Anyone looking to lose 100lbs plus... - Part 4

[NoTractorsAtTheTable]

Hello, welcome to the fourth instalment of the ‘Anyone looking to lose 100lbs plus …’ thread

If you want to read them (but by no means feel obliged!), the previous threads are here: Part 1, Part 2, and Part 3

We’re a very friendly, supportive group, and I think we’re all seeing some real changes in ourselves and our attitudes to food. It’s a long old road, but it helps to chat along the way 

Collectively, we’ve lost 869 lbs since the start of the first thread, which is pretty amazing! 

We tend to weigh in on Fridays or Saturdays, but feel free to join in at any time, with whatever weight loss method you think works best for you. Some of us have lost more than others, but we're all in this together, so if you're losing, gaining or staying the same, it's nice to have some inspiration to keep going.

We’re always welcoming to newcomers, but as with the previous thread(s), I’ll add one caveat - we’re all here because we are trying to lose a LOT of weight. If you’re looking to lose the last half stone, or even two or three stone, this might not be the thread for you. Good luck with your goals, but you may find more support with in threads with people who have similar goals to you.

AnotherOtter sure is the mirena. Will be pushing to have it out again, I feel so crappy and bloated and awful. Was under my calorie goal every day this week and very nearly gained weight (previously losing 2-3lbs a week).

So yeah. Wedding was beautiful! Lovely day. Food wise... I ended up with no starter at all, and sent my main back twice. The dessert came out no problem at all, so I think somewhere there was a misunderstanding between the coordinator and the kitchen. Oh well. I had anticipated this and had a good breakfast so I was ok.

DS not v well today, so I think something slipped through. And this is why I don't like eating out. 🙄

Oh honey that's such a shame, hope DS is feeling better soon.

Well done Another and yes, the Scottish drinking culture is something to behold. It's so pervasive. I haven't had the healthiest relationship with alcohol in the past (same as my one with food) so staying on the rails is just healthier all round.

Good attitude and insight Chesty, this thread has really hammered home to me how important it is to get going again after a slip.

fezzes enjoy your egg hunt

Situation here is that the cat has pinched most of the cheese for the macaroni and DD dropped the birthday cake, so we're off to the shops for some emergency supplies!

Hello ladies, and well done to you all for losing/maintaining/only gaining a tiny bit in the onslaught of mountains of chocolate and temptation!!
I dared weigh myself this morning, despite going slightly off the rails the past few days and miraculously have stayed the same. Last night I scoffed half a Cadburys dairy milk easter egg (540 calories), plus one of the bars in side (240 cals) on top of three quarters of a bottle of white wine (about 450 cals). So over 1200 cals on top of my allocated 1600 calories!!

But onwards and upwards, I'm off out for lunch soon, and can't imagine that I will be stinting on the wine or the food this afternoon, though will hold myself back on the crisps and nibbles and save myself for the main feast!

Forgotmyusername - Fezzes has some good advice, and I touched on it in an earlier post. Start now. Just tiny baby steps. Because in six months time if you haven't made any changes you will be in exactly the same position as you are now. But if you can find the strength to make those small changes, to eat three sensible meals a day or whatever it is that works for you, your body will respond accordingly. even if it's only a pound a week, that's 4lbs a month, and 24lbs in six months. And I think we'd all agree that to weigh nearly 2 stone less in six months time is infinitely preferable to being where we are now. As Fezzes said, just start now. Not tomorrow. Make yourself a nice healthy dinner and enjoy it. Then stop. Repeat tomorrow. The support on this thread is great, and it's motivating to post regularly as well. Good luck!!

Chesty That's brilliant! That sounds like great progress. I'm currently trying not to throw today out of the window. I hadn't relaised how many calories were in mango and pomegranate - bloody hell!!

AnotherOtter Thank you so much for letting me know of that site, I've been on and it looks really good. I've registered for one of the courses. Thank you so much.

NoTractors Congratulations on escaping the pub - enjoy the macaroni cheese, love the stuff I do! Hope you find a shop that's open - I managed a Tesco run.

Honey So sorry to hear about BabyHoney. It must be an absolute nightmare eating out, I can't even imagine. I'm glad the wedding was nice. Hope you manage to get the coil out. I get bloated badly every so often with the mini pill and it's not regular, but I guess the upside is I can choose to stop taking it whenever I want.

Nobeach At least you've accounted for it all. Hope you enjoy yourself!

Just wondering, later on in June I’ve got a few events coming up and would like to look my best for a change! Is it ok to ask for clothing advice on here?

I’ve no idea how to dress for my shape and completely lost interest the last few years and have been content to cover up in baggy clothes

At the moment I’m still content covering up, and sort of pleased to keep my weight loss a secret for as long as I can

But it would be kind of nice to dress better in the future and to celebrate being a better size I know I won’t have a massive loss between now and June but I’m hoping a maybe I’ll be around a size 20 which maybe would start showing a bit more of a shape than the 28/26

Actually truth is I’ve really no idea about sizes and the last few years been guessing and buying stretchy stuff and trying on at home

My best guess for what I am at the minute are my jeans are a size 24 from Yours which were super tight but now seem to be fitting better

On my top I’m wearing size 24/26 which mow seems longer and a bit baggy

But I supposed I have to try stuff on properly later as no idea what shape I’ll be. Right now I’ve sort of got 2 tummies 😞

(Sorry I ramble on so much, this is the only place I feel I can talk about this stuff)

I wonder if it's worth us doing a sort of SW style clothes bank? I don't want to spend a lot of money on a new wardrobe when I lose weight (until I get to target, obvs) and I imagine others are the same. I'll have some clothes I could pass on that others could use as an interim wardrobe whilst they slim?

I also have no idea what will suit me, so am planning to do a personal shopping thingy atva department store once I hit target.

Fezzes I love clothes and fashion so if you can give a bit more info on your shape/ proportions it will be easier to advise.

So how tall are you and where do you carry your weight? What are your best features and what are you less confident about? In another 2/3 months time you could well be down another couple of dress sizes!

Anyway, regardless of your size there's no reason for not looking your best. After all we all have to wear clothes so why not choose those that are most flattering for your shape and size rather than lumbering around like a sack of spuds?? Not that I'm suggesting that's what you look like for a second!! But there is a tendency amongst some
Overweight women to feel they're not worth it and there's no point in even attempting to look nice if you're a long way off your goal weight.

But making an effort with your appearance does make you feel better about yourself and there's no reason why you can't have nice nails, hair or flattering clothes at any size!

Accountability post - 2lbs gain this week.

Gulp. First gain in 9 months of doing this. Meals have been good. Total inability to stop eating junk in between has been awful. There are some other factors (have a streaming cold, am very stressed about a relative's possible health relapse to be confirmed this week) but TBH both those have happened before and not sent me so wildly off course.

Am going to check in here for TLC through the week, and draw a very firm line as of right now. Also going to look at other ways to try and look after/ comfort myself that are not food. Possibly veering towards yoga or mindfulness at the moment - does anyone have experience of those?

Right, wobbly chin up, and it's a new day.

I need a slap. I am hugely upset by my STS. I feel all sorts of hopeless because I know it was nothing I did wrong, or anything I could have done to prevent it. I am so angry that this setback has happened when I was finally doing well. I'm also really upset because I had gone down a stone bracket, waved goodbye to the old one and am now seeing it again even though I am busting my backside eating fuck all. It's actually causing some really quite intrusive thoughts for me. I want to eat healthily but now there's a little voice whispering that I should just not eat at all. Which obviously is ridiculous and would only lead to binge eating and failure anyway. It's scaring me a bit tbh. I am phoning the doctors first thing tomorrow to make an appointment to get rid. Honestly I am struggling not to cry, just thinking about it.

You may not have a slap, but you can have a solidarity arm punch Some thoughts to argue back against the harmful little voice:

• you are valuable, you are worth nurturing with healthy wholesome nourishing food
• your body is giving vital support to DS, and has recently produced DS, and both those things are physical wonders
• you aren't doing anything wrong
• the hormone disruption won't last for ever, and the way to control it is to do exactly what you are doing: see your GP and discuss whether the coil should stay or go
• you ARE handling this, which makes you a strong powerful woman

(And the catchphrase in this house ostensibly for DC but should really be for me: "when we're tired, little feelings turn into big feelings". You're coping with an awful lot, including worry about DS, you're going to be shattered and at a low ebb. Anyone would be. But you're going to get through this, a little bit at a time )

Honey! You’re gain is not your fault!

You know what the solution is and it’s not anything that you are doing wrong

You just need to stay strong for a bit longer until you get that coil out and then whoosh

You haven’t work this hard, responsibility and sensibility for so long and through pregnancy and breastfeeding to let this bit of metal defeat you

You’re allowed to be upset but you also have to pick yourself back up again This is a small lapse in your journey

Tell me your stats, how long have you been doing this? How much total loss? What motivates you? What’s a short term goal?

Honey! It's okay - B1rd makes some very sensible and true points. You've recently carried and given birth to an entire little human, and you're responsible for keeping him alive! And it's not been easy for you with the poor thing's allergies. You deserve to care for yourself and feed yourself the things that will help you sustain your energy enough to care for both yourself and him. You have been doing so so well, and STS is a massive achievement considering everything you've been through, and that you've been out to eat this week at the wedding. It must be so hard not to get down but as you've said yourself it's NOT your fault. I'm so glad that you're going to ring the doctor and get an appointment, you sound like an incredibly strong and sensible woman.

B1rd Hope you are okay. Remember in the long run 2lb is merely a blip and everything will smooth out eventually. Sounds like you have had a tough week - I hope you are okay.

Fezzes If you could give us a bit more info about your body shape/favourite features/ etc I'm sure we could help! I know of a few really nice websites depending on what types of clothes you want to wear.

I really like the idea of a clothes bank!

Thank you lovely ladies, you are right of course. It's so frustrating. I have endometriosis and adenomyosis and have just moved house, so I have a fresh referral to a new gynaecologist.

I knew the coil wasn't for me and my old gynaecologist wasn't bothered. I only got this one in case the new one is bothered and refuses more comprehensive treatment until I've tried it. Fucking uterus messing things up for me. It's grown two children but it's made my life miserable since I was 12 and I am so ready to get rid. Really this coil experience cements for me that it's going to be nothing but trouble for me in the future and it's time for the serious treatment.

Head firmly wobbled. I need to eat a good diet for DSs sake. He is 6 months old today, so time to start solid food. But also for DD (she's 2), I need to set a good example to her. That's a main motivation really - I don't want her to be as miserable as I was as a teenager. I want to protect her from what we've all been through as much as possible, and that starts with providing a balanced diet and a good example.

fezzes I've been hovering around the 17 stone bracket since about 2010, but I've always been heavy. After DD was born I weighed in at 19st 4lbs. I got down to about 18 stone doing SW at home before conceiving DS. I was about 18st 7lb by the time he was born (he weighed 7lb) so managed to stay static. Since then I did nothing for a few months and have been doing mfp for about 2 months ish now, and am currently hovering between 16.13 and 17.1.

So, total loss in 2st 3-5lbs since my heaviest, with a baby in between.

Honey, you sound at the end of your tether unMumsnetty ((hugs)) I find sts so hard too when you've put the work in with restricting your eating. It makes me feel very helpless and out of control but perhaps we both have to remember Post's advice about how weight loss is not linear and there will be setbacks during the long haul. That little voice that says "don't eat at all" ends nowhere good: only rebound binging and despair and ruining your momentum. Please tell it to fuck off and KOKO with your current healthy changes that have been working so well for you. Your second post sounds more positive so hope you are starting to feel better soon

Good advice from Nobeach about just jumping in and starting now. You don't have to be perfect and you can learn how as you go. Also great advice about looking after your appearance no matter what your shape and size. I was definitely one of those women you describe that felt like they weren't worth it because I was too overweight. I feel really sad that I thought like that. Society really does a mind fuck on women who don't look like the ideal.

LittleBear, it's a shocker seeing how many calories are in certain foods. I still feel a bit morose that my favourite bananas are quite so calorific. I've swapped to frozen berries in my oats for breakfast now which are good.

Good on you, B1, for drawing a line under a very difficult week. I found having accountability and support on here after falling off the wagon so helpful. Getting back on it after a small gain is excellent practice for maintenance too so you are learning long term skills.

It is only a blip ladies. Honey be kind to yourself and b1 great attitude.
Re fashion I have clothes from size 10 to 22 in my wardrobe.
I tend to keep everything. This time I am getting rid as things get too big. Will review wardrobe when I hit 14 stone and will do it each time I lose a stone. Looking forward to there being less of me and less clothes in the house.
Although I will go shopping when I got goal. January sales 2020 probably.

I found you! I stupidly accidentally hid the thread and couldn’t for the life of me work out where you were!

I was doing ok until 11 days ago when I was called a “Fat Cunt” and laughed at in McDonald (I was actually just buying a bottle of water...) and it sent me into some sort of hideous binge eating spiral which I’ve spent this weekend coming out of...I’m planning on starting afresh tomorrow...currently cooking lunch and dinner for tomorrow and will get in the scales tonight

Hope everyone is well!

*Lego! I don't care if you were buying 72 cheeseburgers, that comment would never be OK Can we round up a thread posse and have the idiot killed for you? Sending solidarity wishes for your scales this eve.

Today so far has been OK. Discovered that ASK restaurants do an option of a half portion of various pasta dishes with a plain mixed salad on the side. Had that today as we were out with DCs godparents all day, and it was nice - did not feel deprived, but felt like a sensible choice. Have also walked a fair bit round various museums.

I've downloaded the couch to five k ap, and bought some new leggings as the old ones keep falling down. I won't really be able to start until the school hols end because no childcare, but good intentions anyway! About to go and make a few gallons of soup...

Blimey, this thread has gone wild since I last posted. I won't be able to reply to everyone but just had a few comments.

Firstly honey you are amazing! You have made an entire other human being and are still able to think about what to do better...I'm in awe as I've just got myself to think about which is hard enough.

Lego I had something similar, was walking back home and a group of four lads were straddling the whole pavement so I just walked straight at them at the side of the pavement.....they moved but shouted that I was a fat stupid bitch as I had dared touch one shoulder when.they didn't move. I thought of a response way afterwards along the lines of 'i can do something about being fat but you will always be a twat' paraphrasing somebody or another
Ignore the idiots!

Thinking about what Post said, I looked at my fitness pal and I'm exactly the same weight as I was two years ago. Its a bit depressing but keep thinking that I could be even heavier now if I didn't keep trying. Even if I do stay the same then I am not getting bigger.

I’m really behind, sorry. A few comments from me too.

Honeysuckle I think a chat with your GP is very sensible, there is so much for you to deal with at the moment. As the others have said , DS and your health is the main priority at the moment. It is a futile fight against hormones and I think it is definitely best to try and look at the overall trend. It absolutely sucks when you’ve tried so hard mad the scales don’t move or go up but I think this is totally normal, especially for women. I intend to have a 3 or 4lb maintenance range as I know I fluctuate by around this over the course of the month. And I totally get that feeling of when the scales go back up having seen the lower number. Don’t laugh but I take a photo when I see it for the first time a I know I may not see it again for a few weeks.

Moonlight hang in there , plug away and slowly it will go down. If it all gets too much anytime just aim to stay the same.

Lego , what an absolute wanker It’s that old chestnut of you can get smaller, they’ll always be a complete arsehole.

B1rd excellent intentions and leggings that stay up will indeed help ! C25K has been an absolute game changer for me. Did Parkrun on Saturday with one of my school friends who also lives down here. She’s always been really fit and never in a million years did I think I’d be running with her. Best of all I find it keeps my appetite in check. Word of caution, it can stall some people’s loss or cause a gain to start with but it sorts itself out after a bit. Well done for drawing a line under it. A friend of mine took up yoga to help her cope with her DC leaving Home, she’s like a new woman !

AnotherOtter good loss. I agree with not cutting your calories. I think most of us can relate to a preoccupation with food. I’ve got a lot better with that now I have decided nothing is banned, it seems to have take away some of the power food seemed to have had previously. That leads into what Chesty has said.

NoTractors how naughty of the cat, sort of thing mine will do !

I’ve missed loads of you, I’m sorry. I’m another one who is drawing a line over the past week. AF arrived at same time as wet weather and I just couldn’t be arsed to get wet so didn’t really exercise so ended the week about 6500 cals over what I should have been. Not worried as have drawn a line. Don’t like not exercising regularly (did I really just say that?!) and my appetite increases strangely.

I would happily accept the mumsnet massive (or not so massive!) to hunt the cunts down.

I’ve also come out of McDonald’s, been followed down the road being verbally abused due to my size and had a milkshake thrown on me...it’s amazing how long it takes to get strawberry milkshake out of a furry hood on a coat 🤔

I suppose logically the reaction to that is to lose the weight and show those knobheads...my reaction is to eat myself into oblivion!

That makes it sound like I spend all my time in McDonald’s...I don’t...maybe 40% of my time

So sorry lego. What a vile person?

Lego oh my god, there are some horrible people where you live!

You are all wonderful. I've been musing on B1rd's "when we're tired, little feelings turn into big feelings". It's so so true.

Got some veg and lentil soup on the stove for this week's lunches. It's 384 cals for whole pan, can probably get 4 portions from it to have with some bread or pitta each day.

Need to do another meal plan. Tempted to be lazy and just repeat one from a few weeks ago. Minimal effort!