Seriously don't feel like that Judy - it's one of the good things about this thread. Several of us have had months in a row where we basically just bounce around the same weight getting nowhere but trying to celebrate the fact that at least we're not gaining, a few of us have fallen off the wagon for a couple of months and reappeared to get back on track and we're a broad range of weights and goals. Honestly your attitude is great in my opinion - if you know this is a shitty time of year for you then maintaining is a win and you know after that come more spring like conditions you can build on it.
Octopus was stuck for what - a good six months last year Octopus before you suddenly got under 9st? I spent August to November bouncing around the spot and then finally had a really big loss in November and have been doing relatively well since then and Hangover has just returned to us after a period of, I'm guessing, no not willing to obsess over weight right not-ness.
I say that I've lost about 3 and a half stone in the 20ish months I've been on here but in reality that's been more like lose a load, stagnate for ages, lose some more, stagnate, regain a load, lose that again and make more progress etc. I looked at my fitbit graphs and realised I'm actually 40lbs lighter than this time last year because I had considerable regain over nov/dec last winter due to a hissy fit over lockdowns, gyms closing and still having to work as normal.
We used to share quite a few Jordan what's-his-name videos some of which could be summed up as if you're still going you're winning and weight loss isn't a linear process and you just stick with it and don't obsess about stalling etc.
It's a cliche that gets trotted out a lot but it's really a lifelong/lifestyle thing rather than a short term 'diet' when it comes to weight management. As a mid 40's perimenopausal woman who had major surgery at the same time as middle age hormone issues kicking in and just manifested weight from thin air and discovered my body didn't respond in the same way as it used to to dieting this has really hit home for me.
If you're still checking in, still mindful, and still confident you'll pull it back round even when you're going through a patch of not being able to focus/care then you're winning imo now. I also think the idea of maintenance as just now I eat perfectly and maintain with ease is a bit of a myth. I think it will always be ups and downs with the trick being to regularly pull yourself back into line and self regulate again. Managing weight isn't easy for most people and for women past their 30s that seems to be even more true apart from those unicorn types who have been the same weight forever and never even think about it.