Mutual support thread for people with a lot of weight to lose. Part III

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This is a mutual support thread for people who have a lot of weight to lose. The original thread started with a poster who wanted to lose 9 stone and has evolved from diet advice to offering each other mutual long term support. Most of us have started in the morbid obese range or with a BMI in the high 30's (ish).
Everyone is welcome, regardless of where you are on your 'journey'. We have some inspiring stories. But also lots of us are muddling along, sometimes doing well and sometimes not so well.
We're all at different points. Some have lost lots of weight and are now maintaining. Others part way through a big weight loss and others starting out. We try to offer encouragement, congratulations or consolations where needed. We are respectful of different approaches and recognise that everyone has their own unique set of circumstances.

Thread 1 - www.mumsnet.com/Talk/weight_loss_chat/3894410-i-need-to-lose-9st-help
Thread 2 - www.mumsnet.com/Talk/weight_loss_chat/4192315-Mutual-support-thread-for-those-currently-losing-or-working-towards-losing-a-lot-of-weight

@SnowyMouse glad you are feeling better.

I had a sneaky midweek weigh in this morning - 82.5kg which is a loss of 1.1kg since Sunday! I am delighted! I'm going out for a meal today so it might go up again when I next weigh Saturday or Sunday. But regardless I'm going to enjoy this!

Hello there! Can I join you?
I'm currently 114 kg, with a BMI just slightly below 40, and I need to start losing weight... To be in the top of normal or healthy range weight for my height, I should loose 35 kg... And I'm so overwhelmed by the idea. I confess I've been following this thread for some weeks now, and I've felt so encouraged by the stories I've read and by all your experiences, that I think it may be good for me to join. I feel quite alone, because I'm the most overweight person I know (literally 😬). I have not much time for myself (or at least that's what I tell myself). I've been taking care of my toddler (well, me and my DH), so not currently working outside of home. Sedentary life, emotional eater, constantly tired and sleep deprived. Thanks to reading some of you, I've been observing my eating habits and think I found my main issue: I eat less in the mornings, then spend my day trying to keep up (basically snacking things with a lot of sugar), and then at night I have a copious dinner and then some chocolate, etc.
Anyway, I don't know if I'll be able to post weekly, but I will try to be here regularly. Thank you all because you are all so inspiring!

Welcome 👋🏼
Good for you for deciding you want to change things. I've found this board and others to be really reassuring/helpful/motivating.
I started out at the beginning of the year with a very similar BMI to you. It's totally doable - you just need to find your own rhythm and routine. Wishing you the best of luck x

Welcome to you!

Do try and pop in when you can. Being on threads really helped me to lose and I'm in the maintaining stage at the moment after losing 3 st (although trying to shift 2 or 3lbs to get back to my goal weight)

It is not easy, but my one bit of advice to you from what you posted... don't think of the total of what you want to lose. Just go for the next stone marker. 17 getting to 16st something, 16 getting to 15st something and so on... it really helped me to do that. Good luck, you can do it, bit by bit.

Hi all, I have been reading through the board and it seems like a really friendly and supportive group I have a long way to go and my journey begins tomorrow. I have a long road ahead of me and having support and being able to support others I think will really help me is it OK for me to join? Xx

Welcome!

Welcome to you too 🥰
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Weigh-in update for me for the first time in a couple of weeks. 2 weeks ago my aim was to get under the 200lb mark and I've got there.

Current stats...
SW - 250lbs
CW - 197lbs
GW - 155lbs

Bit surprised I lost 3lbs this week so am expecting a week or so of smaller losses or maintaining next.

Next goal is to get to 191lbs - that will take me into the "overweight" BMI category. I started this with my BMI up near 40 so health wise, even though there's a long way to go, I'm thrilled 💕

Have a great long weekend everyone x

Welcome @MsNeis glad you have joined us! I completely understand emotional eating. I think that's my biggest issue, really. I know what it's like to be overwhelmed by the amount you have to lose, as well. Something I would recommend is making mini goals you can celebrate and focus on. So things like losing 5 or 10% of your original weight, moving down to another 10kg bracket or something, going from obese to overweight. These kind of things have helped me. Just so I'm clear my weightloss is super slow. But I'm pleased I'm still going. I could easily have totally given up and have regained everything and more. Good luck with it all!

Also welcome to @mummyjojo19 What things are you going to try to implement?

@Thejugglestruggle well done! That's fantastic that you've gone under 200lb! And it's amazing your BMI has reduced so much!

I have had a gain of 0.4kg since Thursday - not a massive surprise as I had duck when I went out for a meal on Thursday! It was delicious though. It's still a loss of 0.7kg since last Sunday, and my period is imminent, so I'm pretty pleased with how things are going. I posted recently about giving up my weekly McDonald's, and honestly it's been weird. I've kind of missed it. But it's fine. And it will definitely help speed up the weightloss! Also I'm about to book my first handstand class! So excited!

Do hope everything is going OK for everyone?
Personally, I find it easier in better weather as comfort food and lots of it can be by downfall.

I've managed to lose 2lbs of the 4lbs I put on, so that's fine and I'm going to keep working on it.
But then stuff happens to much it all up. Like tomorrow... pub lunch out that's been fixed with a friend for ages and now we're out for a pub meal in the evening too and I have little self control when we eat out!

Well done on losing the 2lbs! I hear you...life sometimes just gets in the way! I say enjoy it, and then get right back on the horse afterwards!
I have to say I'm having a really tough week this week. I haven't been eating terribly but feel like I'm being tempted a lot more this week than I have since I started this journey. Every food choice has been locked a battle mentally since Sunday...no idea why. Maybe because it's been 4 months and I'm losing my steam? I have a long way to go still and don't want to undo all my hard work!

Oh yes, I know that feeling! It's really hard to just be thinking of food all the time, then having to reset that and be sensible.

💯

I'm similar MsNeis. Just weighed myself and I'm 15 st 9 lb. 99 kilos. I'm 5ft 3". I'm very down about it. I'm in my mid 50s with teenagers. I've a rather cool, if I say so myself, media based job and my appearance really affects my confidence. I dread meetings ... people always think I'm so funeeee in a Dawn French/Jo Brand sort of way but I actually feel pissed off and tired most of the time. I've reached the stage where people get over familiar and comment, ie it must be tiring for you doing "x" , or me having to explain exactly why I do not want to spend a day clothes shopping with a size 10 friend or making excuses not to go swimming or for long walks. I'm angry with myself. It's not my friends' fault. Most of all I'm angry for allowing this to happen and for my health to be so affected.

So enough of the self pity. I also would love to join you:
Starting weight 15.9
Goal weight 11 stone.
(Ideally 10.00 but I'd be happy with 11.7!)

@Roussette well done on losing 2lb. And yes, it is so difficult! Eating out can be really tricky. I try to allow myself to reasonably eat what I want, after all a treat is ok. And one all this weight is off I don't want to put it back on. I have to find ways of treating myself without gaining. But it really slows down the weightloss! Sometimes if I'm going somewhere not very interesting I will just go for something boring. But if I'm going to a new pub I've never been to, I don't want a salad!

@Thejugglestruggle sorry this week has been hard for you. I have been there!

@Pennina welcome to the gang! I want us all to get matching tattoos or something! Haha! It is so hard looking at how we ended up here. I struggle with that sometimes.

I weighed yesterday and have gained 100g since last week. I'm not sure why I haven't lost, but am sure it'll come off. I have been eating pretty well this past week, I think. In time it'll happen. This week is going to be difficult though. My parents are up for a few days. And I'm having a tattoo, so will need lots of snacks for that.

Sorry I've been away from the thread for so long.

29/10 104
28/11 103
9/12 101
18/12 101
2/01 99
31/01 97
20/02 96
21/03 95
12/05 94kgs

Slow progress but at least it's in the right direction. I need to keep going but these last ten days I've been overeating and comfort eating. It's not showing on the scales yet but it will if I don't rein it in.

@Rebuildingconfidence

Look how well you've done! That's 10kg, quite an achievement. I know how hard, however, it is to curb the comfort eating, it's a constant battle isn't it...

Two weeks since my last weigh-in update and I've lost 1lb.
My mind has just not been on weight loss at all. I've not eaten terribly but definitely eaten more treat foods in these two weeks than in the previous few months combined. I had been so on it before so I'm not sure where my mental shift has come from.
Anyway, onwards! I've got a big day out today that's been in the diary for ages so I'm going to enjoy that, then I'm getting super strict from tomorrow again.
Only 3lbs and then I'll have lost 4 stone this year so I'm determined to get to that milestone soon.

Hope everyone else is doing okx

10kg is fantastic @Rebuildingconfidence Well done!

@Thejugglestruggle half of it is a mental thing. It's so hard, but well done on that lb. Hope you enjoyed your day out!

This might be a bit off topic for this thread, but here goes. I'm 15kg down from where I started. I've still got about 40kg to go

I'm doing ok, slowly but surely, trying to focus more on fitness and how my clothes fit than the numbers on the scales, as I find that more motivating. BUT... my skin looks horrendous. I feel like every part of me, my skin looks baggy and awful. Even my forearms! I'm definitely not losing weight too fast, and I know it's inevitable that as I'm my 40s with so much weight to lose, I won't look tremendous at the end of it, but I'm surprised by how quickly the skin thing is happening and I'm really worried about what will happen if I ever do reach my goal weight! Can anyone advise - is there a miracle product out there that can help me?

I can't advise on that @missg00se but I have to say, well done! That is some achievement, really it is.

I've been a size 20 plus and a size 8 and everything in between so I know how hard it is.

Thank you, that's kind of you to say. I feel like the difference for me this time is that I'm recovering from a bad injury (a full ten months off my feet and then many other months with limited mobility) so I HAD to take steps to get my fitness levels and strength back up - and coming from that place of literally not being able to walk the length of my house, I'm really enjoying the exercise. It's amazing watching my body respond, and get stronger, and I'm well on the way to my goal of teaching my daughter to use her skipping ropes this summer. So focusing on that aspect while keeping an eye on the scales but not overly worrying about them is really helping. I've joined WW but mainly I use the app as a rough guide and am trying not to get too obsessed with calories because that path never ends well for me

@missg00se

Exercise is so time consuming! The only thing I can recommend is walking. It's been my saviour. I've done gyms, swimming exercise, the lot. The only thing that works for me is walking on and on and on... time permitting of course. And with a good podcast.
When I started I could barely walk much more than a mile, now I can knock off 5 or 7 miles just like that. For me it's worked, it might not for everyone.

Ditto on not getting hung up on WW or any of them. I've done the lot in the past, seriously I have. I now do my own thing. Walk. I did MyFitnessPal to check calories but not to be ruled by it, just to realise that at Christmas my favourite mince pie was 346 calories! Who knew?! Now I feel I just know where I'm sabotaging the whole thing, so it's just a check for me.

Thank you for the encouragement and sorry I don't post a lot.

The binge eating has been horrendous but tonight I actually brushed my teeth and got into bed instead of heading to the kitchen for more late night eating.

I'm proud of that and I hope to continue as the post binge guilt is getting worse and worse.

It's so easy to give in, isn't it... DH is away at the moment, and god knows why, because it's just me I have to cook for whilst he's not here... but it means all routine has gone to pot.
Weird... I whinge about cooking for DH, he eats more than me, but yet when he's not here I'm not sensible!

The one thing I don't do rebuilding is late night eating thank goodness, I have too many other bad habits!

Make it a day at a time for the NO late night eating, I'll join you with stopping the bread binging (just one of my weak spots)

Anyone got any tips for the last stone ?
HW 116kg
CW 74kg
GW 68kg

Lots of stalls no gains this feels like the hardest part !!