I am so fat there are a number of things I can't do

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Walk without getting breathless. Even small distances.

Wipe my bottom.

Wash myself properly. I do, but it's very difficult indeed.

Wear nice clothes that fit.

Sit next to someone in the car without touching the driver embarrassingly

Plane seats ditto

I am not writing this for people to lay into me and tell me I'm a horrible example to my children, or that I'm a waste on the NHS. I wasn't fat when I had my children, in fact I was marginally underweight with no1 (very marginally mind!) Please do not be critical of me because I have already done so.

I had planned to start today and binged. This made me realise I cannot do this alone.

I am starting my journey tomorrow, Monday 2nd January. If I don't I will be dead before I am 60. I am not saying this to sound dramatic it's just how it is.

Please support me, please tell me I can do this, please promise me there is a life out there for me if I am brave enough to stick to this.

OP obviously it might not be your thing, but the reason I mentioned the gym is because quite a few members at my gym started out morbidly obese, sent there by their GP, and I have seen them make huge progress over time.
One lady I befriended couldn't get up the stairs at first and had to use the lift. Her PT had her do mobility work at first for her shoulders, knees etc. and gradually worked up to slightly more challenging exercises.
A few months on she has visibly lost quite a lot of weight, has no problem using the stairs, very little joint pain, and is just overall much happier.

www.oagb.org.uk

You might want to try here.

All the best.

I joined slimming world in sept and have only lost 12lbs since then to now. I have a lot to shift. Tomorrow I'm starting a hiking challenge #1000milesin2017 and plan a 3mile walk with my DH and DS. I'm hoping that on my journey to 1000 miles I can shed some stones along the way

Thanks.

Barbara truthfully with the gym I am setting myself up to fail.

Three months down the line I will hopefully be in a position to start some regular exercise but now it would just not be beneficial.

I would feel horrendously embarrassed it would actually make me hungrier then cracking and bingeing is more likely.

I'm angry with myself for not sticking to this today. Really angry.

Hope it goes well for you. Lots of people here wishing you good luck.

Ok, you binged today. It's not great, but it's done now.

Focus on the next step. I know it's easier said than done but being angry at yourself won't help you move forward.

Think about what you can do next rather than what's already done.

Good luck!

So you binged today. Forget about it, don't beat yourself up over it and start again. Xxxxx

Fuck off Neigh, pointless post of the day ffs.

Op you can do this. You are not a failure to your children. You have made the first steps towards changing, be proud of yourself.

Big cheer from the sidelines for you

And don't be angry at yourself! It's a lesson learnt. Tomorrow is a fresh start to try again.

Walking is a good one op! Very underrated as a form of exercise

There are good walking apps to keep you motivated/track times and distances etc

Regards to diet, we are all different. I find cutting carbs is fastest way for me. Drops off. But can't stick to it rigorously for too long, after all, I've a life to live! Good luck!

What did you binge on today?

I had great intentions but then had a small binge (shortbread)

Reason being it was a horrible day so our planned walk was abandoned for films/tv on the sofa..... a curveball

Cake, crisps, cereal, biscuits. Bad one :)

Try to stop punishing yourself, OP. Eating well (healthy, nutritious, delicious meals) is an act of self-love. Taking good care of yourself is the right thing to do.

OP I know you have said slimming world is not for you but it works for an awful lot of people.

The plan is perfect but it is achievable. And the best thing about it is you can eat an awful lot of food and still lose weight, especially if you are starting from a position of having lots to lose.

The thought of a group and 'strangers' knowing what you weigh can be a little daunting and the meetings can be slightly bonkers. But the support is there from lots of people who have been where you are. I don't stay to the meetings but have done i the past. I find being weighed every week keeps me focused.

But however you decide to lose weight I hope you achieve it. I have lost nearly 2.5st since May. Have just had a 2 week break from sw for Christmas and am shocked how quickly I have gone back to sweet stuff, white bread, crisps and junk.

And before sw I would have said I eat fairly healthily. I am actually looking forwards to getting back to it tomorrow.

I know it works for a lot of people but I just don't think it's for me. I can't even cook.bobo thanks, that's s good way to look at it.

Of course you can do this! And yes, stop being harsh on yourself - love yourself enough to make good food choices, NOT restricting/punishing yourself.

And of course you can/should see your GP - for a health check first of all, and to find out what resources there might be available to help with weight loss in your area.

If you have a plan you think will work for you - good

If you have tried various different ways to lose weight in the past and have not been able to stick to it or lost and regained weight, consider trying Low Carb, Healthy Fat. DietDoctor is a good start.
This has worked for me (in my 50s), it's delicious, v filling, binging is no longer an issue for me.

Yy to the OvereatersAnonymous link upthread - it is well worth your while having a look at why you eat the way you do.

V best of luck.

I think you should buy yourself a lovely cookbook! What sort of things might tempt you to cook? At this time of year delicious soups of winter vegetables are a good thing to cook...

I know why :) but knowing is only half the battle really, I don't want to go somewhere religious and like I say I won't waste the gps time. Just need to do this in my own way. But I must start tomorrow.

Hi OP.

I don't know what your current weight or BMI are but 12 months ago I weighed around 21st and had a BMI of 41.

I would never ever preach to anyone & I honestly believe that the right method for one person can be the wrong one for someone else but I am sitting here now more than 7st lighter and with a BMI of 26. I have just 17lbs to go to my personal target weight.

For me (age 41, overweight since 11) what worked was a combination of the most amazing SW consultant and talking myself out of the "I can't" attitude. I have a back injury from a car crash in 2015. This time last year there was much I couldn't do - I don't mind admitting now that when my back was at it's worst, I was actually incontinent. The painkillers I was on to numb the back pain would also numb other sensations IYSWIM. Not that I would ever have admitted that to anyone back then.

I can't even begin to tell you what a difference losing 7st has made to me. It sounds so cliche but I actually feel as though I have my life back. I also started running using the NHS C25K app! On my first run I thought I would die there & then. The "runs" were only 60 seconds long but I still couldn't complete them all. By July, I could run 5k.

In March this year I am running in a 10k event.

I can't promise you that SW & eventually C25K will change your life too, but I can tell you that they changed mine. I also think that people telling me what I could & couldn't do following my back injury made me think "oh yes I fucking well can!" .

Prove people wrong OP, it's the best satisfaction you can get.

Seriously though, if I can support you in any way just shout.

I totally agree with a lot of what you have said, about having your life back.

You're right I should be thinking about what I can do what I can't. I know though that with some stuff I'm setting myself I
To fail I am best doing what I know works, but the important thing, is to DO it

How much weight have you gained since you had children?

How much and over what period of time?

What is behind your emotional over-eating? Do you have any idea?

I should probably just add that whilst losing weight hasn't cured my back injury altogether, I now find that over the counter pain relief is adequate 99% of the time and I have regained full control over my bladder & bowel and have full mobility.

Just taking one day at a time is the best way to start, don't try to look too far forward, just eat well tomorrow and try and walk a little. Then Tuesday is a new day. Well done for addressing your needs that is a massive step.

All in all I've probably gained about 20 stone but as per Bridget lost a lot too! Gained maybe 2 and a half stone with child 1 and I was in a cycle of gaining and losing the same 2 stone, then over the last year really things have got really bad, really out of control. All sorts of reasons really, but the main thing at the root of all of it was I had food taken away from me as a child because I was told I was greedy and ugly and fat. So if I was hungry I learned to eat in secret.

Santa must ha e been awful for you. I've had bouts of sciatica and it's so PAINFUL and that's fairly common!