DIET FAILED AGAIN? Thread two. Join us in a friendly supportive thread.

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Thanks @poorpaws . Feeling positive so hers to a new month and 🤞 we all make our monthly goal.

@Katiepants27 welcome, we are all encouraging here and we've all been there! A few months back I made the error of buying new accurate scales thinking I was doing well... oops 😂 well done on your bike ride. I'm petrified of cycling. I got a spin bike in lockdown and used it to dry bedsheets. To be fair it worked great...

@poorpaws still warmish here in london, I put jeans on this morning and regretted it!

@Readytostartagain I seem to always be having rubbish couple of weeks, making a bit of progress and then having rubbish again. It's exhausting! Nice to see you here again ❤️

@TalkToTheHand123 sounds like you are on a roll (not a bread roll), got everything crossed for you for the next weigh in!

Oh hello September. It's DH's birthday at the end of the month and I'm getting him a fancy spa break, so it would be nice to be... 10st 3lbs (2.5lbs off). Spa is more for me than him, I feel wrung out like an old flannel. One or other of the children have been sick all week so I've done no work, no exercise and no washing. Off to tackle Laundry Mountain... if I don't come back send a search party...

Hope so @triplecheeese . I was out and about today and would usually have a cheeky treat but somehow managed to avoid it.

I'm currently telling myself to get to 14 stone before any unavoidable treats! Hopefully will set a new target if I ever get there to avoid putting any back on!

Had to visit a different office today where there's pasties and cake on offer. Why do they do this to me? 😂

Fortunately I've been able to decline and this week we aren't having burger and chips or fish and chips to lead me astray.

I'm actually planning to go to the gym in a few hours too (check me out 😁) as I'm popping to my parent's to pick up dd(6) and my mam doesn't have food ready until a bit later and I struggle with the weight (my joke for the day).

The thought of the scales rewarding me has been helping a lot, touch wood.

@TalkToTheHand123 office snacks are wild aren't they. I work in the fitness industry so everyone (except me) is young and lithe, but if anyone brings in treats they fall on them like feral animals 😂 my absolute kryptonite is those mini millionaires shortbreads. They're so small, surely it doesn't matter if you have twenty two...

Good luck at the gym! I've started a new 3 x a week dumbbell programme - it only takes 25-30 mins so I'm HOPING I can fit it at home if I can't get to the gym. Squeezed it in between meetings yesterday and I can feel my triceps today so it must have done something.

Even the smallest amounts or small sizes does seem to make a different @triplecheeese .

Fortunately I finished the bag of mini dime bars and other hidden stashes of sweets I found a few weeks ago.

Well done with your dumbell programme. 😊

Well the toothache turned out to be an infection behind my wisdom tooth.

The antibiotics I'm taking are horrible, but (trying to see the positives) one of the side effects is a weird taste in the mouth that makes all food and drink taste disgusting! So I'll definitely not be overeating for the next 3 days! 🤣

@triplecheeese laughing at your use for the spin bike. I've avoided ever buying and indoor exercise equipment as I know it'd end up being an expensive ornament to dust 🤭 I much prefer to do stuff outside.

Hi everyone

Well done to those dodging fattening food and those angels managing to go to the gym.

I'm still trying hard with food but haven't done my exercises yet, I keep finding an excuse.

I've ordered an air fryer today. I've been researching them for days but some are so expensive and I'm not sure just how much I'll use one. I like to batch cook for the freezer (when it's not full as it always is because it's too small) but I'm sure I'll do chicken breasts, sausage etc and I'm hoping it's a healthy enough way of eating to lose many stones pounds. I'm off to research soup makers now.

Have a good weekend everyone.

@Katiepants27 that sounds grim, I hope you're feeling better soon
Not the best method of weight loss I agree.

I wonder if I could join you?
I am waiting for a hip replacement, currently have very limited mobility. Result is that over the past year I have piled an extra 15 kilos onto an already obese frame.
I have a pre op assessment on 20th October. I’m really scared they will say I am too fat for the operation. It’s a big target but I’m hoping to lose 8 kilos between now and then.so target for September is 5 kilos.
I plan on 3 meals a day, with porridge for breakfast, fruit and salad for lunch and then a healthy dinner. I am working really hard on portion size, and cutting out sugar. Wanting to cut down on meat. I don’t drink alcohol any more because of the painkillers I take. I am hoping that I can stick to this by making food more interesting. We bought a Bosh cookbook, and we are going to try to cook something new every week.

Welcome @Zebracat I hope you get some inspiration from here. My SIL is having a hip operation in November. I don't know her original weight or weight now but she was size 20 (UK size) in May this year and has managed to reach between a size 16 and size14 depending on which shop she buys from. She looks fabulous and did it all for her pending op. I really hope you manage to lose with us.

How is everyone and how are you doing? Same story from me, I'm doing quite well with food but can't get into doing my exercise dvd, although as you know I do a 2.1/2 hour morning dog walk so I'm not completely sedentary.

I hope you all have a good, healthy weekend.

Hi all. I'm currently doing slow tummy clenches in bed waiting for dd(6) to wake up. (Bit boring but such a good way to work the tummy without tiring myself out too much).

She nagged to go to the park and play football and go on the swings so has tired herself out 😂.

Weight loss going ok but fitness wise quite shocking. Struggle to run😳. Hoping with a bit of weight loss will improve this.

May start going on the treadmill at home while I'm not able to get to gym much due to current shift hour changes. I'll have to give it a dusting first 😯.

Thanks so much for the welcome,@poorpaws , that’s a very encouraging anecdote. I am currently a size 20. If I dropped to a 14/16 in 4 months I would be incredibly happy. I started on Monday and think I have lost as my clothes aren’t quite so uncomfortable, but I have scales that vary by 3 kilos depending where they are on the solid floor, so don’t trust them. I was weighed at the surgery last Friday and I was 108.4 kilos, so I think I will call in one day next week to use the scales again and then try to calibrate mine, altho that is a posh word for finding the bit of floor where they give the same reading!
Just about to make a big pot of butternut squash soup.

Welcome to @Zebracat @Katiepants27 and welcome back to@Readytostartagain

I'm back from my lovely 2 week all inclusive holiday. I am pleased to report that I've only gained about 1.5 / 2 pounds.
However I'm exhausted 😩 early starts to get sunbeds (like a sheep with all the others) late nights and the very late flight time home have taken there toll. I was in bed by 9.20pm last night.
Goal for September is to get myself and DD's into a better routine. We eat too late as and go to bed too late which isn't good for us. Now the school holidays are over I'll buy less treats again and do my best to keep us all on track.
2lbs to loose in September.

DH doesn't get home from work until late. I've got into the routine of waiting for him to all eat together but it's far too late. Madness especially as I often make different meals for fussy DD2 and a variation of main meal for DD1 and DH. Such a lot of time and energy pandering to everyone. Time to switch things up for the better and my sanity.
Right that's enough moaning.😂

Hi all and welcome newbies 😊

My scales are a bit dodgy too and also getting a bit fed up weighing myself regularly and there not being much change or actually showing an increase. I'm going to try and just view myself in the mirror instead where I seem to be more motivated to tense the tummy muscles more.

Love hearing about soup 👍. Eventhough my weight loss seems to be incredibly slow, it's the one way I've actually been losing and good for getting more water as I keep forgetting to drink fluids regularly.

Hiya all, nice to see some newbies! and of course the oldbies too...
I'm still plodding on. Feeling a little lighter, but like a previous post, my scales read differently wherever they are placed on the floor, and depending where I stand on them. Absolute rubbish (Salter). So now I align them with the specific mark on the lino and stand in the same place precisely.... it shouldn't be this hard!

Roast dinner today. Mostly veg for me, so not too bad.

Thank you for the welcome. Ah my dodgy scales are Salter too, good point about blocking a position. I weighed myself on them and I was 16st12. So depressing. Long way to go. Porridge and grapefruit for breakfast, butternut squash soup for lunch. Pot roast for tea, but I will mainly have veg.

My scales are Salter too and I use them every day (I know I shouldn't but I do). I have a special place to put them on the floor but they can still be half a pound out so I've now found a different place and that can be half a pound out as well. I always take the highest reading In the hope that I am less than I think.

I keep losing the same 2 to 3 lbs and regaining them every week, I am so sick of myself. It looks like there is next to no weight loss this week and I've really tried hard, it's so disheartening as I don't think I've eaten anything that I shouldn't apart from on bank holiday Monday which was a week ago.

I am still researching soup makers and my air fryer isn't coming for over a week. I hope I'm not wasting my money.

Good luck for the weigh-in tomorrow if you're a Monday weigher. I hope it's good news.

Back from hols and catching up on the thread! @poorpaws hope you get lots of use out of your air fryer, we have one and it's great - with hindsight I wish we'd ordered a slightly bigger one so I could do some baking in it too, but we only have a tiny kitchen with very limited worktop space, so beggars can't be choosers...

No soup maker here though, I just make it in a big pan (gas oven) and blend it a bit with a cheapo stick blender (like this one if needs be.

@triplecheeese uurrrrgggghhhhh I felt for you, poorly children and a mountain of washing. When the DTs were toddlers they had a D&V bug which I still have horrific memories of hope everyone is better soon.

Our holiday was really good, the DTs loved having lots of activities on offer - accommodation was a bit basic but it was very cheap so I'm not complaining! I actually went more for them than for me but it has done wonders for my state of mind and dieting determination. We had a choice of 4 activities per day and it was fully catered, but I just didn't feel the need to scoff everything in sight as I usually do at home and in general feel much better for the increased activity and eating properly

A few random thoughts that occurred to me - I'm trying to use this as a bit of a brain dump to remind myself that I CAN lose weight when I try! We were surrounded by families who were slim and fit and I found it useful to compare them to us (me with 3st to lose, DP with at least 10st):

• The amount and type of food DP & I eat is not conducive to being healthy! I noticed that the other families loaded up on fruit & veg and didn't feel obliged to eat (for example) chips if fish & chips was on the menu. Similarly they used meals as a social occasion, chatted over their food, ate slowly - DP will barely talk at mealtimes, just shovels in a (very large) portion.
• The 'fit families' all took part in sports as part of their everyday lives - whatever they enjoyed - watersports, football, walking etc. At the moment the DC do plenty of sports, I do what I can, DP does as little as possible
• They tried to involve their DC in sports as early as possible, and do things as a family - long walks, swimming, even casual games of football. They kept screen time to a minimum and sweets & treats for their DC were occasional, not every day as DP uses them.
• I thought I had a little 'voice of doubt' in my head holding me back but it turns out I don't need one, DP does it for me... now admittedly I couldn't do all the activities but I did 90% of them. I realised towards the end of the holiday that DP was constantly saying "well Clara can't do that, she'd be too scared" "No Clara won't manage that, she's not fit enough" - even "I don't know why you even try to do x hobby, you're rubbish at it". And so on! It's really made me think, could I not do these things (or choose not to do them) because I genuinely can't/ don't want to do them, or because I've had him chipping away at my self esteem for bloody years?!

Apologies for the essay, it's really helped me to clarify my thoughts! In my mind it's a clear choice between joining the 'fit families' or joining DP on the sofa forever more. I'll weigh in tomorrow and go from there...

Welcome to @Katiepants27 and @Zebracattoo! <waves>

@ClaraTheImpossibleGirl I get your post entirely. I was brought up in a very negative household. It was always pointed out if I was bad at something or did something the wrong way but NEVER when I was actually quite good or did something the right way. After a driving lesson, which I was so scared about, I overheard my father saying to my mother "she'll never be able to drive" so I cried and stopped the lessons. It took me until my late 30s/early 40s to try again and pass a test (which I was physically sick before taking).

It took me absolutely knowing I was very good at my job to start gaining confidence and self esteem. Even now I say the only thing I was very good at was my job and that's actually untrue, I am good at a few things.

Don't let anyone take your confidence or self esteem, I realise now that if you are constantly told you are rubbish or you just can't, then you know you can't without even trying, you just can't, but actually a lot of the time you CAN. My SIL is a very confident woman, she can do anything and it was her father who always supported her and told her she was great. She has an air about her and everyone listens to her and goes to her for help. But many times I've thought (but never said out loud), she's not done that too well, what she's just said I know is wrong, I could do as well or better than that! I hope that doesn't make me sound like a bitch, I'm honestly not and I love her, I'm just trying to explain.

I'm so pleased you had a lovely holiday and learned a lot, keep listening to yourself, you are the clever one even if you don't think so.

And so to weight ...

I lost .75 (3/4 lb). Wow! I'm so disappointed, I've done well with my eating and plenty of dog walking but I can't seem to shift this pesky weight (@ClaraTheImpossibleGirl I will though, I will 😉). Time to try even harder if I'm to meet my September goal.

I hope everyone else has a good result this week.

@triplecheeese. I hope you've lost that half pound making you a healthy weight. I'm so so proud of you.

Well I've finished the vile tablets this morning but it may take a while for the horrible taste to go. I stood on the scales this morning and was pleasantly surprised to see them say 12st 6.4lbs
Which is nearly a 6pb weight loss in just under a week. A combination of water weight, not binging, and inadvertently eating a VLCD due to these tablets. It's been a bit miserable though. Last night I took a couple of bits of my tea and just couldn't eat any more. I was so tired of forcing myself to eat stuff when it was so gross...

So hopefully this week I can continue with the not binging, but actually enjoy the taste of the healthy meals I've planned 🤞

Well, I thought I read the whole thread before asking to join, but maybe I didn’t. Lots of stuff going on here.
@poorpaws 3/4lb is loads in a week! Loads! It would be over 2 stone in a year. And given all your walking, you will also be converting fat to muscle which weighs more. Carry on like that and you will be magnificent!
I weigh every day too. If I don’t, I lose track all together and wake-up a year later 12 kilos heavier… Scale is not shifting at all yet. But I am sticking to plan. Except yesterday I had 3 of my dhs delicious roast potatoes and guessed they would be 200 calories, cos that was what I had left. Should have weighed them.
I dont have a soup maker either, just a big pot from IKEA and a fridge full of last weeks veg. It’s all you need!
@ClaraTheImpossibleGirl , thank you for the welcome and thank you for sharing what seems like a profound lightbulb moment. I think you’ve made your choice, it’s your dp who needs to think about the future. If it’s not too bold on so slight an acquaintance can I suggest that every time he says “Clara can’t” you respond with the MN tinkly laugh and say “ of course I can , what are you afraid of?”
just made proper porridge instead of Oatsosimple . I dunno what I was afraid of, it’s easy, but 1 serving would feed a family of 4. I actually had to leave some. Leftover pot roast for lunch and leftover soup for dinner.
@Katiepants27 is it bad that I’m a bit jealous of your horrible week and fabulous weight loss?
Today is gonna be a good day.

@Zebracat , haha if you could taste what I can taste you would not be jealous! But I have to take the positive from it I guess...