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Anyone looking to lose 100lbs plus... - Part 5

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NoTractorsAtTheTable · 07/06/2018 20:04

Hello, welcome to the fifth instalment (wow!) of the ‘Anyone looking to lose 100lbs plus …’ thread Smile

If you want to read them (but by no means feel obliged!), the previous threads are here: Part 1, Part 2, Part 3 and Part 4

We’re a very friendly, supportive group, and all at different stages, but we’re all seeing some real changes in ourselves and our attitudes to food. It’s a long old road, but it helps to chat along the way

Collectively, we’ve lost an incredible….........Star 1024lbs Star since the start of the first thread in Dec 16, which is amazing! Grin Grin

We tend to weigh in on Fridays or Saturdays, but feel free to join in at any time, with whatever weight loss method you think works best for you. Some of us have lost more than others, but we're all in this together, so if you're losing, gaining or staying the same, it's nice to have some inspiration to keep going.

We’re always welcoming to newcomers, but as with the previous thread(s), I’ll add one caveat - we’re all here because we are trying to lose a LOT of weight. If you’re looking to lose the last half stone, or even two or three stone, this might not be the thread for you. Good luck with your goals, but you may find more support with in threads with people who have similar goals to you.

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fezzesarecool · 05/08/2018 01:24

NSV

Had a fantastic night out and for a change although I’m still the the obese range I didn’t feel like it.

Had some priceless wow moments and danced the night away. I knock into someone’s drink and it was no big deal rather than me cringing and thinking I’m a stupid fat cow. Even posed for photos, in the front and not hiding my body.

So I’m throwing down right now. I’m am going to finish what I’ve started and maintain and bloody well reclaimed my life.

Feel free to ignore, I just wanted to document how I’m feeling right now.

honeysucklejasmine · 05/08/2018 07:07

Amazing Fezzes! Congratulations! I think we can all recognise your victories here as I'm sure we've all had the same anxieties about going out in the past.

PostNotInHaste · 05/08/2018 07:08

Well done Honeysuckle! Staying the same sounds sensible aim given the circumstances.

Fezzes that’s fantastic! No doubt you’re going to do it and it does feel so much better when you can do more and feel more normal, not defined by your weight.

Welcome Korma. I read somewhere that people who have 3 people or more to support them are more likely to be successful. I’m so sorry about your MumFlowers It was a few months after mine died that I reached crunch point when I needed an op and was too big to be referred. Around 100lbs later and it has been pretty life changing.

Actually I’m annoyingly just under 100lb loss as the moment and waiting for the extra 5.75lbs i’ve picked up to fuck off. Ideally they would do this by Tuesday when I go into hospital as been reading that the procedure can sometimes mean after a week or two some people’s stomachs swell as a reaction and weight can go on . So could do without double whammy on that really but at this point will just have to accept whatever happens and keep the faith it will eventually go when my body recovers. Holiday weight gain is just water, one pound tops as was only 3 days I went over. Brings it home though about how maintenance is going to be really pretty similar to losing without the reward of seeing the scales go down and being constantly vigilant. Can see why so many people are fine losing and then don’t manage to keep it off.

DD and partner moving out today into temporary accommodation to flat hunt ready for September. She has been a total star and put portions of food in the freezer for me for next week.

NoTractorsAtTheTable · 05/08/2018 08:55

fezzes that's great hold onto that feeling! Glad you had a good night Smile

Something that I've been thinking about is that I think it's sometimes difficult to make it stick in our heads (or mine, at least) that we are doing this for us, and how we feel. I see it a lot on the weight loss threads elsewhere (which I do try to avoid) where someone has had a comment on their weight, and are told to lose weight to 'show that person' Confused - it begins and ends with us and we need to do this for that reason, not to get one over on some random bod!

Loss this week: 1.5lb (hoo-fucking-rah!)
To lose: 124 lbs
Lost to date: 49 lbs
Left to lose: 75 lbs

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NoTractorsAtTheTable · 05/08/2018 08:57

Post everything crossed for Tuesday for you!

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fezzesarecool · 05/08/2018 09:01

Bit fought this morning and I’ve got work in a bit 😩

Drinkwise not too bad, stuck to vodka and I probably offset that by dancing away

I meant to mention that in the way home I. Was on the tube and in the reflection I could see myself and my two friends, one a size 10 and the other a 12 and I’m a solid 18 now. Actually I didn’t look that much bigger than them. So that helping me could to realise my size.

Anyway the lovely bride gave me some compliments and she said some lovely things about how happy she was for me etc and I promised her that by her wedding (7 weeks) that I would be a size 16 or another stone off. 😩 So go to get focused again and see how near I can get to keeping my promise!

ChestyNut · 05/08/2018 10:08

Disappointed this week, ovulation week so expecting again but did a 3 mile walk in the swealtering heat so thought might have offset the fluid gain but no Sad

This week + 1lb 12 oz
Total 59lbs 12oz
To lose 40lb 4oz

Bleeding hormones!

honeysucklejasmine · 05/08/2018 11:05

chesty the long walk in the heat may well have contributed to the gain - water retention. Koko it'll come off again.

Super job on the losses, losers.

ILs have a home gym so I used the cross trainer this morning - only for 10 min as I completely neglected to put any shoes on. 🙄 But still. 140 cals gained, but more than that - I had the desire to do the exercise, I pushed myself to keep beating the "lap" time with each lap, and I am quite fancying another 10 minutes! Wtf? Who am I?! Old me wouldn't have dreamed of using gym equipment!

DD has celebrated visiting the ILs by projectile vomiting so this mornings plans have been put on hold until she's better.

BreakingSad · 05/08/2018 12:57

All the best for Tuesday Post

Hope Dd is better soon Honey and well done on the exercise

I weighed in yesterday and I'm up 1 lb, which isn't really a surprise, as although we did lots of sports and swimming etc while away, in-between we do did very little and ate out every night.

I'm back on it, but it's not helped that my fridge/freezer packed up while we were away, with everything ruined inside. Resulting in more eating out, new fridge/freezer being delivered today, can't wait as in this heat it's been a nightmare without it.

Lost this week +1
To lose 113
Lost to date 62
Left to lose 51

MagicKeysToAsda · 05/08/2018 14:02

Sorry to hear about the fridge/freezer Breaking, hope all is resolved soon. Also sorry to hear you and Chesty are sharing my "gain-bench" this week - I had a peek to see what the damage was looking like almost a week after getting back from hols. It's not pretty. I will weigh as normal tomorrow and attempt to be honest!

Well done on the cross-trainer Honeysuckle sounds like you did great! Post I hope your body settles down and starts behaving more as you expect it to very soon, and that all goes well at the hospital. I find your posts incredibly inspiring and encouraging, always. Glad you had a good night out Fezzes!

Trying to cheer myself up, I seem to have disappeared down a rabbithole of ways to assess weight and health.

  • The NHS tells me that a waist measurement of 34 or higher is "see your GP right this instant before you keel over"
  • The researchers who say height to waist measurement is actually the most important health indicator say for my height I need to be aiming for a waist measurement of 33.5 (that half-inch is obviously critical compared to the NHS view above!)
  • Diabetes UK tells me my waist to hip ratio is in the "very low to zero" risk of obesity related problems (0.76 if anyone is interested!)
  • The NHS BMI chart tells me that for my height, a healthy BMI would be 8.5 - 11.25 stones. I am only aiming for 12.5 so that will leave me squarely in the overweight bracket, which is a bit of a mindf*ck.

So basically, who knows?! I guess the only thing I can say for sure is that my waist is 11.5 inches smaller than it was 13 months ago, and the only way to shake off the holiday pounds and all the others is to KOKO Smile

Lovelesslily · 05/08/2018 20:09

Hello ... hope you don't mind another newbie joining in! (Complete Mumsnet newbie, this is my first post after lurking for weeks!) I've been inspired to actually make an account and post after reading this thread over the last day.

I have always been overweight but for most of that time hovered at around 13 stone so not the horrendously obese I am now.
The trigger was my mum dying 4 years ago: she went from diagnosis to death in 8 weeks and I have just piled on the weight since then.
Until 2 weeks ago I was somewhat in denial - I knew I'd got bigger but not quite how much! Weighed myself at the start of the summer holidays and was horrified to see 18 stone 13 pounds!! I was genuinely shocked as I didn't see myself as so big.

Since then I've gone cold turkey on chocolate/biscuits/fizzy drinks and junk food and been exercising at least 20 mins a day (using YouTube videos don't want to be seen in public exercising yet!!)
Weight as of Sat morning 18 stone 5lbs... goal for now is 12 stone but I'd love to one day be 10. Not sure I've been 10 stone since childhood so it seems a pipe dream at the moment! But we will see...
I'm so inspired by the stories on this thread!! Determined to keep going this time!

FATEdestiny · 05/08/2018 21:00

Welcome Lovelesslily! No reason you can't dress big - or actually that should be dream small in our case.

It was mine and DH's 15th wedding anniversary this week. We are now both smaller than we were on our wedding day (and we weren't really big then, just a bit over weight). So neither of us have been this size in a long, long time. It is doable!

I'm going to be in the 10-stones soon. I can't quite get my head around that. Plus I've started thinking about being 9 stone something. Or maybe even 8 stone something!

MagicKeysToAsda

I've been looking at the waist measurement thing too. I'm going to get to BMI 25 weight-wise a long time before I get to a healthy waist measurement. I had assumed that would be the case for most people, but I guess it depends on your shape.

It gives me good reason to carry on losing weight, which I want to do past BMI 25. I already have people unhelpfully saying "you don't want to lose anymore now" (Yes Susan, I do. I'm not close to being underweight, thanks for your concern).

So I'll get to healthy BMI first and then move my target to inch loses around my waist until it is at least half my height. My height is 160cm, so 80cm (31.5 inches) is my target waist measurement. Current waist measurement is 36 inches.

FATEdestiny · 05/08/2018 21:01

Correction:

No reason you can't dream big - or actually that should be dreamsmallin our case.

fezzesarecool · 05/08/2018 21:08

Eeek, was still on a high from last night so gave jogging a little go.

In the streets,
In daylight
Where my friends live
And other people
People with eyes!!!!

I didn’t do much but I fucking did it. People saw me.....with their eyes!!!! They didn’t give a shit and more importantly nor did I! 👀 👀 👀
😄😄😄😄😄

FATEdestiny · 05/08/2018 21:29

Good for you fezzesarecool.

I found that without exception, everyone I came across was mega-supportive of my running. Especially so when I was still very big when I was running.

Download the NHS Couch to 5K Week 1 podcast and give it a go.

www.nhs.uk/Tools/Pages/Couch-to-5K-running-plan.aspx

MagicKeysToAsda · 05/08/2018 21:43

That's so interesting FateDestiny I hadn't realised (stupidly) that build would make such a dramatic difference. My waist is 34.5 currently, needs to be an inch smaller to reach the healthy waist/height ratio. But I have getting on for three stone to lose still to reach a healthy BMI. I've lost 11.5 inches from my waist in 4.5 stones, so in theory another inch will be a lot sooner than three stone! That's kind of why I'm aiming for a point still in the overweight BMI band, because for my build my guess is it might be "right"...having said that I've not been down to that weight in over twenty years so who knows how it will feel when I get there!

PostNotInHaste · 06/08/2018 06:16

Thank you all. Tractors well done on the loss, you are so right on it starting and stopping with us.

Chesty I totally sympathise, hormones suck. Is there any mileage in not weighing on ovulation week in the future? I’m at same time of the month and just looked on the scales, am only 2.5lbs up now which is a big improvement on nearly half a stone on Saturday morning but think the current bit is ovulation, it’s worse than pre period these days.

BeeakingSad, sorry about the fridge, not good to come home to. That’s actually very impressive a pound, well done ! It’s great we’re all going away then coming back and KOKO.

MagicKeys don’t be too despondent about a gain, a lot of it will be water and will be off in a couple of weeks. I definitely could only have over eaten by a pound tops in total as was only 3 days didn’t count and was fairly active so worst case scenario was extra 1000 cals a day on those days, but scales showed nearly half a stone. Bloody unsettling to see though and I do get how people come back, see the gain and never get back on track.

My waist measurement is now half of height at BMI just over 26, but hip to waist ratio too high when last checked it. I think I probably will end up about right at top of BMI to half a stone under.

Welcome to the thread and to MN LovelessLily and so sorry about your Mum, that must have been a huge shock. You’re off to a great start and I think most of us can relate to having been in denial, will never forget the moment I saw 19 on the scales. A few more weeks and you’ll see 17 again.

Happy anniversary Fate, that’s great you’re both lighter than your wedding day. I’m enjoying being lighter than DH for first time in our relationship. Totally hear you on the others going on about not losing more weight. I’ve stopped engaging on it now i’ve decided and am going to charitably put it down to it being such a contrast to before and I think I look lighter than I weigh. Saw a couple of friends fleetingly yesterday and was in one of my new t shirts that fit better so had the whole I can’t get over how thin you look again. I honestly don’t look thin, just a hell of a lot thinner than before.

Have made the decision to ditch one friendship that has been weird for a bit. Think i’ve posted about it before. I’ve gone from largest to secon thinnest and the person who was in that position before has gone a bit weird. One day there was a constant at atmosphere between us the whole time and not goid for group dynamic so I’m bailing. She absolutely ripped into me by text about 6 months ago fior something she feels another of group and I did that she found rude and accused me of lying. Interestingly she didn’t raise it with other friend (thinnest in group). I apologised at time to keep the peace but am still pissed if so after a whole walk of her talking over me and than resorting to cultural stereotypes about my Mother plus loads of comments on and off about how skinny I look, i’m Out. Sorry, bit long there, think I needed to get that out.!

On plus side as have said before, I love the effect it has had on some other friendships where I now access parts of their life I didn’t before ie. the exercise bits and it has added a whole new dimension which has been lovely. Overall everyone has been really supportive. I know it has been hard at times for a close friend who thinks she isn’t very intelligent (she is, just not confident). We’ve always been an unlikely friendship to look at but she’s been like a sister to me. She was telling someone a couple of years ago that i’, the brains of the friendship and although she never said it, I know she saw herself as the attractive one. She is and has always let that define her so been struggling a bit with the whole ‘losing your looks ‘concept, not helped by a very critical DD who keeps on saying how old she’s looking, People are talking about my weight loss and I think a guy we both know was saying something quite complimentary about my new shape and I think she found that hard as she is usually the one who very frequently gets compliments. She’s had to rethink how she views herself a bit and is now finding that she is starting to think about what she wants to a much bigger extent (always did everything based around her now two adult DC) and taking up new interests which she’s loving and she has also changed and is also taking control of her life much more. Sorry to ramble, bit of a brain splurge.

Fezzes bloody well done to you, that’s fantastic and you’ve inspired me to get off my arse and go for last ore pre Hospital run!

strawberrypig · 06/08/2018 07:36

Post, it does sound as if your friend is struggling with the new you, her dad sounds vile telling her she looks old though! Amazing NSVs for you in the compliments.

I am on a bit of a slow weight loss stretch at the moment. A combination of hormones and going away for a night and drinking lots of wine and eating what I like, including an curry and eggs benedict for breakfast! However, the new me chose a lamb biryani with no sauce and stopped eating when I was full and didn't eat the English muffin and scrapped off most of the hollandaise. I have no excuse for the wineWineWineWineGrin Pretty chuffed to still have a small weight loss!

Scores on the doors for week 12

Loss 1.5lb

Total loss 24.5lbs (nearly 1/4 there!)

Only 75.5lbs to go.

I might get there faster if I was good all the time but I intend this to be a lifestyle change and not a diet. I certainly do not want to be on a diet for the rest of my life.

AChickenCalledKorma · 06/08/2018 07:49

Hello LovelessLily it's nice to "meet" someone else who is just starting off. And it sounds like we are in a similar situation. We also lost my mum over the course of just a few weeks. She had what was supposedly a "mild" stroke which didn't do too much physical damage but completely changed her personality. She stopped eating (ironically) and quite literally lost the will to live. It was bewildering and very hard to watch.

I've also now got my frail father to worry about. It's all very difficult and has contributed to an even greater desire to stuff my face with food.

Tiredness is a major trigger for my over eating and this is my first week back at work after a fortnight off, so I may be in need of increasing support by Friday!

fezzesarecool · 06/08/2018 11:18

Just wondering about confidence levels.

What has helped everyone?

At my biggest I was uncomfortable to go swimming but the only way my kids would be able to go was if I did it with them. So I would go and get my ‘bravery’ from them. As in I didn’t want them to miss out because of me and my issues.

So what I’m working on now is to get confidence from myself which is part of the whole exercising in public, and wearing things that that aren’t big and baggy, going into shops and trying on clothes etc.

As much as I’m doing this for my family I need to do this for myself.

Not sure if anyone else struggles with this but for anyone that does, what kind of things do you challenge yourself to do? Just looking for inspiration and NSV mini goals. Doesn’t even have to be anything big, just things that you wouldn’t have even entertained before.

FATEdestiny · 06/08/2018 12:16

Exercising a public was a big step for me.

Also, dressing like I'm exercising was a big thing too. I used to wear normal clothes to exercise in. Things like joggers and a t-shirt so suitable, but clothes that don't immediately suggest "Gym Bunny".

I now wear (well fitting, rather than mega tight) full lycra when running, and often include a bumbag and cap. There is no doubt im dressed to exercise, rather than hiding and 'pretending' I'm just wearing normal clothes. It's quite liberating.

Another thing that I do that's about body confidence is to wear fewer clothes when around the house. My DH has gained this confidence too (he's lost 5 1/2 stone) and will now go around the house bare-chested, something he'd never do before. I will wear just pants and a vest around the house. Or shorts and a crop-top bra. Obviously I wouldn't leave the house like this, but I wouldn't even be around the house so scantily dressed previously.

My other big confidence thing is having my photo taken. I just never would have my photo taken when i was large. There are no "before" photos showing my weight change, because there simply are no photos of me big. I now not only tolerate having my photo taken, I quite enjoy seeing the result.

fezzesarecool · 06/08/2018 12:26

FATEdestiny Fantastic NSV’s! I’ll definitely be adding those into my mini goals list and a big well done for doing those!

fezzesarecool · 06/08/2018 12:31

Also love the use of the word ‘liberating’, that’s what I’m looking for to sort of feel the fear, do it anyway and to feel liberated.

NoTractorsAtTheTable · 06/08/2018 19:08

So, did my walk home from work - got soaked by an unexpected shower, have sore feet and forgot the backpack so had to do it with an unwieldy shoulder bag. But did it! And a decent time too - was aiming for an hour, and did it in 55 mins, which is pretty good for just under 3 miles.

Definitely something I can do a couple of times a week - going to do it again on Wednesday.

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honeysucklejasmine · 06/08/2018 19:24

Hi all. Welcome Lily! Well done on your initial weight loss. I'm sorry to hear about your Mum - I just can't imagine.

Went to a BBQ yesterday. Was over by about 600 calories. But I was absolutely stuffed. I haven't felt like that for a long time, and honestly I didn't enjoy it. The food was amazing and my "allergy" foods were catered for which was fab. (For newbies, my breastfed DS is allergic to dairy, egg, soya, beef and gluten. I have to avoid them all too except gluten which doesn't pass through breastmilk.)

Today I'll probably be over by 100-200. I had peanut butter toast for breakfast and a pub lunch.

We're not going anywhere until after lunch tomorrow so might use cross trainer again and see if I can undo the overs!

Fezzes yesterday I happily posed for a photo with no concern at all. Never would have happened.

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