DIET FAILED AGAIN? Me too. Join me in a friendly, easy going diet thread where we can take our time and see results no matter how long it takes with positive encouragement along the way.

[poorpaws]

My story so far:
I started a thread “Lockdown stones to lose” in early June last year. I had nearly 3 stones to lose and was very determined. At times I did very well and at one point had lost over 1.5 stones.

Loads of people joined and then left and I think only four of us remained at the end. I kept plodding on. Just after Christmas I became ill for seven weeks (Covid related). I couldn’t do much or go out so my weight ballooned. I still kept plodding on. Then one of my dogs suffered an horrendous attack and whilst nursing her I just about lived on chocolate.

So here I am nearly 11 months later, most likely very nearly back to square one. I keep reminding myself that last time I said I would not give up no matter what! Will you join me tomorrow morning? I would love some company.

Sorry to hear about your mums @ClinkeyMonkey and @TimeToLose8. My mum's been unwell for a while and it can be tough. Sending strength!

bit of a glum post from me, just keeping honest really today ladies. The baby's unwell and not sleeping so I'm eating my way through the exhaustion 😭

back on form when I get a few hours sleep I'm sure.

good luck with the walks (!) @ClaraTheImpossibleGirl and well done to all, whether it's for wins or check ins. KBO xx

Hope the baby is better soon and you can get back on track @triplecheeese
I have been doing well the last few days getting back into fasting until lunch. Today's lunch was a salad made with all the slightly sad looking veg in the fridge with some halloumi and a small handful of pasta. I've been trying to avoid carbs at lunch but I do an intense workout class on Fridays and last week I really struggled so I think some are needed on days I'm working out.
Dinner will be pizza but everything including the cheese is homemade doesn't reduce the calories but certainly makes it feel less naughty than shop bought.

@FatGirlTriesAgain2022 We all have days like that... that's for sure. It is tough sometimes, but just another kink in the road... my road is looking like a scribble right now, trying to smoooooooth it out.

Don't be too hard on yourself @FatGirlTriesAgain2022. If this was easy, we wouldn't be here. Sometimes eating healthily is way down the list of priorities when other stuff is going on in our lives. I am almost robotic in reaching for the crisps and cake when I need a distraction and some comfort. I had a crappy couple of days last week and morphed into Pac-Man, eating everything that wasn't nailed down. But coming on here really helps. Seeing people do well. AND seeing people not doing so well. Because we're all human.

Evening everyone

Goodness there are some good losses recorded, well done. For those struggling (like me) just don't give up. Even a week of overeating can be undone.

@FatGirlTriesAgain2022 keep at it, it will get better. You're definitely not alone, I'm struggling too.

@triplecheeese I'm so sorry, I hope your baby gets better very soon.

Oh dear, I've had a day from hell eating-wise. I needed some cards so we (DP and dogs) decided to walk into town, about a mile. We then ate A LOT of chips sitting outside the cafe. We then bought a large chocolate waffle cone each with three scoops of ice cream. I live near the sea so there are a lot of ice cream parlours. I wasn't too worried because I knew I could eat less this evening.

As I walked home my lovely neighbour was outside with a huge chunk of lasagne she'd just made. I ate that with salad, then a fruit salad and then started on the chocolate!

My point for disclosing all this is to see if anyone on here is like me because I don't know anyone in RL. The more I eat, the more hungry I am. If I'd had my normal ham salad with no dessert for lunch I would have been fine but because I've been eating all day I'm so hungry, like I've not eaten at all. I don't understand it, it's confusing but it happens every bloomin time. I know I will attack chocolate, crisps, "you name it" tonight. I clearly see a gain this week. . I'm so sick of myself.

@ClinkeyMonkey and @poorpaws the pacman analogy really resonates with me, I can go from a very healthy eating and active day, to an evening when nothing is safe. Last night was one of those evenings. The husband brought us a takeaway burger and chips, so then I finished the wine in the fridge, and of course if there is wine, there is also crisps, then then there was tea and toast to finish the evening. Tiredness and willpower are not good bedfellows.

@triplecheeese hope your baby gets better this weekend. Diets are not important....

Well, at least the sun is shining here today and the garden beckons. Its going to be 28 here, so I'll garden in the morning and read in the afternoon (book club tomorrow and I'm only 20% through) and of course if there is book club there will be wine and other tasty/fattening things

And of course, after last night I'm up!

Good morning everyone

Starting afresh today in the hope of damage limitation after yesterday . I must say I'm not quite in the right mindset today so this might not work.

Lone dog walk (DP is busy making trellis) then either sitting in the garden or I've been threatening to make fruit scones all week so that might or might not happen.

Where are all the paragraphs? It's so hard to read without them and I'm definitely using them.

Happy weekend and keep plodding on. Try your best.

Good morning all. Im
plodding on but the slow speed of it makes it hard to maintain the motivation to be honest. But I don’t have the discipline for faster weight loss - I hate being hungry!

@poorpaws I have exactly the same experience with eating everything in sight once I’ve started. Sometimes it’s called ‘Storm eating’ so it is an actual thing and you are not alone.

@Bigbus I've lost motivation atm and I recognise from previous times I'm in a danger zone. Only days ago I was so positive, exercising, making healthy food ahead of mealtimes and now I'm meh can't be bothered with it all. I've always been a creature of extremes, I either give it my all or I do nothing so no middle ground.

I'm hoping this "can't be bothered" period will move away quickly. Keep plodding.

Morning all...

Also lacking a bit of oomph today... birthday tomorrow, which is good and bad...

I had a heart attack 5 years ago, so that means my annual health check is due... bloods, weight, blood pressure etc. Will probably be another year feeling shameful... Weight creeps up over the year, I have a go in April/may as I know the annual review is due, and end up about the same. Should be thinking about my health all the time, but... well, as a PP said, if it was easy we'd all be fine...

But hey... the good news is I made the "survived 5 years after" statistic!

@BeyondMyWits , that is good news ! 👏
Regarding the healthy eating, just keep trying. And make sure you have a beautiful birthday tomorrow.
Morning all, I was on this thread back in April. Took a break from social media, and now I'm back !
I'm really pleased with my progress though. I weighed myself yesterday, 12st 12. My target is 12st 7, so I think I can do it in time for a wedding in 2 weeks. I was dreading weighing myself ( I've always hated it, even on 'good' weeks), but this has really boosted me. I'm so motivated. I'm changing my mindset about weighing now ; I forced myself to yesterday. If I hadn't have weighed myself, I wouldn't be feeling this positive. The irony is I feel great because I've been behaving !
You can do it, folks ! 💪

@Amdone123... thank you.

What I love about this thread - that you don't see on the "diet" threads - is that people all have different targets... and realistic, actually achievable ones. I was told on one thread that having a 13st target (from 16.6) was ridiculous as I'd still be fat. (Nice and supportive that one!)

Blimey @BeyondMyWits with that comment I think you are far better staying with us.

It's not going well tonight, it's not going well at all 😱

My only question to myself is how big a gain to expect on Monday morning.

Good luck for the weekend everyone.

@poorpaws... oh yes indeed, I'll stay here in this nice cosy thread.

Is there a reason it's not going well? You OK?

Also struggling tonight. Didn't go for Chinese takeaway at 2400 calories, went for half an M and S takeaway box instead at around 1100. And it tasted great! Still too many cals, but less than I would've... so I think that's good... ish...

I'm ok @BeyondMyWits thank you.

I'm overtired and have overeaten. I made some sultana scones and ate some too many. Because I'd ruined the diet I ate two Mars bars. My lovely neighbour has just been over with homemade rhubarb and apple pie with custard. She's an amazing cook and I can't resist her pies and anyway she thrust the bowl towards me, said she hadn't put any calories in it and ordered me to EAT!😱. She said there's no photograph so no evidence.

I'll start again Monday, it's been a bad weekend. Hope you're ok.

I'm with you @poorpaws... It would be very rude to turn down homemade rhubarb crumble. I certainly am giving Ms Pacman a run for her money this weekend.

Thank you all for the well wishes. Baby is on the mend and we got a bit of sleep last night (mostly on the nursery floor but I'll take it) So I thought I was ready to clamber back on the wagon until my neighbour patted my belly and asked if I was pregnant again... kindly pass the maltesers.

Start again tomorrow Monday!

Just catching up, OP- lovely, positive, encouraging thread!

I am incredibly overweight currently and dreading summer because of it as I hide away, cover up and sweat away, unhappily. I hate wishing the time time away and how I feel.

Enough of that- joining you! Hope everyone is doing well!

Hi @NellesVilla don't hide away, summer is a lovely time. I'm struggling like hell atm but I'm not giving in and I'm not leaving this thread either. There's no shame here just people struggling most of the time and some are doing REALLY well.

I always think of it as the remedial class in the Diet School and I'm the bottom of the remedial class trying my best to claw my way not only to the top of the class but to graduate to the higher class one day. Yes I am struggling, yes I am at the bottom of the class but at least I'm going to school. If I stayed at home I wouldn't learn anything and I wouldn't progress in any way.

I'm having a hell of a bad weekend food wise but I'll try and get back on it tomorrow after weigh-in. The problem I have is next week I've got a few meals out and I think with that knowledge it's sent me straight to the food cupboard this weekend. I don't eat out a great deal compared to some people but it really takes me off the straight and narrow road and nosedives me into eating chaos.

Have a lovely Sunday everyone, it's gorgeous here, the sun is shining so all is good in my world (apart from eating too much).

Good morning all. I went to a Eurovision Party last night and ended up eating ALL the food! But actually at the time I made conscious decision to just enjoy myself because if I didn’t I’d resent the ‘diet’ and throw in the towel. I do feel a bit more sluggish this morning though and hope I haven’t thrown away my momentum with all the mozzarella sticks I ate! (I even had some Baileys). Getting back on track this morning I hope!

Had a rubbish few days- eating all the food in the house but been doing some reflection this morning and realised it’s because I am feeling resentful of the lack of help I get at home. The problem is that the only person I am hurting by overeating is myself. So today I am going to concentrate on things that make me feel good and dig out my journal as emotional eating us a huge part of it for me.

The last couple of days have been a bit mixed, although to be fair it could have been worse! Weekends are difficult. Food treats (lots of 'em) seem to go hand in hand with that downtime vibe.

I'm reading 'Why We Eat Too Much' and finding it absolutely fascinating. I'm a slow reader though (can't seem to switch off my relentless internal monologue!) and it'll take a while to get to the bit where I find out HOW not to eat too much, although it's pretty clear already what that's going to be! Anyone else here read it? I joined this thread a bit late, so might have missed something.

@Bigbus ... I always found when doing stuff like weight watchers etc that if all the extra calories were in one evening there was not as much impact on my weight. I think because you end up eating lighter for a couple of days from guilt.... so a bit like a mild version of the 5:2 I guess.

Good morning all... its my birthday so all bets are off today... DH made me scrambled egg for breakfast, roast chicken for lunch, APPLE PIE AND CUSTARD for afters (woo hoooooooo.. better than birthday cake for me!). I am drooling just smelling the chicken roasting in the oven...😋

Happy birthday @BeyondMyWits ! I once did a blog (for my eyes only) called 'I dont diet on my birthday'. Unfortunately for me that seemed to last for several weeks after as well.

I think you are right about the odd binge not making too much difference. I had one of those on Friday, had a really good day yesterday (lots of exercise and no wine), and found that I was down again today (0.8 lbs). Which is cheering.

However, as I mentioned yesterday, book club starts in 30 minutes, I have made carrot cake and quiche and have wine chilling (I am the host this month and get very worried that there won't be enough food - of course there always is). Still there won't be any dinner tonight - we shall dine on leftovers.

Thanks for the welcome, @poorpaws - you have a great positive attitude which I will try to learn from. The viewpoint a dietician gave me was: don’t see it as a diet, see it as nourishing and treating your body well, basically giving it what it wants and needs. I know if I had a child I wouldn’t dream of feeding it what I eat, so I’m going to try and treat my body with more kindness and respect, if that makes sense. My issues are: a sweet tooth, love of snacks and fizzy drinks, too busy to cook etc!

Happy birthday, @BeyondMyWits .

I have a lot more weight to shift than anyone else I feel- almost 10 stone, although it doesn’t look quite that bad (I’m fairly tall and a muscular build rather than an SJP frame type). So aiming to work with it!