(Not so) New Mums: Hand holding while we work on new bodies.

[Greenrabbit]

I filled the last thread, so here is the new one!

[SolitudeSometimesIs]

Did the shred tonight and thought I was going to throw up, it was so intense. I had a full day in work and then did the workout and really felt like I may die.

rachey I am sure you don't need to lose that much weight. Please don't be too hard on yourself, I'm sure toning up will make a huge difference. My stomach is a disaster zone so I can sympathise, I still look pregnant.

[blinkyoullmissit]

Having another crappy day
Being feeling a bit down so binged again. I'm so annoyed with myself.

[talkingtoclarry]

Can I join you ladies?
My DS recently turned 1 and I am mortified that not only have I not lost the baby blubber but I've probably gained weight post partum. During my pregnancy I ate as much as I liked as I naively thought that BFing would make the lbs melt away. Pah!

I am 5'8" and weigh in at 16st 5.5lbs. I was kidding myself that I could still squeeze into size 16s. Hmm, more like a 20. I NEED to lose this weight. I would like to get down to 14st7 by mid July, that is my first target, though eventually my ideal would be 11st 10lbs. However I haven't weighed that for about 8yrs so might be overly optimistic! Am in recovery with a slipped disc so no crazy exercise at the moment but determined to get the food sorted and begin meal planning again. McDonalds last night, chippy tonight. Purely down to shit planning, we have loads of food in the house so it's shameful that we wasted money on crappy food.

[SolitudeSometimesIs]

Hi clarry, I'm another who believes I am a size 16 when I was far more comfortable being a size 18 . Are you getting treatment for your slipped disc? Dieting will probably yield good results even if you can't exercise, meal planning is a must - I have an indecisive nature when I'm hungry and can't be arsed throwing a meal together, I always turn to junk food / takeaways. Love the name btw, brings me back to my teenage years and Bluetones.

What happened Blink, are you ok? I think you should draw a line under it and start afresh. Would you feel comfortable posting a bit more on here when you feel you might go off the rails? I often post random bits and pieces when I'm trying to keep myself occupied. Have you any trigger? Boredom, stress, tiredness?

I'm having a night off from the shred and from Exante. Had a roll and some popcorn and lots of wine. But once a week is hardly the crime of the century. I'll be back on the boring food and exercise plan tomorrow.

How are the birthday girls getting on this week?

[Miffyandme]

Hello, I'd like to join please. I have two children aged under 3, stomach has an extra fold that I didn't have pre-section and I have gained weight as I comfort eat.

I am still breastfeeding - is it true that your body holds onto fat whilst breastfeeding or am I kidding myself?!

I would like to challenge myself to walk more, particularly as weather improves and substitute one unhealthy snack per day for fruit. I ensure my kids eat well, wish I did the same for me!

[SolitudeSometimesIs]

Hi Miffy, I was the same while breastfeeding. I waited patiently for the fat to melt away...and 2 years on I'm still waiting . My SIL is breastfeeding and looks phenomenal and it just goes to show that people are totally different, bodies are weird (I say that as someone who studied anatomy and physiology for years and is none the bloody wiser).

Walking is great, get to a pace where you couldn't comfortably carry a conversation and you are really working out. You have 2 kids under 3, don't be too hard on yourself. I like your snack swap idea, all healthy changes are good changes.

[Miffyandme]

Solitude, thanks. Yes, I need to make my changes in very small steps, as life is so very busy and demanding that anything else is just setting myself up to fail!
I do have to buy new clothes for return to work before too long and I'm aiming for good quality clothes that will last, so I do want to feel I'm at a weight I feel a bit more happy in.
I think getting myself a decent, comfortable, non-breast-feeding bra, and some sort of tummy control underwear may help, but I doubt that is comfortable for a day at work!

[talkingtoclarry]

solitude yes, am popping Tramadol and Naproxen like there is no tomorrow and have physio booked in for next week. Am slowly recovering!
And I'm a total 90s throwback. Going to see Bluetones AND Shed Seven (plus OCS but meh) in Leeds in July. Will be fab. That's why I want to have shifted 2 stone by mid July, don't want to be at an outdoor all dayer feeling as fat as I am now!

miffy my first day back to work should have been last Thursday but with my injury it could be another 2 weeks before I'm ready to go back. And I need to get new clothes too. I have lived in BFing tops for the last year so am quite looking forward to getting some new stuff. Though my work is pretty casual so thankfully I don't have to be all suited and booted.

One good thing about being bed bound for as long as I was is my stomach has definitely shrunk. Had sausage and mash last night but could only eat half of it, whereas before I would have polished off the lot.

Are any of you FitBit users? I need to dust mine off and get it charged but we could create a challenge to get us a active?

[Racheyg]

Welcome clarry and miffy.

Hope everyone is enjoying the weather. I went out yesterday child free had a really good day/evening drank an awful lot o cocktails, and ate a burger .

I weighed myself on Friday and I was 10st 5lbs. But after yesterday I think I may have but on about half a stone. But hey ho it was worth it.

blink don't be so hard on yourself. Draw a line under it and start again tomorrow.

green and beyond how are the birthdays going?

sol did you enjoy ur night off? You deserve it you have been doing so well.

I hear you about the breastfeeding.i thought I would help me lose weight but it hasn't. miffy if you do find some good underwear and bras let me know where u get them from.

I'm slowly weaning ds2 off the breast and I've started to wear proper bras again. I feel human, but more poor boobs have taken a battering. They look so pathetic.

[Greenrabbit]

Welcome Miffy and Clarry

My Birthday is almost over. After trying to find something to wear to go out in today I made the promise to myself that I will never be this fat again.
Then I had chocolate truffles and croissants for breakfast. Then we went for a few drinks in the sunshine and a nice meal. Now I'm drinking wine and wondering what else I can stuff in my face before starting tomorrow. I maybe 36 but I'll never be sensible

I hope you enjoyed your child free day Rachey. It's been a lovely day here too, we went to Durham which is beautiful in the sunshine (normally it's bloody freezing)
I agree with Sol, I'm sure you look great. How tall are you?

Well done on the exercise Sol. Hope you enjoyed your wine. I will try to join you with the Exante tomorrow (if I can face it).

I never lost any weight BF Clarry. I hope your back gets better soon. Some friends were trying to persuade DH and I to see that line up in Newcastle in the summer. So many memories.

I'm going to dig out the Fitbit tomorrow, I still haven't decided on what new fitness tracker I'd like. I've never done a challenge before (maybe I could start by getting off my bum!)

Hope you've had a great few days Beyond

[blinkyoullmissit]

Thanks ladies! Got some tough things happening which are stressing me out, but it seems to be the really little things that get me so worked up.

I finally was making progress with my body and weight, but then every time I feel crap I comfort eat and now I've put on 4lbs. I'm not overweight by any means. But my body is flabby and my stomach is all saggy.

It's just annoying when you feel like you're getting somewhere and then see you've actually gone backwards. (Sorry to rant).

Hope everyone's had a good day though! Been super duper hot! Maybe I've sweated off a ton of calories?

[Racheyg]

green I am so glad you had a great birthday. Your breakfast sounds delish

Yes, as much as I love dc's going out for a few cocktails and make up shopping was great fun and have decided I should do things (child free) more often. (If I can get a babysitter )

I've never been as far up as Durham, I'm very poorly travelled there is so much of the UK I haven't been to. Sounds beautiful.

I'm 5ft 4, I think I need to follow advice and get some (extremely) good control underwear.

My Fitbit has stopped charging so there must be a problem with the tracker.

sol how did your shred and exante day go yesterday?

beyond how did the birthday celebrations go?

[SolitudeSometimesIs]

Miffy, I wear tummy control stuff at work all the time. It's quite comfortable (I have a physical job)but it mightn't be ideal in the Summer heat. I get very warm when I am wearing it.

I have a FitBit Clarry but I'm not sure where the hell it is. I remember taking if off my jeans one day but that was about a year ago and I haven't seen it since. That gig sounds good, sneak some vodka in in a diet coke bottle and that's pretty much my youth.

I think you should allow yourself a lovely breakfast on your birthday Green, are you starting Exante today? I'm glad you had a nice day out, the weather is gorgeous isn't it? I'm off to buy some light tops to wear for work otherwise I may slow cook in my winter clothes.

Ooh blink I hear you, I get so disheartened when I try so hard and see no changes? I've heard Tracy Anderson has an amazing abs routine but I haven't braved it yet, I think my problem might be loose skin though.

Super jealous of your cocktails and child free shopping Rachey, any make up tips? I love make up shopping. I bought a Rimmel mascara in a bright green tube and it is absolutely rubbish, for some reason it goes all over your eyelid and is impossible to get off. Avoid at all costs.

I had Exante for breakfast all weekend, soup for lunch and either tofu and veg for dinner or some nachos and guac. I didn't put on any weight so I'm happy enough. Back on Exante today, not really in the humour for it but I will do it anyway. I have been doing The Shred for 2 weeks now and I can really see a difference, I have lost a few rolls from my back and my backside is looking far more pert. My bra size has gone down a bit on my back. It is really tough and a pain to fit in to my day but it is worth it.

Hope everyone is having a good day.

[Miffyandme]

Thanks for the welcomes
I have a bit of childcare today so it is time for a swim for me, but making myself do some chores first.
Fridge got some fruit ready for a snack for me. Aiming for no biscuits today.

Solitude is M and S good for those tummy control things? I need to start getting some stuff for return to work, but feel that if I started with that I wouldn't feel so discouraged when trying stuff on.

Has anyone tried the Mutu system for post-pregnancy tummies? You have to buy it so I figure I'll just start with any exercise at all!

[SolitudeSometimesIs]

I bought a tummy controlled thing for under dresses, it's fab. It takes a bit of wriggling to get in to but it looks really good. I have a few vests ones that I love, I buy them in nude as I find the white ones never stay white very long. I also have some very high waisted control pants that look hideous but really pull in my stomach, If I need to look slim I put on the pants with a vest on top and even though it makes bending over very difficult, I look good.

[Miffyandme]

Thanks - I shall investigate what I have already, used to wear some for when I needed to feel particularly slim, now I think it may be a daily necessity for work.
I used to wonder in my naive slim days why some older women just seemed to have another layer to their tummy....now I am one of them haha!! My toddler cried the other day when I left her in crèche to exercise.....I tried to explain my need for it by pointing out that I am starting to look like daddy pig and that is making me want to cry!

[BeyondTheSea]

Waddles in dusting off cake crumbs and recycling empty bottles of prosecco.

I had Fri, Sat & Sun off diet and it was fab, I totally over indulged in cake etc and so I'll be avoiding the scales until next week.
Im doing a fast day today....
Green glad you had a lovely birthday, did you get nice gifts? have you managed to exante today?
Sol you are doing so well with the Shred, I am feeling quite inspired, may have to try. Your weekend menu sounded very disciplined.
Not long till your holiday Rachey Your child free day/evening sounded fab and much deserved. I think fitbit have a good customer service reputation so may be worth emailing them.
Welome Miffy did you manage your swim? Unfortunately I also didn't turn into a rake when breastfeeding, I was most disappointed!
Welcome Clarry Exciting concert plans, more of a 80's fan here but I also did a mix of clubbing/indy in the 90's. Happy days and fond memories. Have you diet plan in mind? Sounds like you also need to be kind to yourself with your slipped disc though as well.
How are you getting on Blink Hope you had a better day. Sorry things so stressful for you.

[Miffyandme]

Well I didn't swim yesterday but I feel "lighter" for having done lots of chores, and I had healthily during the day. So a small start....

[Racheyg]

Very quick post of shame.......
I can't stop eating

beyond sounds like you had a great birthday.

Will post later

[SolitudeSometimesIs]

Glad you had a fab birthday Beyond. How has the fasting gone this week? Are you feeling older and wiser?

I can't stop eating either Rachey, it's so feckin depressing. I look huge at the moment.

[Greenrabbit]

I had 2 days on Exante but decided I couldn't stand it and gave up today.
I'm just going to have to control myself with real food. I've done 10,000 steps for the last 3 days though.

Glad you had a good Birthday Beyond. I got some books, storage things, a label maker from DH and DC. I have to decide on a fitness tracker still.
Lovely framed print, some GV and cash from other relations, very spoilt indeed.

Been feeling very low this past week. That sort of made me give up with Exante.
I'm going to try to have a low calorie day tomorrow and count calories.

Hope you are okay Rachey. Your weight is great for your height. I'm also 5ft 4. I'd love to be your weight. But I also remember (a long time ago now) when I did weigh in the 10 stones range I used to long to get under 9 stone. Why don't you concentrate on eating well before your holiday and just start again when you get back again? It might make the run up more enjoyable instead of feeling guilty about eating

Are you okay Sol? Did you get any new tops? The weather is still nice here. Kind of annoying when nothing fits properly Have you shredded any more?

I have Mutu Miffy . Shamefully I've never got past the first week. I see people posting good results on the Facebook group (it's closed for members only). I keep saying I'll start again next week. Maybe I should actually start then. My core is very weak, I'd like my back to stop hurting.

[SolitudeSometimesIs]

I have a label maker too Green and DH bought it for me too. A sign of true love (clearly printed on a laminated strip). Sorry to hear you're feeling down, I feel the same Shall we crowd fund for lipo? We could do proper Daily Mail sad faces with a big bag of chips in front of us.

I didn't buy any new tops as the rain came down and my desire for summer clothes faded. However it was roasting here today and now I wish I'd bought some as I was boiled in work today. I may swing down tomorrow morning and see what I can pick up.

I also can't stick to Exante, it tastes crap compared to real food!

Shall we try again tomorrow?

[BeyondTheSea]

Sending big virtual hug to Green and Sol

I also can't stop eating. I did manage a 600 cal day on Monday, but couldn't stop eating Tues/Wed (Mainly chocolate) and then got TOM. I'm aiming for 1500 cals today and a run this evening. I did do a weigh in and I'm the same post holiday weight.

I'm so fed up my clothes are tight again and I've limited choice as can't get in some things. Also saw very unflattering sitting down photo.

Start afresh?

I agree exact tastes pants. Im in for group lips, growth CBT, anything really.
It's very humid here too Sol wish I was thin enough to swoosh around in a strappy top.

Not long till your holiday Rachey ? Your presents sound great Green There's a new fitbit out: Alta, it looks very smart. What books did you get? I just read the paper magician and really enjoyed it. Just started the new Comoran Strike (JK Rowlings detective books, but she writes under another name which I can't remember at the mo!), really liked the previous 2.

I am thinking of investing in some new scales that calculate body fat etc in case it spurs me on stops me eating so much chocolate but maybe it's better not to know!

[BeyondTheSea]

Sorry for typos

Group lipo not lips and group CBT not growth!
Exante not exact,

Nothing too hilarious, although the mind boggles at group lips

[Miffyandme]

Beyond I too saw an unflattering sitting down photo of myself. It is pretty much like I'm pregnant again. Except I'm not!

I did do a few lengths at the pool yesterday whilst grandparents babysat and I took the baby swimming today, although that wasn't really much exercise for me.

But I then ate the best part of two cakes (I told myself I shared with the baby, but realistically she didn't take much).