(Not so) New Mums: Hand holding while we work on new bodies.

[Greenrabbit]

I filled the last thread, so here is the new one!

You are very restrained in your non-punching ways, I hope the idiot who said it was suitably mortified.

Have you any idea what you would like to do in March? We could all do the 30 day shred or something? So we could urge each other along. It's tough but it really, really works. And I saw the other day that there is a Shred for Beginners or something that might ease you into it more.

I go for as long as I can without eating every day, once I start with food I can't stop. I'm going to use your idea of a food curfew at 8pm, I had never thought of that.

I have this crappy cold/virus thing that is going around, I feel wiped. But, as a silver lining, my appetite has gone so I am hoping it will lead to a change on the scales for me. The kids are a bit sniffly so I'm worried they will catch it too and we'll all be in bits.

I'm good aren't I? (although I was too busy being mortified to notice if they were mortified or not)
I think some sort of exercise challenge would be good. I'm going to try some gentle workouts tomorrow, then hopefully build up.

The eating thing isn't my idea. I saw it on here. It's just another type of fasting (16:8). Doing a rough 12-8 seemed to work okay for me.

I hope you feel better soon, everything seems to be lingering this year.

I was very impulsive and signed up for Slimming World online for 3 months. I'm not quite sure what I was thinking really. But I can't seem to get my head round the new WW plan. So I thought I'd try something different. It ends on my Birthday week, so is a good challenge. Plus I have to look decent for a wedding in September (no way of avoiding the photographer during this one!)

Morning all,

green how bloody rude of that woman. Well done for restraining yourself.

I think sw is quite a flexible diet, my mum does it and has lost a great amount of weight.

The no eating after 8 is a great rule, won't work in my house thou as dinner for me and oh is 8.30 (due to work and kids)

sol 6lbs is an amazing loss. Well done. I hope your feeling better? Oh didn't go to black sabbath in the end as the ticket fell through. I didn't go spinning either just chilled out at home. Yes ur correct it is ozzy osbourn.

I think the shred is amazing I have the DVD which I did when I had ds1 before I joined the gym. I'm so tempted to get a personal trainer, but it's such a great deal of money.

I weighed myself on Friday and I'm still 10st 6lbs. But a gym at the gym weighed himself and thinks the scales are out (he is super fit and healthy) and are heavier.

Have been off diet since Friday, and took real advantage of it. But I paid the price yesterday as I had the hang over from hell and had a papa johns for dinner. oh well back on it today.

It's our anniversary today but seems silly celebrating it now as we plan to marry (we weren't originally planning on a wedding so always celebrated our "official start dating" date) We were going out to a very nice restaurant called the hawkesmoor but I don't fancy it, plus we spent an awful amount of money on Saturday night. So we will go to our fave restaurant in Brighton when we go end of Feb.

Sounds like you had a good weekend Rachey.
Happy anniversary, it's not silly to celebrate it. Have you got any further with the wedding planning.

Could you go to Boots and weigh yourself?

I had been waiting to eat with DH on an evening, but he is always in late. So I was always picking at the children's food or sometimes he'd want something different and we'd end up with something unhealthy.

Morning all,

You may think I'm crazy but I have booked a consultation for a tummy tuck. Not even sure I can afford it but I really want to hear their thoughts on my tummy. Whether I can still physically lose more weight there or not.

Oh says he will support my decision but I have to fund it. We are trying to save for a wedding and we still have work to do on the house I feel guilty for even considering spending all this money on myself.

No, I don't think that you're crazy. You've been thinking about for awhile havent you? It is probably best to find out what your options are.

I admit that the risks and cost would put me off. But as I still have so much to lose I can't even imagine what my stomach would even look like if I was under 11stone. (Pretty bad after 2 C sections I guess!)
So I can understand why you'd want to look into it further.

On a similar note I've noticed that quite a few people I know are getting gastric bands. One person has lost 9stone! So I had a look at the prices at the local hospital .

green yes the thought has crossed my mind a few times. I am very scared about the GA and the fact that it's surgery.

I have had 2 sections also and have the classic over hang also I still have a flabby tummy.

I'm not even sure will get it done, I wish I could see a picture of myself how I will look without my tummy

I've never had a GA Rachey, so that would be scary for me. (In fact the only surgery I've ever had have been the C sections)
But I strongly think you have to do what's best for you.

I'm guessing the surgeon will have lots of before and after pictures.

I've really struggled today. Meals were fine, but I've picked on random stuff this evening. I think I just need to embrace being fat.

Tonight I'm trying to plan properly so I don't do this again.

(Or get my act together, I've been a mess lately)

Morning green it is so hard isnt it. What are you picking on? My house suffered greatly when I was losing weight as I didn't buy crisps, crackers, nice bread ect so if it wasn't there I couldn't eat it.

When are you starting slimming world?

sol and pom how are you both getting on?

I haven't done any wedding planning stuff. I'm overwhelmed but how much everything so I'm just sticking my head in the sand at least I've got 18 months.

My spin class was full last night so just did my own thing. Not half as effective as my class, but I will make it up on my doubles on Thursday and Friday.

I stayed the same this week. I have to stop weighing more than once a week.

Guilt post.....
I have eaten so much crap today.

Will start afresh tomorrow

Oh dear. I'm stuffing my face with carbs. Will report back once I have finished eating

Morning all,

Sorry for the short rant posts. I'm not feeling the dieting vibe at the moment.

I hope you all are having a better week of it.

Morning!

Rant away Rachey, how are you feeling today?

Green I joined slimming world this week! I'm attending a class as they had a deal for a month, so I'll give it a go. I'm struggling to understand syns and healthy extras but I'm happy with the amount of food I can have. I was starving on ww. First weigh in is on Thursday.

The leader of the class made me give 2 goals. The first one is 13 stone, the second one is 10 stone. The 10 stone one seems miles away so I'm focusing on 13 (which is still really bloody heavy ). I've torn a muscle in my neck so I'm just being active with walking and leaving any full on exercise for now, although I want to do the shred.

Next week will be a bit of a testing week, I have 3 kids birthday parties and one meal out for a family birthday and then a night out with the girls on Saturday. I'm going to really struggle.

So just heading on to day 3 of Slimming World, I had beans and mushrooms for breakfast and a snack of melon and 23 hazelnuts. I mean, I feel full and stuff, but it's not terribly exciting. However, this is the first weekend in about a year that I didn't have some sort of crisps, dry roasted peanuts, chips and dip scoff-fest and I swapped wine for vodka as it's less points (I refuse to use the word syn).

I weighed myself this morning, I'm 4 lbs down but I know that could all change. I also had a look at some of the slimming world facebook pages and I was genuinely surprised at how much convenience food people eat, there was a woman who seemed to be living on mugshots, some yogurt thing and chicken rolled in smash. She'd lost tons of weight but her poor body must be desperate for some fruit and veg. I know I sound really judgey, but I'm judging whoever is her class leader rather than the lady herself.

Has anyone tried modelmydiet.com? It shows your body at certain weights so I can see what I look like now and what I will look like at my goal weight. I found it really interesting and I might use it to keep myself on track if I start to wobble.

I was looking at pictures of me taken about ten years ago, I look so different now. It's not just that I've aged, I look shabby now - like a house that's become a bit run down. It made me feel really bad but at least I'm trying something now and my goal for this month is to lose 10lbs, not a stone as I feel I'll be gutted if I don't get it.

I hope everyone is having a good weekend!

sol slimming world sounds really positive. My sil has lost 10lbs since Jan and a girl at my gym has lost 6lbs. Be kind to yourself, 10 years ago was before dcs and I'm sure you and dh did what you want when you wanted. So life was very different.

God 10 years ago......I was 24 seems like a very long time ago.

I find sw hard to get my head around. I have come to realise that I can't eat carbs and lose weight so maybe not every diet is suitable for everyone?

I'm loving the sound of smaller goals. Maybe we put too much pressure on ourselves?

Weekend has been a good fest. I took dcs to soft play Friday and Saturday and swimming today. I'm exhausted and have been hungry constantly.

I'm eating healthily till I go to Brighton which is in 10 days time. I will then eat/drink and when I get back on Sunday I will get back on it.

I had a good chat with my sil about tummy tuck she thinks I should go for it. The more people I speak to the more positive things I'm hearing. I just wish I could go back in time and look after myself better.

Back on the diet again today
Breakfast
Greek yogurt 100g
Mixed fruit 100g
Milled linseed mix 10g
= 150cals

Lunch
Heinz chicken soup 1 tin
= 204 cals

Dinner
Turkey koftas ( homemade)
Salad
Tzitaki
Halloumi
= approx 400cals

You're right about the carbs and weightloss Rachey, I can't over indulge like some people seem to be able to do but I have lots of weight to lose so a few won't impact on it just yet. Your menu looks lovely, is it difficult not to snack in between meals? I'm such a grazer.

I had melon for breakfast
Snack is quorn sausages
Lunch is vegetable soup with a small bit of rice to pad it out.
Dinner is quorn chilli with a wrap.

Hoping to have an indian takeaway tomorrow so being careful today.

Ok I failed at the no snacking

I think my total cals was 1000.

Got spinning tonight so I'm hoping the picking and Dana king won't make much of s difference?

sol yummy what do you normally get? I live a Indian takeaway

Morning all,
I hope you are all having a good half term.

I had my tt consult. To get the total result I want I need lipo as well it's going to cost a little over £8000

Oh says if I can fund it why not. I think I can get a loan but it's such a lot of money. And I'm freaking out as it looks horrific but the results are amazing. The surgeon thought I was going to ask for a boob job, I then told him clothes hid a multitude of sins

Hi everyone, sorry for not posting. I've been feeling very down recently, I think I need to get my hormones checked. Half term isn't till next week for us, I'm just concentrating on having a nice time (and not being a crazy woman). I'll get my head round dieting again for March.

The consultation sounds interesting Rachey. Have you looked into loans? It sounds a lot but is less than a car. Would you need anything done in the future? I vaguely remember someone I worked with having lipo after losing lots of weight (it might have been on her stomach) she had to be careful not to gain incase it went on elsewhere (her legs rings a bell).
I suppose £8k isn't that bad if it's done and dusted? Hard decision to make though.
Are you going to Brighton this weekend? Have fun.

How is SW going Sol? I agree, there are some crazy posts on FB. You are brave going to meetings, I've found them horrendous in the past!
I've looked at that model website before, it was a mix of inspiring yet depressing for me. A bit like looking at old pictures! I look like an old lady now I'm sure. I've totally let myself go. I've barely got ready properly since Christmas. I used to be very groomed. Now I hide at the back of the playground and hope no one will notice me (which they don't).

Hope you are having a good half term too Pom.

Morning all.

I ma back from birthday and half term and lots of cake and alcohol.Braved the scales and it's 7lbs of damage, starting sugar free again and hoping to lose that in the next 2 weeks. Then hope to lose another 7lbs in March. & lbs in April and 7 lbs but the end of the year. Feeling motivated. I've been thinking about my relationship with food and it needs to change, I especially don't want DD to pick up on my bad habits. I am realising more and more that it's got to be a lifestyle change.

Green I'm outraged re that woman, people are so flippin rude. My mum always used to comment re my weight and my step sister too, I was/am always a bit on edge when seeing them. Complex family dynamics....
Sorry you are feeling down, could you be peri menopausal? Hormones are so awful, it's horrible feeling irrational.I think I might still look into CBT or at least read a book on mindfullness or something. Shallw e read one at the same time? (no worries if you don't want to, might spur us on though!). But I do think weight issues really can overtake our lives. Being a bit chubby doesn't mean we are worthless or less valuable, be kind to yourself.
Picking: I am going to out the leftovers straight in the food bin.

How are you finding slimming world Sol ? I agree about the processed food, I can't imagine eating all those muller lights is very good for you? (a girl in the office was doing and she used to stuff them down, mind you she lost a lb a week). How did you get on with your busy week? Super well done on your 4lbs - excellent work. Know what you mean re looking at old photos (am equally sure you are being hard on yourself). We could start a grooming programme?

Rachy I hope you don't mind me saying this but I have a different opinion re the surgery. Personally I wouldn't do it, the risks of surgery would be too much despite the psychological benefits (although I am sure you have probably been given low risks but it will be minimum 1% for risk of GA, bleeding & Infection, probably more?). A good friend had similar surgery and was off work for 3 months with complications. She has since put weight back on and so all the surgery was pointless. Obviously complications are rare but is it worth the risk? I probably have a different perspective due to my job. But really I would only advocate surgery when there is absolutely no other option and if there is a medical need.

I hope you don't mind me posting this and I don't want to upset you in anyway. Do you think there's no way exercise will improve things?
Could you learn to live with a bit of a tummy?
I am sure you'll make the right decision for you x

Happy Sunday afternoon everyone

Welcome back pom great to have you back. Glad you had a great week and birthday celebrations.

You did so well on the no sugar, I'm sure those 7 lbs will drop off quickly with the no sugar.

green sorry to hear your feeling down. If you wanna talk off load your thoughts ect please feel free

Back in a bit ds1 and 2 are demanding my attention by jumping on me

pom it's great to hear all perspectives on the surgery. I just feel very fed up all the time and it stems from how I look. I know I should be proud of how much I have lost but just looking in the mirror is blackened by the fact I still have a tummy. Don't get me wrong I don't expect a washboard tum.

I guess I just expected that I would look different (to how I do now). I cannot do anymore at the gym.

Hi,

Green feel free to vent on here. Hormones are dreadful and can really mess with your mental health as well as your physical health. Have you had your thyroid checked? Not to pile on with loads of pseudo-medical knowledge but thyroid problems can be very troublesome and a few people I know with thyroid issues all had similar weight problems ad felt very down. honestly, sometimes it feels like our bodies are out to get us.

Rachey I would love a tummy tuck too and was told I will need one if I want to get my c-section scar sorted (it's a mess). Its 12,000 euros here and will involve a tuck and lipo and if I could be guarenteed the results I want I would go for it. But infection rates and some of the more uneven jobs I have seen really put me off. Have you looked in to non-surgical tummy tucks? I know nothing about them apart from Kim Kardashian sings their praises.

Pom you sound like you had a good half term and 7lbs will be gone in no time. I know what you are saying about passing on bad eating habits, the females in my family definitely did this to me and it's an awful worry to pass on. My kids are still at the age where they see food as fuel but I dread when the self consciousness rears its head and they start to worry. Although I had a woman at my childs school tell me that her son can't fit in the uniform trousers because his waist is so big. I was gobsmacked and felt really sorry for the poor lad. He's very big, but I just thought that health-wise I would be so worried if that was my kid.

My first week at Slimming World went really well. I lost 10.4 lbs. The classes are bloody dreadful but I will continue to go and be weighed, but I will miss out on the torture that is the 90 minute class. 90 minutes! I don't have that sort of time to spend sitting around discussing everyone's diet. My goal is to lose 2 lbs this week as I was out for 3 meals over the weekend and I also had a takeaway .

Omg sol that is amazing well done. You must be very proud of yourself.

I have really looked into it and tummy tuck and lipo is my only option. I'm going to be 35 later this year and I want to enjoy my 40's and 50's looking good and feeling confident.

I spent my 20's being someone that I'm not, drinking for confidence ect and now I feel my weight is more or less under control I need to do something to improve my confidence. I just feel so sad that I did understand what I was doing to my body before it was too late.
£8000 is a huge amount to spend and it makes me feel awful that I'm not considering renovation work on the house or our wedding.

Also yes I am shitting it about the risks as well the thought of ga petrifies me