LOSE IT! April 2022 🌻

[TheRealHousewife]

Hard to believe it’s April already 😮. Fresh new month, fresh new start, fresh new habits. Jump right in to reset & refresh to become a healthier version of yourself.

As no one size fits all, members need to follow their own way of eating. This thread aims to offer guidance, support and a bit of hand holding.

We generally have WOW (Weigh On Wednesday) day each week. However post and share your progress as often or as little as you prefer. Do what works for you.

The important thing is not to think of it as a diet (based on deprivation and unsustainable) but more a way of life (sustainable & enjoyable).

I calorie count based on a lower carb Mediterranean diet. I intermittent fast and generally eat twice a day.

Are you in😊 What food plan will you be following? What do you want to change and why?

March LOSE IT! 2022

@SunshineCake I'm sad to say I'm not surprised by your update going by my own experiences of hospitals generally & mental health services in particular (late partner was in hospital a lot during the last few years of her life, & I've had family under sections & as MH inpatients.) There are amazing staff - I'm related to & friends with some wonderful medics - but institutionally there are huge problems, especially around MH provision.

I hope you get a better standard of care today (I think you're going in again today but may have misremembered.)

Hello

so sorry I am not engaging properly and giving help and support where I can. I'm exhausted as I am sure you all understand.

the crisis mental health team have been to visit DD today. She refused to engage so they were gone in minutes. They spent longer with us offering support for dh and I than with her. They will now tell the local MH team and someone will ring. DH and I are sure she won't engage with them either.

Urgh I look like such an uncaring twat!

Apologies @SunshineCake1 - which is the correct username?

I've been having a hectic time myself with one thing and another. Not that this is an excuse. I mistakenly thought your post that you now knew where your dd was meant she was safe and well and I see that's not the case and you and your family are having a seriously rough time.

Were you able to get across that you thought she was only saying she'd come home to get out of being an inpatient?

Is she a child or an adult I forget her age if you've mentioned it. Would she be better with her own place but near you? I know someone where this was put in place and some other conditions on their release everyone's situation is different of course

I have to say my personal experience is that Mh services in this country are pretty shit! Nobody seems to genuinely care. Or very few. Out of the many hcps I've had over the years I'd say over 20 maybe 2 or 3 actually seemed to give a shit and they retired/moved to other areas.

Unfortunately you can't force treatment unless someone is deemed to no longer have capacity which I think is quite a high bar these days I'm not sure this is always a good thing. I know it's come about because in days past people were "institutionalised" too quickly and easily, but now I think it's just money saving crap.

If you wanna pm just to rant or whatever feel free if you can get pms working! Mine barely are it's murder!

FFS, let's try for the third time to post - this new platform is not agreeing with me at all today. I can't seem to post any pictures...

I just wanted to say you don't need to apologise, Sunshine - you've got enough going on without worrying about us all here. Is it tomorrow they're hoping to discharge DD or is that a bit up in the air with her not engaging?

I enjoyed my walk immensely this afternoon but it was exhausting - such a sweet sentiment, Buzz and thank you. I'm sure there were many things I should've done today instead of taking myself off but the sun was shining and I didn't want to do any of those boring things 😉

So, especially for you, RealHousewife - the stunning Mudeford coastline, Christchurch Priory and the really imposing Hinchcliffe Castle. What a day for it!

I'll try a separate message... OMG - that worked!

That's obviously Highcliffe Castle... all these changed and still no edit button!!

Sorry rveryone, I was SunshineCake then couldn't get it back so added the 1. I've worked out how to get it back but sometimes I forget to delete the 1. Both are me.

DD came home from hospital on the 20th and the crisis team saw her at home on the 21st but she wouldn't engage. Waiting on a call from the local MN team now. If she won't engage with them and they don't deem her to be an immediate risk to herself then I suspect they'll leave.

Dh and I know she will try again😢

Morning everyone.

Continued love and best wishes coming your way @SunshineCake / @SunshineCake1 I'm so sorry you're having such a hard time of it. Please don't feel any obligation to any of us in terms of posting; we're here to support you regardless. I think the fact you are staying connected and talking here is more than enough considering your situation.

Decided not to avoid the scales today, was 1/2lb which all things considered I'm far from upset about! I'm away this weekend catching up with one of my best friends who I haven't seen since before Covid, so the scales may well bounce up again next week but tbh I don't care very much! I know I'll get back on it again once I'm home.

I hope everyone has a nice day/weekend ahead. Catch up on Monday!

It's good that DD is home, Sunshine so you at least know where she is but I completely understand that the strain is never-ending at the moment. Think of you often.

I also braved the scales after rather an indulgent week and am almost 1lb down so got to be happy with that:

SW: 104.7kg
CW: 86.4kg
April GW: 85kg

I'm just 100g off my pre-pandemic weight so still pretty confident I can get there by the end of the month.. the stretch target I set myself of 85kg looking less likely but not going to complain as I'm still going downwards!

I skipped my two 'lower calorie' days this week so will reintroduce them and just be more mindful - I think back into the old routine of work etc will also help.

Day of dull chores I've been putting off today 🙂but hopefully means a relaxing weekend ahead.

Fri 22nd April - 9s 4 & 1/2lb
BMI 21.6
BF 24.4

I ate far more yesterday - & high salt food, at a restaurant that has caused me to put on 1lb of water weight overnight every time I've eaten there for the last 20 years 😀 But I did over 25,000 steps yesterday so I think if I'd eaten normally I would have lost weight. According to my fitness app I burnt 1200 calories just walking yesterday 😮

I'm knackered today. I'd done 5,500 steps by 8.50am today. This is the problem, I go from days where I'm sedentary at my desk wfh & just potter to days where I walk 12-20 miles. I wish I could get more balance in but I can't see how to make it happen 🤨

Hope everyone is well. Nearly the weekend!

Stunning @SanFranBear 😍

No apology needed @murmuration … great to see you. I’m struggling with the new format and now can’t see your update so can’t specifically reply if that makes sense.

@Graphista 👋 Hope you’re ok!

@8stone13 20 miles 😮 No wonder you have great stats 😬 Well done bye the way 👏

@SanFranBear Great progress, nearly there! 👍👏

@ImALittlePea Enjoy your weekend away!

@SunshineCake @SunshineCake1 @SunshineGone Thinking of you 💔

Menu
Meal 1 - Red Pepper Omelette
Meal 2 - Home made chicken curry & spicy Cauli rice.
Tea, Coffee, Water.

Have a great Weekend!

Hello, popping my head back in. Am trying to be good on the good days and ignore the bad ones. So yesterday I took Dd to the seaside, and I avoided having an ice cream but did succumb to cake.

Today back at work with salad for lunch and then a pineapple fried rice for tea tonight.

@SunshineCake am glad to read DD is back at home, but am sending you love and strength for what is clearly a really difficult and complex time. I think of you often.

@Graphista we did say we thought she was just saying enough to get out but she would have been discharged on Friday regardless so no point leaving her there Wednesday once we learnt that on Tuesday afternoon. They wouldn't let us take her then. She is 18.

Thank you for your kind words @SanFranBear I am really struggling with not joining in here as much as don't want to let anyone down but my head is just full of DD. Even when I do get out for a run I just think of her the whole time.

Have to take car to be checked. Back later to finish. Thanks.

Op I'm ok I'm not going through all @SunshineCake1 and her family are!

Stresses of my own though. Not getting on with ww at al finding it too restrictive and dictatorial. I think I'd rather just calorie count and eat what I like but watch amounts. Not really been doing ww this week just got fed up with it so I think I'm gonna cancel it.

Doing things MY way =

Sw 13 stone 6.75lbs

Cw 13 stone 5 lbs

Gw 9 stone

So 2.5lbs off last weeks weight 1.75lbs off sw

I'm happy with that.

Trying to have breakfast more - need to get back to using sweetener rather than sugar though.

Having healthyish lunches

Need to get healthier dinners sorted - nervous about using new cooker still MUST get over that!

Sorry I'm not replying to all this is just a quick post before stuff I need to do today.

@SunshineCake1 18 is such a hard age anyway! Not a child not really an adult.

Please don't worry about letting people down here or in real life - you're doing the very best you can! Stop being so hard on yourself.

If you do go for a run or whatever do it because it helps you.

Morning all.
Sunshinecake I hate it when CAMhs close cases where children who really need help aren't able to engage in the standard way. They need to make adjustments to the way they work, in my view, if a young person can't access the standard way.

I am on day 4 of "loose" fast 800. Constantly starving. Last time I dieted I did keto and found my appetite disappeared, but the fast 800 has various beans etc included in recipes. Still I figure if I am starving then hopefully I will be losing weight.

Breakfast fast 800 blueberry muffins 250 cal.
Lunch fast 800 tomato soup (which is lovely) and 3 oatcakes. 2 head of broccoli and a single chipolata (that's me being super hungry!)
Soup 192 Cals. Oatcakes 120 cal. One chipolata 85 cal so around 400 cal altogether with the broccoli.

Whatever I have for dinner is going to be over 150 cal....will try to keep it below 400.

Plus 2 teas, a diet coke, coffee and water planned.

I really hope my appetite decreases as I get used to this WOE.

Have a good weekend all.

*pancakes, not muffins.

Hi @DrRuthGalloway to be hungry all the time must be really uncomfortable 🥴 I can’t bear hunger, so I admire your resolve. I find if I up my protein in relation to carbs it’s quite satiating. Currently I’m eating twice a day for a cal total of about 1100. Like yourself based on Fast800. However I find I’m maintaining at that cal count rather than losing (due to health & mobility issues). I don’t feel I can manage a lower cal allowance as I start to lose hair & muscle mass 🤷‍♀️. This weight loss malarkey is sure complicated 😬

I don’t know if you know but Dr Michael Mosley has released a Keto version, perhaps that might suit better. Do you have much to lose? (Don’t feel obligated to answer 😊)

@Graphista Nice steady progress, well done 👍👏

Do I have much to lose?
Oh aye.

I have lipeodema (diet resistant tree trunk legs) so weight loss is always hard and my top half gets skinny but my arse and legs will always look like I have eaten All the Pies. Luckily my husband and kids adore me regardless.

So whilst I would need to lose around 4 stone to get into "healthy BMI" zone, I am aiming for around 2.5 ish for starters as I have always been, since teen years, a curvy busty sort. If I lose too much my top and bottom halves look increasingly disproportionate.

I lost a load some years ago using shakes, but it wasn't sustainable and piled back on as soon as I started eating food. Add in the menopause glowering over me, increased working from home, and antidepressants to manage PTSD related health anxiety towards my kids, and I have slipped from "curvy" to "huge" over the past 3 years.

Lipeodema. I am a stage 2 lady. Lucky genes...
www.lipedema.net/lipedema-a-summary.html

Thank you @Graphista I did go for a run late morning and it isn't that great atm for mental health as all I think about is DD but at least I am getting exercise and hopefully that will help me lose weight.

@ginsparkles thank you to you too. Everyone is so great here. I would be lost without this thread.

@DrRuthGalloway it is like one size fits all and if the patient struggling doesn't conform they don't know what to do.

@DrRuthGalloway sorry to read about the condition, that’s really tough for you. I’m also post meno, have complex pdsd, thyroid, health & mobility issues. I feel the key to a steady weight loss is to find a sustainable way of eating and not specifically a diet iyswim. Another way to look at is could be if you aimed for 1/2 - 1lb a week steady loss that would = 26 - 52lbs over the year. Also upping you cals would make it more sustainable and you’d be less likely to fall of the wagon or yo-yo. Also I’d set smaller goals as it can be quite motivating to reach each one. I’m also a fan of weight apps so I can see the visuals (graphs/charts)You can do this!

Morning! Checking in before work 😊 still plodding on with my weight going up and down within the same couple of pounds 😊

managed to run 3 times this week which is lovely… chocolate is once again my downfall. I’d like to go back to IF but it doesn’t really work with my shift patterns tbh especially when I’m on a late.

starting work at 10 today so volunteering at parkrun first 😊 then out tonight for a Chinese with friends 👍 as I’m on a late tomorrow so I can let my hair down tonight 😊

thinking of you @SunshineCake 💕

How unfortunate for you @DrRuthGalloway to have lipeodema - but for nearest & dearest to love you just as you are is amazing and that's all you want : ) But agree with OP that Fast 800 is too low / unsustainable. I did it for a very short time, constantly miserable, hair fell out etc. 1200-1400 is a good amount calories to aim for instead perhaps?

(as an aside, I have often jested on here and IRL about my parsnip thighs - I closely resemble stage 1 on the link you sent, although you wouldn't catch me in those knickers - look so tight and painful !!).

Have a good weekend everyone.

Hello - finally got back in after losing password etc etc. i think I need to upgrade my phone.
Am down 4lbs in half a week through exercise, giving up booze and basically not eating until hungry. I can't follow a diet I always want to cheat.
Biggest issue is painkillers for back injury - when I take them I put on weight - if I don't take them I'm in agony and can't exercise anyway 🧐
Went on 2 cycles last week and walked every day. Have been AF for a few days (the white wine is a killer !).
Hello everyone I'm on my phone so missed loads of messages !