myself!
Another 12 stone husband here, I bloody hate it, he has gained a bit and tries to lose weight alongside me. I don’t want that. I’m trying to reduce the differential, and it has gone from 30 kilos to 17.
And welcome to @Bjarnum .