LOSE IT! JUNE 2022 ☀️

[TheRealHousewife]

☀️THE SUMMER COUNTDOWN THREAD 2 ☀️

Fresh new month, fresh new start, fresh new habits. Jump right in to reset & refresh to become a healthier version of yourself in time for a Sizzling Summer!

As no one size fits all, members need to follow their own way of eating to LOSE or MAINTAIN. This thread aims to offer guidance, support and a bit of hand holding.

We generally have a WOW (Weigh On Wednesday) day each week. However post and share your progress as often or as little as you prefer. Do what works for you.

The important thing is not to think of it as a diet (based on deprivation and unsustainable) but more a way of life (sustainable & enjoyable).

I calorie count based on a lower carb Mediterranean diet. I intermittent fast and generally eat twice a day.

Are you in😊 What food plan will you be following? What do you want to change and why?

Welcome @lala1245 .

I rani 5km then went to see my in-laws and walked for one hour 40 with LightningDog and my MIL. I'm feeling very on edge and it isn't just about DD. MIL helped a bit when I talked to her. DD has talked to me twice but then gone out without telling us she was. I actually have no idea if she is back. I thought DS1 was coming home with his girlfriend tomorrow but only he is coming home on Sunday now which I am very sad about.

I am going to tidy my desk as otherwise I think I'll just get more sad. Still having stomach pains but trying not to stress.

Morning. Still positive 🙄but feeling a bit better. Walked for an hour with dog and now going to do this workout I saw recommended on another thread.
m.youtube.com/watch?v=Fu_oExrPX68
BBq of chicken and pepper skewers, salmon and salad later.

I did the workout. Would reckon because there’s no talking just clear demonstration so no time wasted. I’ll feel that tomorrow!

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Meant to say that your salad looks delish @ImALittlePea 😋

Had a talk with DD.
Doesnt want to live her with us, says I am a shit parent, have given her an eating disorder snd doesn't want to talk to us. Says we don't want to help her as we are stopping her doing the one thing that helps. I'm heartbroken.

That looks delicious@ImALittlePea 😋

Hugs @LightningStar she hasn't a clue has she? Does she know what your childhood was like?

She knows a lot of it @AnyoneElseFeelDone . When I try and explain why I do the things I way I do she said her life shouldn't be influenced by my childhood and I shouldn't project. I'm feeling as bereft as when she was missing .

Bah, I am so sorry.

Teenagers are twats sometimes. Keep following your path. 💐

maybe an okay day over here food wise. on a side note youngest ds has picked out a lovely engagement ring to present to his long time (a few years now) gf.
b oatmeal with blueberries 250
l a biscuit with cut veggies and hummus 350
d cucumber salad with chicken 250
snack is where i may have blown it was buttered popcorn
torrential downpour and watched the trooping of the colors

@LightningStar she is not thinking right and is lashing out. i'm sorry you are going through this.

I'm in and will weigh on Wednesday although I already have lost a couple of pounds since Jan due to slowly cutting out junk and gym.

I have a few big events happening this July/august and I want to have dropped the 10 pounds by then ..

HOWEVER! Had a really busy, social week this half term with lots of wedding events/eating out 🙈 with another day of meal out planned with some overnight guests today. It's so bloody hard to stay on track with all this socialising going on!

My plan for today is : get a longish walk in before the meal out, then have two big glasses of water before I go out and don't go there absolutely starving or I'll eat everything in sight! My problem is I keep thinking fuck it, it's only 10 pounds and i can do that in no time, but I've been thinking that for the past five years since dd was born 🤣🤣🤣

Thank you for your kind messages @AnyoneElseFeelDone @Benjispruce4 and @fallfallfall . I am feeling so many emotions. I can hear her getting ready for her day out, dh is dropping her at the station in half an hour and she'll want picking up at 10pm if she is coming back. Tbh I feel I am heading for a breakdown.

Huge love to you @LightningStar 💕

I’m up and ready to be the boss at parkrun in a bit! Not done it for ages due to work 😊

tested out the treadmill as Mr Holbein replaced the motor in it yesterday 👍 forgot how sweaty I get on it 🤣🤣 glad it’s back tho will be much easier to fit runs around work now.

I’ll be back later!

Morning all.As predicted my legs and bum hurt from the workout. These morning Covid headaches are getting me down and the tickly cough at night. Recovery isn’t linear as with usual viruses.
On the plus side, the thought of alcohol is not desirable so that’s helping me out. Tried a glass of rosé yesterday and I didn’t enjoy it. Had a lovely BBQ though of salmon, lots of vegetable skewers, cous cous and just 2 of those little German sausages from lidl. Skipped lunch so I think it balanced out ok.
Had a sneaky weigh this morning and I’m still maintaining. Have a good weekend everyone.

Good Morning 😊

Lovely day had by all yesterday. Really nice 👌👏🥂🍾🎉👸🏼Anyone else had a street party? How was it?

Yesterday I had a portion of Jubilee Trifle (sans sponge), 3 GF Warburton Thins (for sandwiches) & 2 glasses of Champagne and 2 litres of sparkling water. Not excessive but carb/sugar heavy when I usually have less of those macros. Today I’m puffy with puffy ankles and generally waterlogged and my complexion is grumbling. My body really does do better on vegetables, fish & chicken.

Sorry to read you’re still suffering @Benjispruce4 from Covid symptoms. I hope they clear up quickly!

@LightningStar sorry to read you’re still in turmoil. Teenagers can be selfish but I realise me writing that won’t really help you.

Exciting times @fallfallfall re:-engagement 💍 🔔👍

@Benjispruce4 thank you for sharing the link! Your menu sounds right up my street!

@ImALittlePea That SALAD!! Oh my goodness 😋

@lala1245 Its good you’ve recognised your stress levels are up! You need to actively try and de-stress. Is there anything you can do that you know you lose yourself in, even it’s 10mins each day. For me just pottering in the garden, growing things, dead heading etc I find it all quite therapeutic.

Menu
Meal 1 - Halloumi, red pepper, red onion, sweet potato, cavollo nero, carrot & broccoli stir fry.
Meal 2 - Chicken Curry & Spicy Cauli Rice.
Tea, Coffee & water water water 😬

I wish I could tell you all what has happened with DD as it goes beyond her being a typically selfish teenager who also sadly has bad mental health. But I am too scared to. Though no one is blaming me. They keep telling me how amazing my sons are.

Afternoon all! I’ve been going over calories the past few days, but I’ve also been doing a lot of hiking (as well as the usual rowing), so I’m not too worried about any of that.

Today’s hike turned into a 6 hour long one, as I must have taken a wrong path somewhere...Anyway, I came across the most adorable little wild pony foal (picture attached). He was so full of energy and clearly winding up the other ponies, by running around them like a headless chicken 😂

@LightningStar I’m so sorry to hear things are bad again. Your DD is clearly not well. There’s only so much anyone can do for people who are in that situation, but not ready to get or accept help. It must be so heartbreaking for you, but I’m sure none of this is your fault.

Sorry @LightningStar I wasn’t being flippant. I won’t comment any further as I don’t wish to upset you further.

You didn't upset me. Tbh I was just typing and it wasn't when I had read your post so it was coincidence that we used the same words. Please don't fret. You could never upset me. @TheRealHousewife

@CrimsonAlligator she absolutely doesn't want any help from anyone and I'm left feeling helpless and like it is all my fault. If I get to be proud of my dc achievements I should be willing to take responsibility when they aren't behaving so well.

She told me yesterday I am a shit mother and should have had therapy before I had kids. She doesn't want to talk to me. Today she is out all day and wants picking up at 9-10pm.

I've just been out with the dog for nearly 1 3/4 hours and we only came home as I nearly ran out of water for her. Mentally I needed longer.

If it helps @LightningStar my eldest hates me and reckons I have totally ruined her life. I am such a shit mother I should never have had children and she is planning on gaining custody of her siblings to get them away from me and my influence.

she messaged her grandma who adores her to tell her she hates her and wants no contact ever again and any post that goes to her will be returned. For context my mom had a very close relationship with her.

I had to tell my daughter to stop contacting me because she was sending such abusive messages. I told her I would contact the police if she didn’t stop.

she is mentally unwell. She has rewritten history to make me the reason for everything that has gone wrong in her life.

tbh I have come to the conclusion that she is 29 so old enough to make her own decisions and quite honestly if it works for her to blame me for everything then I have broad shoulders 🤷‍♀️ I am not prepared to be abused by anyone so I’m not. The other kids have very little patience with her these days and often ignore her messages because they are often a rant about how awful me DH and her Nan are and how much she hates us all.

I’m telling you this to say you are not alone. Honestly. She will work it out one way or another it’s so hard for you tho. I’m sorry that you are having to go through this. Nothing I can say to help but feel free to offload either on here or on message if you think it will help.

lots of love to you I think about you often 💕

@LightningStar parents no doubt have a major influence over their kids’ lives, but no one can control how their kids turn out.

Your DD is not well and it sounds to me like she is lashing out at you in an attempt to make sense of what’s going on in her life.

When you’re a young adult and your mental health is in a bad place and you’re probably neurodivergent, it can be much easier to blame your parents for everything that is wrong in the world, than it is to face the fact that you’re probably autistic and that there may not be any easy solutions to the problems you’re experiencing. That’s a really terrifying thought for a lot of people who are neurodivergent.

I’m so sorry you and your DD are going through this. If she got to a point where she accepts help, she might be able to see that the future doesn’t need to be as difficult as the past, but I appreciate that she needs to get there herself and there’s very little you can do to help with that.

(Apologies if this is too much armchair psychology. The only experience I have to draw on is with my two autistic DSs. It took them a lot of time to get their heads round their diagnosis and there was a lot of anger, pain and denial before they got there. It’s not easy)

Not quite sure what to say ladies.Daughters can have difficult relationships with their mothers. I often fell out with mine in my late teens/ early 20s but later had a wonderful relationship until she died.
B- mashed avocado on seedy toast
L- wholemeal wrap with smal amount of leftover salmon, salad leaves and mint yogurt dressing, apple
D- Beetroot, feta and cous cous salad, satsuma

All because she broke a house rule and we followed through with consequences. We only have one non negotiable one !

Your post made me want to cry @HouseofHolbein. Sad for you and relief I'm not the only one so it can't be me as such. I am pretty sure that doesn't read how I mean but I really hope you understand what I am trying to say.

She is mentally unwell but can't or won't tell us what is wrong so how am I supposed to help her? We've offered any doctor she wants. Just can't believe how she can be so hurtful and now mil is saying she thinks she is autistic having told me years ago she wasn't so I didn't get help.